[Closed] Do you discuss death with loved ones?

Liz?

My kids have already divided up my bikes.

Yes, life death, religions, afterlife, re-incarnations, we speculate as to what it's all about and have pretty much come to the conclusion we're all here as a punishment for some crime in an alternative existence.

Yes to a certain extent. Practical stuff like method of disposal. Just as well really as where my wife assumed I wanted to be scattered was totally the wrong place.

I expressed interest in a sky burial on Kinder Scout, but I don't think Peak Park would be keen.

Yes, I told the mrs I'd murder her if she doesn't put the used tea bags in the bin..

We both agree cheapest cremation possible With No religious content at all or flowers - I hate the waste of money . then ashes scattered on our favourite hill .

I've made my nearest and dearest aware: Viking longship, on fire out out to sea, me in full armour, music from the terminator played loud

We've decided that our ashes are to be scattered on Lake Garda as that is where we honeymooned, this means that the surviving spouse gets a nice holiday soon after losing their partner.
With my extended family we're very open about death as my father passed on due to cancer a few years ago. I went to see my mum as she has recently contracted cancer, again :o(, and she gave a big long document detailing who's getting what, what she wants to happen, who's executor of her will, songs for the funeral and that she wants me to give the Eulogy, in pref to my siblings. She's going through chemo at the mo so fingers crossed I won't have to use it for a while.

No. But I think about murder a lot. Anyone fancy a bike ride to this nice rural location I know?

Wouldn't be recommended to discuss my demise with my 4 & 8 year old daughters just yet...

Yes, rather often but nothing to worry me that much.

[b]If I can die naturally or peacefully today I will and will be very happy to oblige.[/b] Shite life so far but I must Not intentionally harm myself to death nor not try my best to live, but dying immediately and naturally in peace, yes, I would love to NOW!

My body (shell) can be fed to the crocodiles, use as fertiliser, feed it to maggots (not the zombie type), harvest for parts, hang, drawn and quartered for amusement, I don't care ... have a party if the ones left behind wish.

However, if you were to die you need to remember this:

1. Be very happy at the immediate moment you are dying.
2. Don't not attach yourself or give concern to the living or your material possessions. (empty your thoughts)
3. Smile. You are free!

🙂

Yes it's important especially for those that are left. But as loddrick says, age needs to be take into account.

I traumatised my young son at an early stage many years ago, by saying that I would protect him from a lion if it was in the garden. The idea of his father being killed was more troubling than him being eaten. He has grown up to see sense now!!!!

Wailing time kept to a minimum.

As the OP has saved so much money by not buying any tat over the years, I imagine that there will most likely be lots of wailing and moaning ,about who gets how much.

No bunches of flowers on the side of the road etc. I promise you - that won't have been the site of my favourite memories.

Nope, she doesn't do death well and it stresses her out if we discuss it.

Yeah,why not ? We're born,we live, we die.
The missus has already "spent" her winnings for when I peg out, and my daughter is chuffed with her future share, but they do seem to still want me around.
I think in the Protestant West we're far too scared to talk about death. I blame the doctors. They've turned it into a dirty word.

"Death is not the end! It is the beginning!"

Talking and sharing are good things, just try to keep some perspective.

GF met some weird Indian guy at a bar recently. he proceeded to read her palm.... now i would normally scoff at such things but some of what he said was a bit creepy. he said she had a chronic disease (true), was in a long-term relationship (true, 12 years), had an older sibling (true) and was a vegetarian (true). he also said that i was going to die long before her. great.

got me thinking.

never feared the idea of dying. in fact i quite like the idea. boom. finished. end of. no dribbling into my dinner at a nursing home. no more tax returns. no pensions to worry about. no more saying goodbye.

Death is not the end! It is the beginning!"

Talking and sharing are good things, just try to keep some perspective.

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alpin - Member
... he also said that i was going to die long before her. great.

Well, she could be living beyond 90 year old and you might reach 80 year old plus, so an approximate 10 year gap between two can be considered long before one another.

got me thinking.

never feared the idea of dying. in fact i quite like the idea. boom. finished. end of. no dribbling into my dinner at a nursing home. no more tax returns. no pensions to worry about. no more saying goodbye.

The only time you fear death is the moment you have not lived an honest life. i.e. cause suffering to others while living.

Well, the one who has died has begun their death and whatever that entails for you.

And, for those affected by the death of their nearest and dearest, it's the beginning of their life which will undoubtedly be different.

The quote came from the LOTR film from Gandalf as he returned all in white. Whether it was an original line from Tolkien, I couldn't say and don't have a copy to hand to check. But I liked it.

Bit more lateral thinking from the back please 😉

Although "vegetable patch" did cause a giggle.

The quote came from the LOTR film from Gandalf as he returned all in white

i.e. cause suffering to others while living.

f'em.

🙄

slowoldman & suburbanreube,

Will you die today if you can die peacefully without worry?

I mean The End. Nothing. Carbon.

But then let others have your "shell" for amusement like weapon testing or maggot farm experiment for forensic science ❓

alpin - Member

f'em.

