[Closed] Do you ever leave a night out without saying goodbye?

Hell yeah.

Ghosting or French leave Irish goodbye.

Its the best way.

Haha, aye all the time. Normally via the pizza shop.. self preservation kicks in and I just **** off home with a lod of bait. I think it’s a good thing TBH! Obviously wouldn’t do it if only 3 or 4 of us out.

Follow it up by not turning up for work on Monday or answering your mobile. They'll be dragging the local canal by lunchtime.

Not that I can remember.

At least your lot would have had plenty to talk about after you'd disappeared and if the police didn't come to find you they obviously didn't give a sh1t anyway. Enjoy work tomorrow...

Not since I met the wife.

Its the best way.

same here, my preferred method of leaving. if you say bye youll just get a load of "nooooooo you cant go yeeeeeet!! lightweight lightweight lightweight!" no matter what time it is, so best to just slip off for that drunken kebab and taxi.

next day nobody can remember anyway.....
"what time did you leave? cant remember much"
"cant remember what time it was, bout same time as you i reckon"

end of conversation, same again next time.

In a work situation I'd just walk off at any moment without a thought.
If it was mates I'd at least tell one person that i'd had enough and not to worry about me.

For larger parties, I prefer to slip out to avoid the "don't go... have another" conversations. For smaller groups I'll let someone know I've gone or say goodbye properly.

Hell, I usually just skip the middle bit and can't be arsed to start the night in the first place.

For larger parties, I prefer to slip out to avoid the “don’t go… have another” conversations. For smaller groups I’ll let someone know I’ve gone or say goodbye properly.

Same.

That’s my default way of leaving. A small group I’ll likely say goodbye but anything big enough for the group to be split into smaller groups I just leave. As said above, no-one remembers when people leave anyway. My work do this week and I’ll be astonished if I say goodbye to anyone.

Drop the shoulder, grab some food, taxi home.... It's my standard method of leaving!

Rule number one:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Rule number two:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Rule number three:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Just go out and get trashed with people you actually like. Why anyone feels the need to discard this basic rule just because it’s december is totally beyond me

Houdini? Whenever possible. No one gives a shit or remembers anyway.

Rule number one:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Rule number two:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Rule number three:
Never go out drinking with people you work with

Just go out and get trashed with people you actually like. Why anyone feels the need to discard this basic rule just because it’s december is totally beyond me

Alternatively, make sure you work with people you actually like and get on with and enjoy spending time with be it professionally or socially.

some of my best times (that I can remember) have been with the folk I used to work with. It became a bit rubbish towards the end mind you and I started not going to paid for Christmas dos - prefer with my MTB mates - but in the early days, hell yeah they're good days & nights.

I try not to go to a after work thing in the first place. 8.5hrs a day with them is enough

Alternatively, make sure you work with people you actually like and get on with and enjoy spending time with be it professionally or socially.

Not pisstaking but how many times does this actually happen?
I think for most people work and pleasure are two totally seperate things.
I can be perfectly pleasant to them in a work situation but I'm a bit more selective on who I'd chose to go out on the piss with.

Thanks guys, made me feel a bit better. Maybe you're right binners... but with work picking up the bill for a meal, entertainment and drinks it's hard to say no... Who passes up a free night out?? 🤷🏻‍♂️

Who passes up a free night out?? 🤷🏻‍♂️

Loads of people if it's with a bunch of ****s.
Life's short enough as it is without having to go out with people that aren't proper mates.

I did just that at my works do on Friday night. I was 100%cut.
I enjoy a good works do,with people I like & respect.We have a select bunch 😉 and most of them the other day were retired or made redundant.gits.

Who passes up a free night out?

Me

I’m 48 years old and i’ve never been on a Christmas do in my life.

I’d rather remove my own kidneys with a teaspoon

We tend to go out all the time during the other eleven months of the year, but we become recluses in December because I’ve little patience for Amateur drinkers

Left the restaurant about 11.45

Another 15 minutes and you’d have done a Dexy.

Rule number 4: never work with people you go out drinking with 😋

Sometimes a discreet disappearance mid to late evening is the best whether with mates or colleagues.

On occasion in the past I've left a works xmas do early and staggered 3 miles home to walk in just as the 6 o'clock news is finishing. Very disorienting 🙂 Not so much these days though…

I used to be the one telling people to stay and taking the hardcore few on to a club, and sometimes then an after club.

Did work with a really cool bunch of people, when I look back.

Yep, I've done that a fair few times (generally only on work nights out).

Treat em mean,
Keep em keen.

Yip, however depends on who I’m out with.

Going back nearly 20 years ago now, we used to have great work nights out. Was fortunate to work somewhere where everyone genuinely liked one another , from the boss down to the apprentices and everyone went out on a works do . I think every time it ended up with me, the apprentice and the admin lady left at the end of the evening , in a nightclub with just enough left in the kitty for a kebab and a taxi to each of our respective homes. Quality times

Yep, I'm always one of the first to leave as I don't like late nights, so just go when everyone else is busy chatting away. Left a hockey club do last night and only person I said I was leaving to was the wife, she rocked up home a few hours later whilst I was asleep.

same here, my preferred method of leaving. if you say bye youll just get a load of “nooooooo you cant go yeeeeeet!! lightweight lightweight lightweight!” no matter what time it is, so best to just slip off for that drunken kebab and taxi.

