[Closed] Dumped 🙁

emsz...there's nothing weird about all that shit. 😉

I found out an ex (living with at the time) was stealing money from me to finance a coke habit she had developed. She would nick my cash card and just help herself. She couldn't hold down a job and contributed nothing to the household which grated as money was really tight at the time. When I'd had enough and finished it; I had to listen to her tell me what a arsehole I was for dumping her!
She got a spare key cut and started sneaking in the house and carried on stealing money! I don't like to wish bad things on anyone but it's pretty hard not to sometimes. No doubt she's terrorizing some other poor bastard now.

emsz, get your brother to log on here, I'm sure he'd fit right in 🙂

Pretty tame but,

Worst way I've dumped someone, 'You're a psycho and I've got back with my ex anyways' She turned up at my doorstep pissed and went mental, so I guess I was right.

Worst way I've been dumped, swapping phones with said ex from above, as mine had satnav on it, and discovering texts from her new man on it.

What comes around goes around I guess. Although this one did have a silver lining, in that I asked her what happens to the house we've just bought and all of the things we've accumulated over the last few years? She said 'you can keep it all' I've held her to that 😈

Probably the ex-wife.
12 months of rockyness and threats of divorce....resulting in me moving out 5 or 6 times (or being kicked out....not sure which) then the last time was the straw that broke the camel's back and I didn't move back in.

It was all my fault etc etc, I was a bastard etc etc because I wouldn't move back in with someone who, to cut a long story short, wanted everything on her terms without giving anything back.

That was 16 months ago. I go to court next month.

Hopefully, there will be end in sight!

Lemme see... Got dumped by one gf two weeks before finals at uni. She'd driven up to my place for the weekend, but told me that we'd never been more than friends that slept together. She left, I went to the bar and drank, getting very emotional when the bar manager refused to sell me any more tequila.

Another gf had gone back to France and we'd arranged to meet up in London before coming back to my place. I travel the 100+ miles into London to go get her from the station. She's a bit distant, but I put that down to having to use a train. Anyway, after a night of no intimate contact at my Mate's place in West London (odd...) and a trip back home, she's still distant. Weekend is a washout and she goes back to France. I later find out that she'd got together with someone else three days before the visit and it was too late to cancel it. Nice.

I'm not even going to go into my divorce.

Crikes, some tales here..

I've never been dumped. I have been the dump'ee though.

Have to be honest, tell them honestly you don't love them anymore, sounds simple I know but if you bring that word Love into the sentance and pre empt it with "I don't" etc. it seems to work quite well enough.

I do have a story though.. (not me I hasten to add)

So a friend of mine was seeing someone who lived in Germany whilst she lived in the UK. Ok, so 10years of a non committal relationship instigated by the he the “German friend” and my UK friend was getting to the point of “we really need to do something about this relationship” moment,.. So they decided to ditch everything and work at a retreat in South America (tourist hotspot for travellers the dream come true you could say).. UK friend sells house etc., German doesn’t.. they get out there and… yup you guessed it, the German friend decides after 3 days that this new venture isn’t for him and promptly catches a plane back to Germany without telling my UK friend they’d gone. Mucho angst and desperation ensued, new country, doesn’t speako da lingo etc. and 15 days later a letter arrives. It wasn’t a “dear john” letter just a note saying he’d met someone and had been seeing them for a couple of years before (cheating SOB type stuff) and that was it.. or so my UK friend thought. 7mths later the German friend flew back to the retreat to see if my UK friend was still there (she was BTW) and they patched things up (yeah… I know!!) They decided to finish off at the retreat and head back “home” and get it together. You know the rest don’t you.. yeah you do.. They’re at the airport, he walks through the departures to Germany, she walks through to Heathrow.. .She spots a girl who looked rather suspicious hanging around he walked upto her and hugged her.. My UK friend almost died on the spot.. Back in the UK and shes getting it back together herself and guess what, German friend turns up again… so again they patch it up (you’re killing yourself at this point I know, I can hear you laughing) and once again they “try” so off to Germany she trotts to be met at the airport by the German fellas new GF.. … and him.
Dumped.. well and truly. Some say she ought to have read the signs 10years back..
Thankfully shes quite level headed old soul and is vey happy in her new relationship.

