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Will telling strangers on the internet help, I don't know but everyone else I talk to at this minute feels the same as me! We've just spent the last 2 1/2 days watching my super vibrant nan succumb to pneumonia. A lady who 7 days ago was partying with us all at my daughter's 16th.

Keep those special people close folks and make the time count.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 5:12 pm
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I don't know if sharing will help ..probably not as any close family passing away is especially raw ...all I can say is that you have my sympathy .

I was equally devastated losing my grandparents who had brought me up until my sixth birthday so had a strong bond with them ..its hard but time does dull the pain .


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 5:33 pm
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That's a real shame, but sounds like she was living life to the full right until the end,which has to be a good way to go.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 5:35 pm
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sorry to hear that, wrightyson but as said above, she was partying almost to the end - and she got to see her granddaughter grow up


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 5:42 pm
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sorry to hear that.

And +1 to singlesman. As harsh as it seems, I think I'd far rather that than a slow decline to the inevitable over months or years.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 5:53 pm
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My sincere condolences, wrightyson. I can genuinely sympathise with your loss.

May your nan's memory be eternal.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 6:01 pm
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Sorry to hear that, these are always the toughest of times. Like you say, treat every moment like it's most precious one you have!!!


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 6:03 pm
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The Good Grief Trust is an excellent resource for helping with the loss of a loved one:

http://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/

I hope you find it useful..


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 6:30 pm
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Nothing anyone says will really help but agree that living well until the last 2.5 days is good going.

Watching my dad die slowly over 12 months was horrible.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 7:01 pm
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Chin up, have been through this - losing loved ones is undeniably the hardest thing we have to do - but rejoice in the great memories they leave behind.


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 8:23 pm
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Tomorrow is 1 year since my mum died, only 73 & the most vibrant energetic person you could ever meet. cut down by cancer less than 10 months after walking the GR10 across the Pyrenees with her Yoga class 🙁


 
Posted : 22/03/2018 8:50 pm
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Sorry about that.

I still miss my Nana enormously.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 9:55 am
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I'm not sure if this year is different but the amount of people I hear of who have succumbed to pneumonia is frightening.

If you have someone who is really poorly,  it may not just be a bad cold.

Get them looked at.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 9:59 am
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On that subject if you have an elderly relative make sure they have the vaccination ..its a one off injection .


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 10:05 am
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Morning folks. Thanks for all the kind words. I would most certainly echo the sentiment re pneumonia above. In nan's case there may have been an underlying lung cancer issue that no one knew about, but we'll probably never know.

As I said in the op, enjoy all the time you can with all those you hold close.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 10:26 am
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I am very sorry for your loss and I feel your pain.

My father-in-law passed away due to cancer just over a month ago and it still feels very raw.

He was 72 and had been ill for a while, but the manner in which he went was quite unexpected 🙁

Cherish the memories that you have of your nan.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 11:37 am
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Sorry for your loss OP. ... I found out the date for my old Nan's funeral yesterday, she died a couple of weeks ago.

Chest infection, a fall at home and then pneumonia once in hospital... But we were "lucky", it happened over the course of a week or two and we all got to say our goodbyes.

Although I'm not sure she'd have been up dancing 🙂 , she'd had a fantastic knock of 95 and was happy that she was going to be reunited with my Grandad, after living without him for 37 years !!

When he died I was 6 and lost a little patch of hair on the top of my head... she took a message to him for me.

So sorry not got much advice, still going through it myself, but posting does seem cathartic.

Good luck.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 12:51 pm
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Genuinely sorry for OP's loss.

A friend lost their brother last week to pnuemonia - he was 50 and had a horrible cough for months. Family kept asking him to go get it seen to and eventually he was admitted.

6 weeks in hospital an his body gave up 🙁

She sounds like a remarkable lady who managed to enjoy life to the end!

If you or your family have "flu" and its not getting better after a few days - get checked out! (A couple of years ago I have pneumonia that I thought was flu - a weekend in hospital with IV antibiotics that stung when administered sorted me out)

Stories like this and my friends brother make me realise that it was potentially a closer call than I thought at the time!


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 1:03 pm
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Sorry for your loss OP. At least you know she lived her life surrounded by people she loved , she lived her life to the full and that her illness was swift. My Gran died a very slow and painful death (emphysema) which I wouldn’t wish for anyone.


 
Posted : 23/03/2018 1:18 pm

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