This, my mates are cool, we were out yesterday from 2pm till about 9/10pm
I drank 3 pints, was pished, so drank cokes for a bit, felt less pished, had another pint and headed home which meant I was home early enough to hang out with the wife for a bit and sober enough to get up at 7am and take Miss Jay to see Father Christmas today. That’s a win win for me.

Next week is the office party, they’re good lads but the boss is like the above, almost pushing booze down you and calling you all sorts if you try to go - best to ghost it.

Yeah done it loads of times. The lull of a kebab becomes too strong.

We call it; putting on the purple suit.

It’s easy to get away if you don’t go in the first place. I’m 53 now and still haven’t been on a works Christmas do.

Helps that I have a good excuse ‘sorry, i’m Driving’

If you really feel guilty you can send a text asking someone where they all went to? If everyone was drunk and no one messaged or called you then you can play the abandoned card. If they say they told you, you can say you can’t remember that bit of the night so it was probably a lucky escape

Frequently, I have deep seated psychological issues with saying goodbye.
More often than not though I'm the last man standing so not an issue.

Often. Nothing worse than having to leave drunken mates when they're all like "nooo don't go, stay, have one more". Feel like a bloody 5 year old when your parents make you go round and say goodbye to everyone, forget that. I'm an adult. I can run off without saying goodbye if I want to.

Ghosting or French leave Irish goodbye.

Or "filer a l'anglais" as it's called in France. Just seems rude to me.

Just seems rude to me.

It is a bit, but no one thinks it's rude to nag, moan and beg you to stay when you want to leave, or mildly insult you for being boring, lightweight or whatever.

For me, the Social Hostage situation came before the plan to escape it.

leaving a night out? like the same night? Not sure I even understand the concept.

I do it every year on the works Xmas do. I like the people I work with but it can be socially awkward drinking with them. Last year, after the meal, we went to some trendy bar, I held the door open for everyone to go in, then let it shut behind them and went and had a couple in Spoons on my own before going home. I'll be doing a similar thing on Thursday evening...

Every time I have a work do. It's almost a point of pride that people never see me leave.

I always tell one person I am leaving so no one worries but yes I avoid the big leaving scene

Yep, survival mode kicks in and I usually run home, sometimes more successfully than others.I now try to avoid all work dos, apart from maybe the odd meal.

Had a friend who vanished on one Christmas outing, no one could get hold of him. Turns out he just walked home, but he lived over 18 miles from the venue, It took him 8 hours to walk it.

I do as well, I have a self activating homing beacon that usually goes off after the second post meal pub

Lots. Even did it to the missus once, took a while to get that one chalked off. Still gets brought up now and again and it must be 10 years ago.
RM.

lol.
Not too bad this morning, seems no one g.a.s. People were more caught up in their own drunken embarrassment which apparently included one lass dancing on a table! and another spilling red wine all over a stranger.

I always set my stall out early by priming people that I need to get the last train home which is usually around 11pm. Just get up when I’ve had enough and announce that i have to go and catch my train.
A taxi home from Glasgow, which is invariably where nights out are held, can be fifty quid if you can find a driver prepared to take you at all.
No works night out is worth paying that for.

Never go out drinking with people you work with

Just go out and get trashed with people you actually like.

I like all my colleagues and am good mates with a few, who I meet socially. One is a handy cyclist too.

Although it's annoying when a mate does it (unfortunately it never occurs to me to stop drinking and go home early), it's only wrong if it's your round when you sneak off.

Luckily, unlike some of the grumpy sods on here I genuinely like the guys in my team and class most of them as actual mates so I don't mind work dos if they're going. I'm not very good at staying out once I've had enough though these days; when I'm done, I'm done and it's home time for me. I usually say bye though.

One of my friends is a nightmare for vanishing on a night out though - best one was when he ran off in a drunken huff because a casino refused to let myself and another chap in for being too drunk.

Had a friend who vanished on one Christmas outing, no one could get hold of him. Turns out he just walked home, but he lived over 18 miles from the venue, It took him 8 hours to walk it.

Do you work with my brother-in-law?

I'm firmly in the 'don't go out in the first place' camp.

Yeah loads of times

Don't feel bad about it.

If that's the worst thing you do when drunk, I reckon that's blooming good.

Me, at my last “beer out with the office crowd”

Absolutely all the time. It’s known as ‘ducking’ amongst us and it has become a fine art to slip away unnoticed... special kudos to the first to duck, usually involves pretending to go for a piss then diving out the door, but the best one is pretending your going to get a round in but never come back! They’re all waiting for their drinks then it suddenly dawns on them... 😀

Yep, I've even planned my out for Friday. I'll get my drinks in and while the barstaff are handing them over sneak out.

They all know I've got a first aid course so no issues otherwise I'd ghost it.

never done that.
manners cost nothing.

Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold;
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.

Time for a taxi. Who knows whether I said bye bye?

Always say goodbye to someone, I'm old enough to not be embarrassed about it any more. I sometimes wish I'd stayed until I discover the mess people got in to the next day 🙂

Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold;
Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
The best lack all conviction, while the worst
Are full of passionate intensity.

Time for a taxi. Who knows whether I said bye bye?

Theresa? Is that you?

I do it frequently. I'll hit the limiter and homing instinct takes over. It's become my signature move over the years, to a point where people are more surprised if I'm still around at closing time if it's been a big night.

They refer to it as donning my 'invisibility cloak'

You can always do a David Caruso

Not good manners but not as impolite as leaving for the walk of shame the morning after without saying goodbye.

More often than not though I’m the last man standing so not an issue.

And he's done it again!