Dumped a couple by text, told another I moved to Fort William but she said she'd come and visit me so then I told her I'd moved to France.

Worst dumping for me was a girlfriend who went to Aberdeen for the weekend and came back on the Sunday engaged to a guy she just met on the Friday night. Without knowing this I went to see her and she told me the news then suddenly attacked me with a cordless phone and started battering me with it for no reason 😕

Years later she found me on Facebook and from what I can tell she's still single, with 5 kids to 4 different fathers. Deep psychological issues in hindsight. Bullet dodged.

Good thread. Put a smile on my face. Cheers all.

I found out an ex (living with at the time) was stealing money from me to finance a coke habit she had developed. She would nick my cash card and just help herself. She couldn't hold down a job and contributed nothing to the household which grated as money was really tight at the time. When I'd had enough and finished it; I had to listen to her tell me what a arsehole I was for dumping her!
She got a spare key cut and started sneaking in the house and carried on stealing money! I don't like to wish bad things on anyone but it's pretty hard not to sometimes. No doubt she's terrorizing some other poor bastard now.

i had one a bit like that but we used to sell our selves for the stuff, that one will never be out of my life. Girlfreinds going to her mothers later so must go see her 🙂

i had one a bit like that but we used to sell our selves for the stuff

I've never had a girlfriend but when I get one I'm going to dump her so bad it'll put all of you to shame.

Even Kit.

"i had one a bit like that but we used to sell our selves for the stuff"

This thread will be on the lunchtime news by tomorrow!

I couldn't possibly tell you. It makes my alter-ego look like a completley heartless b'stard...

The Southern Yeti - Member

I've never had a girlfriend but when I get one I'm going to dump her so bad it'll put all of you to shame.

Even Kit

Why?

Sammie-Louise x

The Southern Yeti - Member
I've never had a girlfriend but when I get one I'm going to dump her so bad it'll put all of you to shame.

give me £250 and you can go out with me for the day and then dump me 🙂

I don't think you're actually a girl though. Plus, if I'm going to drink from that challice I want it to be with emsz.

Emsz - e-mail in profile x x

been seperately dumped through...
-facebook
-email
-text

hopefully not G+ next!

Hans - go out with me and I'll dump you publicly on here if you like?

I could even post a video of our night together?

Back in the days before mobile phones, a mate at Uni went to the phone box to dump his girlfriend of 5 years back home for a new girl (now his Wife). He explained the situation (apart form the new bird bit), its him not her, its not an easy decision, things not working out etc etc. Then he finished off with, "got to go, my 10p is running out".

Still called `Ten Pence' Thomas to this day.

Brave words fella.

Why?

No comment.

Anyhew, you'll find "the right one" TSY. Man or woman.

southern yeti? Did you study product, furniture or graphic design? Fine art? If you did, by my experience you are a nutterbutter and windowlicker by trade and I'd run a mile. Girls who studied at Psalter Lane, Sheff and/or Design Academy, Eindhoven are properly bonkers.

I'm now seeing a finnish engineer (straight talking, no BS). Happy days

Come on Kit... it might be cathartic.

On a serious note I've always found that the nicest and most mature way to split up with someone is to act like a fin de cloche with increasing temerity until they realise I'm not the one.

Sheff...as in Sheffield... this could be your lucky day.

I've never done a dodgy dump. However, friend at uni was going out with a girl for a while but not getting anywhere in baseball so he decided to dump her. He knocks at her door and when she invites him he says "I'm afraid I'm not coming in because you're dumped!" promptly walking off. He's the type of guy who can't really afford to be too fussy though so quite a surprising action on his part....

Craigxxl - your story put a smile to my face, you're very trusting!

I managed to put my ex gf into therapy when I dumped her. Not proud of it, though.

