[Closed] Everyone ok still ?

What's on your mind?

I think we all have those moments every now and then. I usually do the same as you but without the garden bit.

sat in the garden and got drunk

Isn't that the whole purpose of a garden? Plus something, something, geraniums.

Yeah Ton, hope you’re okay.

Have had the odd moment but definitely OK now. Stay sound Ton.

Look after yourself and open up on here if it helps.

Had a properly bad week about a month ago, very dark and bleak. Then suddenly woke up one morning and it had passed.

Weird things, our minds.

Meh

Am taking time away from work just now trying to chill and get bike time.
Old man is in the last stages of prostrate / bone cancer , that combined with getting told I have Glaucoma and not knowing a frigging thing about said glaucoma has made for a pretty shitty last few months.

BUT, the suns out and Golfie is dry, so , you know, life is good 🙂

And I have a garden, and beer !

Funny had a bit of a shit day today, lots of stuff caught up with me.. health, how much my wife actually hates me and had to have me little dog put down last week and he has been my wingman right through covid.

Champion thanks Tony. We’re up in the far north of Scotland on holiday, what’s not to love?

Must be the day for it.
After a long struggle getting my $@#t back together over the last year, lost it today.
Newish boss is showing inexperience and today the result of a deal was not as it should and other work stuff has just taken its toll.
I completely over reacted and acted like a child.
I did later make it known to others I acted a bit wrong. But now just feel down again.

It’s old man day today…
All the ailments are giving me stick and new ones , so need to try see the doc. Beer night tonight and pretend everything is fine just for one more day.
Last week everything WAS fine!
Good luck every people

I hear you @ton, and a good thread to ask.

I'm feeling under pressure with some work stuff, a couple of huge car bills, selling a BTL property I don't want to be Landlord of anymore and is taking months to do, worries for family and more.

I am so looking forward to a fortnight off work and away from the house we have left only by day for the last 18 months.

All good, ton.

Hope you are too!

I agree - I too felt really anxious today for no particular reason. Thankfully I managed to get out for a long run tonight, then home for a few beers and a curry whilst watching the football as the kids went to bed by themselves.

Sorry to hear that Brads

ton - we all have these moments for various reasons - you should be in my head right now ( or maybe not)

I have a distinct misfire upstairs. Can't make decisions and keep on doing daft stuff like running the bath without a plug!

Still get down moments, and now I’m being chased by a collections agency for a PPI claim bill that I have absolutely no recollection of ever having entered into, because it goes against my principles to use 3rd-party organisations, as they siphon off 30% of what’s claimed, and I’d already made a very successful claim through my bank about six-seven years ago! It makes no sense to me that I’d be chasing after a piddling little sum, when in fact I had such a generous payout, I wouldn’t imagine there was anything further to gain.
To be honest, I’d been ignoring them for ages, because I thought they were just very persistent scammers, which I still do, but now they’ve got the collection people involved, while I’m still disputing the whole thing, and doubled the amount, which I’m really pissed off about.
I even went through two years of my bank transactions and I cannot find any payment that matches what they maintain I received.
I’m phoning my account manager tomorrow, and get her on the case, this on top of what’s been going on in my life is just too much. 😣

All good here Ton,slowing down & looking forward to retiring!

Champion thanks Tony. We’re up in the far north of Scotland on holiday, what’s not to love?

Hoping to get up there on my Triumph for a week this Autumn,that's something else I'm looking forward to!

Tip fricking top here. But I have had a few beers watching the footy.

Will certainty not be okay tomorrow morning and I've shed loads of Team meetings first thing. Oh, great joy.

But positive vibes one and all.

Must be the day for it.

Same here. Had a really bad week last week on all fronts then had some slightly positive news on Tuesday. Today though has brought all the negative stuff back up again and added a few things on top of it too just for good measure. Tomorrow's going to be a bad one even if it all goes completely smoothly so I'm hoping Friday will be the start of a good weekend.

Hope everyone else is either in a good place or heading in the right direction.

CZ > check me your email address would you, mate?

I had a bit of a wobbler yesterday as well. This last year I've been through rounds of radiotherapy, chemotherapy and two weeks ago, a six hour surgical procedure to remove Trevor the tumour and around 35cm of my lower bowels. All through this process, my family, friends, colleagues and the wonderful medical professionals who treated me so successfully have commented on my amazing positive attitude.

Yesterday I broke down and burst into tears because the site around my temporary ileostomy (3-6 months with a bag to catch my poop before it's reversed and I can poo normally again), has become infected. A silly little thing, but it just completely overwhelmed me.

Maybe it's relief that it's nearly all behind me now (must stop making bum puns), but I'm feeling more upset and emotional about the whole experience now, than I did when I was at my lowest, sickest point in the middle of the chemo. It's frustrating, I just want it done with, so I can get my life back on track again, but it's difficult to say and think that because I'm well aware of how lucky I've been to come through this pretty much unscathed when the outcome could very easily have been much worse.

Apologies for the self-pitying ramble. I am actually feeling a bit better today.

C.

