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I had a friend request a few weeks ago from someone I don't know. Messaged him and asked him how I knew him, got no reply and that account no longer exists.
Had another friend request today from a different person. But it is the same person in the pictures. Different photos, but the same person. Have messaged again and waiting for a reply.
So many things running through my head. My blog is not linked to my Facebook, but not hard to trace I know. Is it somebody that knew Lyanda and is fishing for info? Should I be worried? Any way to find out who it is?
I am friends with a few STWers too. If it is someone from here, I am pretty sure they would have answered and not set up a seperate account to friend request me again.
WWSTWD?
WWMWD?
I'd ignore it and not give it a second thought, which is what i do with any requests from people that i don't recognise on all social media platforms that requires acceptance to follow.
That's what I did the first time, and any other time it has happened. But to have a second request, same person and different name, is a bit odd. That's what's got me wandering, and possibly worrying. I also have the 4 kids to keep safe.
I don't need the worry or stress of it with everything else. I might/probably be over analysing it and it might be something completely stupid. But still.
Ignore, man - prolly some spambot that's picked you twice in a row or something. If it's someone that means anything, they'll be in touch rather than sending friend requests from incognito accounts. 🙂
I don't want to sound like I'm dismissing your concerns and it is certainly odd but If it's someone dicking about or up to something nefarious, they only get any further if you allow them access, so don't. if it's someone genuine but technologically challenged they'll get in touch by some other means in the future and ask why you didn't add them at which point you can explain that you didn't because it all looked a bit weird but that you will now.
Treat it like cold calling and spend as little time as possible on it.
Ignore. If you receive further requests with the same profile I would suggest contacting FB - but they will be useless - or one of the agencies you are, hopefully, now linked into. Too vague for police involvement and they are generally useless with social media stuff.
I always ignore and then block if I can.
Ignore. You don’t recognise the person at the moment so you can just leave the request hanging.
if it is someone important they will send a message.
Don't interact with and delete the request...go ride your bike instead.
What Muppet said, I reckon.
Anyways... you're still with us. Good to see.
How's it going?
Hey woppit
Not going too good tbh. Haven't posted anything here about it, don't want to keep bombarding everyone with my stuff, only so much people will take before getting fed up. Had a really, really tough week. Everything from being alone to crying my eyes out in the middle of town for half an hour when picking up a birthday card for out now 10yo.
Lots of firsts already since what happened. Youngest first day in school, first birthday etc. Really struggling with it all. Still on a waiting list for counselling. Rang the Widowed and Young 24 hour helpline a few times, each time a recording said to leave a message. So still dealing with it all by myself, including helping the kids out.
As far as this friend request goes, I have ignored it. The way my mind is atm, just worrying me, that's all. Just thought I would ask.
Thanks all.
Don't worry about it . It's most likely just a bot
It's be a fake account. I get them semi-regularly.
I'm sure you're not being targetted; I doubt the sender knows anything about you. The first request will have been random, then you probably got the second request because you followed up the first one rather than ignoring it entirely. Do not worry!
It will be a spam bot.
You can make them happen a lot less often by changing your account so it can only be searched by friends of friends.
Gnumas: Anxiety is absolutely a part of the grieving process. That can take the form of anxiety in social situations or fear of the future or simply making more of odd happenings that any other time of your life you'd just brush off as inconsequential.
I dont know if there's any faster way to overcome it other than keep reminding yourself that what you're going through is 100% normal and will in time pass. But it can take months if not years before you start to recognise the person that you were before your loss. In the meantime keep taking it a day at a time and keep talking.
Would it have different pics of the same person though? That's what threw me. Same pics, wouldn't have thought twice, but different ones?
I have had a fb account for years, but literally never used it. Only started using it properly since this happened. Lyanda always updated my account, and she used her account regularly. It has been a steep learning curve using it the past couple of months talking to friends she had on there etc.
I checked all the settings yesterday with help from a friend, again no clue on where to do this. They were all friends only apart from friend requests. Have had a few through STW, so will leave it as is just in case. But will leave this one go.
Only found out the other week you could send gifs through messenger!
If i get a random friend request from someone I don’t know they get blocked instantly, unless it says something like 27 mutual friends which usually means someone i work with.
life is too short to worry about FB.
Life is too short, unfortunately I already know that.
Just to update, the profile is now called Facebook user and all content is unavailable. If anything else crops up I will try to not worry too much about it. Like I said, probably my emotions getting the better of me.
Thanks again.