If I got hold of you'd you'd have to call the firemen in to release you from the sex swing and manacles 8)

I dumped my ex and the first that she knew about it was when she returned from Christmas break and found me with another girl in a club. Oops. The girl in the club is mrshora 😀

A previous ex dumped me and I asked if she could drop me off at the local Student club. She agreed then popped in later (changed her mind) to find me getting off with my sisters best friend after I'd given her a sob-story) 😆

I broke up with my long term girlfriend during a holiday in Centre Parcs in the lake District. (yes, that is how to have a crap holiday in the Lakes - Centre Parcs, not with my ex).

Anyway, I just couldn't bare to be in our relationship any more so I ended it in the chalet.

Biggest issue was the 7 hour car drive back to Cardiff. Talk about uncomfortable. All my mates took the piss out of me for not waiting until we were back home. (to be fair to them it was after the dust had settled and the tears had dried up).

I don't know which is worse. Dumping or being dumped.

I want to end it with the girl I'm seeing at the moment but I'm too much of a coward - especially after doing the face to face thing 2 years ago with my ex. It damn near ruined me.

I'm thinking that being a crap boyf and letting her dump me is the best compromise!

I dumped a girlfirend after exactly a year cos I thought I ought to be "living the life" a bit.
I did for 2 weeks, then went crawling back to her cos I missed her too much. It took a while but she took me back.

We got married 4 years later.

That was 10 years ago 🙂

all lived happily ever after.

(except for the little itchy bug I picked up in those 2 weeks...)

A mate was going to Spain with his girlfriend for a fortnight. As the plane was taking off she burst into tears and told him she'd got back with her ex a couple of days before 😯 Apparently it was a long two weeks. 😆

Ouch, but I'd see that as an opportunity to woo her/bang her rotten then dump her at the airport arrivals back in the UK 😉

"got to go, my 10p is running out".

****in LOL! Genius... absolute genius.

Sammie-L, I'm a one girl at a time sort of chick I'm afraid...

Yeti, as I think I may have mentioned before, the chances of you ****ing me are about as likely as you becoming a moderator of this dump.

Deadly, I know blokes are weird, but your own sisters knickers..? Really?

feel i have to add this. The girl that works for me is due to give birth in two weeks on Monday her boyfriend told her he doesn't want to be with her anymore and asked her to leave she went to her mums who never let her in and she is now staying at her grans

Hora you are/were a slag! Very mean.

Gman, if the baby is his he will regret that decision til the day he dies I spect, nasty twonk.

Emma82 I know. We stop moving when we are dead and no one awards lifetime sexual moral awards in the retirement home.

Nowadays **** who you want but keep it strictly under the counter 😀

Let me guess, hora - you're single...

(and no, that's not an offer!)

Rachel

Why hello! Pics, how good are you, when were you last serviced? Lubed after every ride? Email in profile.

Joke! No I'm not single but I bet your lovely (most people that I've met in person from stw are) 😀

Lol, in other words if it stops still long enough, you'll do it 😀

On this subject I don't want to come across as boorish. I'm in this territory now. On my comment 'most' funnily the people I didn't get on with on the forum I've actually liked in person, others are gems. Pook is actually a top bloke as podge etc will agree. He deserves some sort of award.

She said I'll call you when I get back from Argentina, I'm still waiting. 😆

Boorish? About having sex with everything or meeting people? I never really know what boorish means?

The way I'm coming across on topic.

Get me in the pub over a pint and I will shock and make you laugh in equal measure. (-m not always proud or pleased with myself)

That's true of most people on here - people are mice nicer in reality!!

One of those people who you laugh out loud at then the conscience kicks in an you go 'ohhhhh that's bad' . Bless, I think everyone is a bit like that after a pint. Your just being honest, not boorish. Nothing wrong with that.

Well Hora, you have made me smile, tales of the sort of things many of us did in our youth. Looking back they were funny but some things do hurt at the time I'm sure.

My worst one, which I'll admit I have done a few times is pulling the patented "Spen Escape", over reacting over the slightest thing to provoke a response and then exclaiming "Right, I'm sick of this, I'm out of here, we're done".

But that's when I was younger and I am not proud.

Hora

Does this thread signal the return of your inimitable self on a more regular basis. I've quite missed your often bizarre postings to brighten things up 😉

Woody - Member

Hora

Does this thread signal the return of your inimitable self on a more regular basis. I've quite missed your often bizarre postings to brighten things up

Rick Stein in Spain ROCKS!