First day back at the WFH desk in a while and now my back is raging. Company seems to be under the impression that DSE regs don't apply at home.

I can see me spending less and less time at work.

That sucks @beagleboy but good to hear you're feeling a bit better today.

most of you lot have far more serious stuff to deal with than i do.

sorry for my moan.

keep well everyone.

First day back at the WFH desk in a while and now my back is raging. Company seems to be under the impression that DSE regs don’t apply at home.

It absolutely fl*pping does. They should be demanding a DSE self assessment from you for their files.
We cant go back to the office cause everyone's taken their chairs home!

cant mess about with your physical health, you could be having words. If they wont entertain it can you just buy what you need and stick it on expenses, with a note reminding them that the HSE contact details are readily available and if they come in to review one thing they start looking at everything else while they are at it?

Compared to what others are going through on here my issues are very trivial, but my anxiety has been getting worse, I suffered my first panic attack in a while on Tuesday night over something that all of you will think is utterly pathetic. Took me most of yesterday to get over it. I’m having online group cbt which isn’t the best (but better than nowt) and I’m actually going to have my first (private) hypnotherapy session next week, I’m going in with an open mind and if it works then great!

TJ (and others) you’ve got a great load of friends here for you, please don’t suffer in silence

Cheers tjagain.

I've nothing major going on, but with my industry on its knees and no real work for 15 months now, I struggle for motivation some days. My cycling is almost non-existent for no real reason.

While undeniably small fry in comparison, I'm currently anticipating being Dear John'd by the girl I've been seeing which will rather piss me off as she's actually really cool and I'm starting to really like her 🙁

I put a thread up a couple of days ago about my current stuff.

I got out on my road bike last night, and didn't finish the ride feeling ruined, so I felt fairly positive after.

I can feel it all building back up again today though.

TJ (and others) you’ve got a great load of friends here for you, please don’t suffer in silence

Ta houns. I will and am doing so and I have plans to use STWers to help me recover later on

Good, I know how hard it is to talk/type messages at times, it can be a real effort. We all love you TJ and will do owt for you

@Houns thats the thing with panic attacks though, some people I deal with people look back and think WTF, that was over something really trivial usually.

Makes it even odder! But, realising that can be a big help.

Hypnotherapy can do wonders but it takes a few sessions to start seeing/noticing any changes, hopefully that will help improve things for you.

Remember it doesn't matter how small the thing is that sets you off, if it gets to you it gets to you just the same.

Sick dog, new job stress, essentially been in the same village for about 15 months now with relatively little time elsewhere, haven't seen the sea since September last year, for some reason the sea helps my emotional state, once we are all gone, the tide will still come and go.

It's been a fraught week, I hadn't even really realised it's Thursday, the days have been flying by.

I've probably cried more since getting a dog than I have over the last 30 years, if you do get one, don't get one that's going to be sick and break your heart on as regular a basis as it can!

Oh, and then there's the beer allergy taking at least one pleasure away right now.

Ton, TJ, everyone else, hope you are all able to rely on someone you can talk to or somewhere you can go to reset and relax.

Glad it's not just me - you look around and folks all seem to be putting the last year behind them and kickstarting their lives again while I feel stuck in limbo, Just typed a load of rubbish but it's really all just first world problems and I need a kick up the ass. Keep talking people - I haven't posted in ages but I still visit when I need a shot of reality and virtual support. Sending hugs to you all - stay strong, we're nearly there . . . wherever there is . . . xx

Been on 'happy pills' for about 6 weeks. Fortunately these seem relatively OK once the side effects died down (Escitalopram). Only on going side effect is feeling wiped out in the mornings - real effort to get up with them, and then only OK once I've had two coffees. Seems to be working as they are lifting my mood and stopping me getting irritated by stuff - work, family, lockdown.

Lost 6kg on them as I've cut drinking right down too !

I’ve probably cried more since getting a dog than I have over the last 30 years, if you do get one, don’t get one that’s going to be sick and break your heart on as regular a basis as it can!

Sorry to hear that. I'm living with a 4 1/2 month old WCS and it's been really stressful.

Sorry to hear the bad news stories in here I hope you all see an improvement and stay well. which make me feel bad posting this but...

Two weeks ago I was very down, would have been happy to jack in the job immediately, very stressful time at work, no relative success riding bike to any degree of credibility. Costs are mounting up, a UK family holiday, Car needs a service, Car VED, a Payment for Juniors school trip and an HMRC bill to pay all coming at once.

This week, I've closed the biggest deal I've ever done. I get paid a retention payment tomorrow which is more than twice what I need to pay the above. The Big Deal will pay me handsomely at the end of July and things at work have been better than before. Junior is flagged as a star pupil and my on-bike performance is going up.

Yet, I feel pretty flat and unhappy.

Had a properly bad week about a month ago, very dark and bleak. Then suddenly woke up one morning and it had passed.

Weird things, our minds.

This I guess, I've no idea why I feel so bad as I have no right to.

Minds are indeed weird. I feel OK but clearly something is misfiring. today I nearly left the flat with the door wide open. I also unlocked my bike from the lamppost and walked away from it. But I feel fine.