Does that mean your ex-body can be used for amusement?

I'd rather no die today thanks. Peaceful or otherwise. I may be old and slow but not yet terminally so.

slowoldman - Member

I'd rather no die today thanks. Peaceful or otherwise. I may be old and slow but not yet terminally so.

But then let others have your "shell" for amusement like weapon testing or maggot farm experiment for forensic science

Answer to question 2 if you die in future?

Practical Tip #

Do a will, do it properly (* keep it up to date - marriage etc), make sure those involved know the will and are briefed and are aware of where everything is (accounts, specials, etc etc)

*edit - I was fully briefed, it did make it easier.

I guess I wouldn't like the option of weapons testing but that's down to my view of weapons rather than the use of my body afterwards. Maggot farm experiment I've never really thought about but it's probably a reasonable way to recycle the atoms. I still prefer my idea of sky burial.

towzer - Member

Practical Tip #

Do a will, do it properly (* keep it up to date marriage etc), make sure those involved know the will and are briefed and are aware of where everything is (accounts, specials, etc etc)

😯 I will donate my bikes to STW for thrashing.

slowoldman - Member

I guess I wouldn't like the option of weapons testing but that's down to my view of weapons rather than the use of my body afterwards. Maggot farm experiment I've never really thought about but it's probably a reasonable way to recycle the atoms. I still prefer my idea of sky burial

Sky burial!!! There are no vultures circling the sky in the UK you know. You are causing difficulty even to the living by wanting sky burial. Imagine having to bring your body to the zoo for vultures in captivity. 😡

You do know that prior to sky burial someone needs to smash up your body to pieces for the vulture feasting, so I think someone should video the process of smashing up the body. Jolly good fun that.

Doesn't need to be vultures. I quite like corvids.

slowoldman & suburbanreube,

Will you die today if you can die peacefully without worry?

I mean The End. Nothing. Carbon.

But then let others have your "shell" for amusement like weapon testing or maggot farm experiment for forensic science

I'd rather not die today; it's raining, and there are still things I want to do.
But,if it was a nice sunny day and I was out in the hills doing something I love, it wouldn't be [i]so[/i] bad if I dropped down dead. It's not that unlikely as I have a heart condition and don't take my doctor's advice to take it easy.
My nightmare is a slow, painful death in hospital,or having someone wipe my arse for my last twenty years.
With regard to the second question, I couldn't care less.

slowoldman - Member

Doesn't need to be vultures. I quite like corvids.

Okay, acceptable, a bit of Hammer horror style with corvids pecking the eye balls. Very British. 😆

suburbanreuben - Member

... It's not that unlikely as I have a heart condition and [b]don't take my doctor's advice to take it easy[/b].

Bad boy!

My nightmare is a slow, painful death in hospital,or having someone wipe my arse for my last twenty years.

That will not go down well for everyone. In fact, some people may even wish your quick demise if that is the case or abuse you while in their care as punching bag. 😯

slowoldman - Member
Doesn't need to be vultures. I quite like corvids.

Okay, acceptable, a bit of Hammer horror style with corvids pecking the eye balls. Very British.

saw those vultures on the goggle last night thye swallow your bones whole and strong stomach acids digest you.. makes cremation sound ok.

family and kids all know where to chuck my ashes..

As an aside,if you do need a body to disappear, a bath full of acid is old hat, and if you get splashed it will burn your skin. A few boxes of biological washing powder will do the trick.

All sorted out 10 years ago when we had wills drawn up before Jnr was born. Wills got updated earlier this year so all sorted again.

My estate won't be enough to have vultures circling my corpse 😉

Can't talk about it with MrAdamW as he just bursts into tears if it is mentioned. Cannot discuss wills etc. for same reason, so I guess it is all simple if I popped my clogs - he gets the lot.

As for what to do with the body I'm with Eddie Izzard - twang it into a tree after paying a few bob for someone to say "Oh bum he's dead!" for a couple of minutes.

And no funeral as I am not religious but a humanist thingy where they people have to sing along to the Spike Milligan 'Q5' theme and then The Cocteau Twin's song "A kissed out red floatboat" or "Spooning Good Singing Gum"!

@AdamW - you need to sort out wills! You may end up getting all of it but it is not always straight forward, even if you are all married and legal.

I will donate my bikes to STW for thrashing.

I doubt it'd ever get that far - the selected forumites named in your will would assemble at the required time and place and it'd descend immediately into an argument as to who gets to ride the obsolete 26er, why had you chosen SRAM over Shimano and what [i]were[/i] you thinking with those tyres and that colour scheme?!

😉

Me and the Mrs have discussed death. She has asked to be buried and Ive promised to honour her wishes, but I wont. She will be dead, why on earth would what happens to the shell make a difference.
Likewise ive told her I want to be left where I fall rather than cause hassle for her when she doesn't need it, but she will do as she sees fit when it happens im sure.

As for what to do with the body I'm with Eddie Izzard - twang it into a tree after paying a few bob for someone to say "Oh bum he's dead!" for a couple of minutes.

we were listening to that in the car at the weekend, very funny!

Ah Jake. My hero.