Lol

split from my first wife not long after moving to leeds (she was going to join me)and instead of going home one friday night as normal i called her to say that i had got a ticket to see leeds v arsenal so wouldn't be back until next week.

She said that if i didn't come home that weekend don't bother coming home ever again.

Worst thing was we drew 1 - 1. Jimmy Floyd Hasselbank equalised late on to spoil my weekend!

oh and i never spoke to her again, and eventually got divorced. Got loads of biking done though!

Around 6 weeks after we were married, MrsMM V1.0 turned around and suggested 'we'd' made a mistake.
Spent 12 months trying to make it work, ended in amicable divorce, hurt like hell at the time...
Took me 12 months to get my head outta my arse then, first night out when I felt 'back to normal', not even looking for a 'meaningful overnight relationship' and I meet the lady who became the current MrsMM... 🙂

My Ex was going to Goa with her sister, She was so disorganised I had to to some very fast driving to get her to the station in time for her train. I told her on the platform that we wouldn't be seeing each other when she got back. I stood and watched her train leave, she was in tears.

Right decision
There is no good way or good time.
Still not a great experience.

This thread makes me happy for some of the mistakes I've made.

Done the text thing, done the email thing, done the tell her mates thing.

Worst one still has to be telling an ex (who's now married and babied) who was a 100% strict 'no sex before marriage' after 2 years that I was 'sick of this and its going nowhere' and that we were done...in the middle of writing up her PhD...and her first serious relation ship...and after being a support for the whole of her research...Then promptly hooked up with her best mate a week later....who I'm still with 7 years later....ouch.

Not proud of that.

I think you deserve some sort of medal for 'lasting' 2 years 😯

Excessive mastrubation and it was the sex part nothing else...so wasn't _all_ bad.

I think you deserve some sort of medal for 'lasting' 2 years

marsdenman, wasn't a local girl called Claire was it?

anothergit - just get it done.
split with my GF in january. she finally moved out 2 weeks ago. to say it's a relief is something of an understatement.

Breaking up is awful. This is probably contentious but (for us guys) it can be just as hard being the instigator.

I've always said if your dumped get out there ASAP. Don't sit at home listening to crappy CD's and thinking lifes crap.

You aint getting any rewards at the Pearly gates for grieving someone leaving you.

anothergit - nice to see you contributing, I thought desperategit would have enjoyed this thread too.

If you've all missed Hora so much, you can go to the pub with him tonight instead of me, and listen to him making inappropriate remarks all night at owt with a pulse.

He's actually worse in real life than he is on here. Just think about that!

🙄

I'm actually convinced your channeling him from beyond the grave:

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I try not to get distracted but when you are in a art gallery surrounded by beautiful paintings you can not but look no? 8)

Its the cutting them out of the frames, rolling them up and shoving them down your trousers that concerns me 😉

So did Hora dump you too, binners? 😉

He does it frequently. Casts me aside like a used condom. Whenever its his round

Had to end it last year with a girl i'd lived with for 5 years, who had moved from another country to live with me. Horrendous thing to do but 100% the right decision, it just wasn't fair to keep her here and waste her time.

Needless to say, she took it VERY badly.

You know in Terminator 1 when he walks into a bar and has a headsup display of everyone? That's like me in a bar. I grade all the girls and I mean ALL automatically.

A lot of guys do this mentally. A sort of mental maths subconsciously.

ah yes hora, that's a normal ability. there was a study a while back monitoring eye positions to see where people subconsciously look, when they see a member of the opposite sex (regardless of age or looks)

Men will automatically check out a ladies jumper bunnies and bottom

Women will automatically check out a chaps bottom and gentleman's vegetables.

From memory that behavior was more pronounced in single sex groups.

so next time you walk into a pub and think "oooo hello ladies" they have already checked out like a piece of meat! 😆

he's right, you know...

🙂

In the pub tonight with binners I even graded the lovely old Spanish bird who was flirting with us 8)

lol @ The Hora & Binners Show