Bye old girl.
 

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Bye old girl.

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My old mum passed away last night. It's been a brutal few weeks but no pain can touch her now.

Palliative care allowed us to have her at home till the last.

I was with her, in the room she'd slept in for 30 years, as she she left us, though she never really will leave us of course.

She lived through the blitz in a London's east end, had 3 children, grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren.

She was still thinking of others right till the end.

Now she's with my old dad, and her mum and dad.

As for you lot? Go call your mum or dad, mum, sister or brother. Even better, go give them a hug.

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"What we do in life echoes in eternity"

Love ya mum.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:39 pm
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❤️ all the best poops. Looks and sounds like a life well lived.

Look after yourself.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:43 pm
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Damn, sorry to hear this, you've been providing care for quite a while haven't you? . Do look after yourself. And yes, will be having a dram with my Dad and a Baileys of some sort with my Mum in short order, and treasure every minute of it.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:46 pm
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Sorry to hear this, been coming for a while from your posts on here but all the same, a loss is never easy.

Look after yourself now, be kind. You did so much for her through some difficult times. Know that she loved you and she knew she was loved. As you said, no pain can touch her now.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:49 pm
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Very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in 2018, less than a month after her cancer diagnosis- the last few days were rough so I feel your pain. Her last words to me were to thank me for everything. She died 56 years to the day my brother and I were born, at home with my dad, brother and sister there.

I miss her

I concur about the phone calls. I phone my dad every day. Take care of yourself


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:51 pm
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Sorry for your loss, but reading your posts any Mother would have been proud to have a son who cared so much as you did. We can all just do our best, it is not easy to watch your parents age.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:52 pm
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Sorry to read that. I don’t know you other than familiarity on here, but please accept my condolences none the less. RIP old girl.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:55 pm
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So sorry to hear your news. It must have been so comforting for her to have you with her at the end, surrounded by love

Your post has really struck a chord with me. We’re in a similar position. my father in law died 6 weeks ago around the same time that my dad was informed that his cancer is untreatable and he had 2-3 months to live. I’ve been with him today and I’m just spending as much time with him as possible. We all know there’s not much time left


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 5:56 pm
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Sorry to hear that poopscoop. All the best for the future.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:14 pm
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Sorry to hear that, RIP your mum.
Went to visit my mum's place of rest today - 5 years on - it's still a heart wrenching.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:15 pm
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Sorry for your loss.  I hope the fact that she's no longer in pain can offer some consolation

It did sound like you did some top-level "sonning" while she was ailing, now you get to take care of youreself and your loved ones


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:15 pm
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Big hugs Poopscoop. From your posts I know you're been doing a sterling job looking after her and have always put her first. You have been a son any mother would be proud of. Look after yourself and take the time you need


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:17 pm
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Sorry for your loss, you've done so much for her in recent years.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:30 pm
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Sorry to hear that man. Big love.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:35 pm
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Sorry for your loss Poopscoop, it's always a tough time but especially for someone to go at this time of year.

All I can say is that it does get easier with time and they never truly die until people no longer remember them.  It's been just over a year since my dad left this world and it's still tough at times, usually when I think that he'd enjoy a little story or need a bit of advice that he would have known.  One day at a time is the best way forward right now.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:42 pm
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Go call

I can't.

Do it while you can.

Sorry for your loss, man.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:46 pm
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Sorry for your loss. Have a virtual hug from me and the family Funk.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:50 pm
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Sorry for your loss, Poops. From what I’ve seen of your posts on here, you’ve been a good son and shown your mum a lot of care. Hugs.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:52 pm
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So sorry poops, mums have a totally unique and special place in our lives and when they finally leave us the loss is not like any other.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 6:58 pm
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What a beautiful post, tribute and photo to your mum. Sorry for your loss. Love to all your family xx


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 7:04 pm
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Sorry for your loss fella. I remember when I was having a shitty time a while back you made the effort to reach out to me, something I really appreciated.

If you need anything please let me return the kindness.

Big hugs

Tim


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 7:05 pm
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So sorry to hear this. Hope you can get through the next week ok. Hang on to the memories.

Go call your mum or dad, mum, sister or brother. Even better, go give them a hug.

Great advice, I only have my mum left now.....


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 7:13 pm
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Go call your mum or dad,

Sitting with them now.  Argumentative gits.

Poopy.  You have done a good thing.  Be proud


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 7:49 pm
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So sorry for your loss.

I buried my dad on Friday. My mum is in care and she can't communicate.

So yea, if you can, do speak to them.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 7:57 pm
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Sorry for your loss, she raised a good 'un.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 8:10 pm
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Lovely words, she sounds like a great lady. So sorry to hear of your loss. The fact that you were there with her must have been a great comfort to her.  Take care of yourself Poopy. You are are always generous with support and help for others on here. Let us help if you need to talk or anything else.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 8:12 pm
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Sorry for your loss. Never got the chance to say bye to my Dad- heart attack got him without warning.

12th Christmas without him. Mum will be staying with us from tomorrow.

This has been a good reminder to make the most. I got a bit short with her today as she had decided not to go to my nephews wedding in Germany next Feb. My sis had offered to fly from Spain to fly with her to Germany but she doesn’t her to do it in case she gets stuck in the Uk (she thinks it’s a bad time of year to fly). I said I could fly with her to Germany but she worries in case I get stuck there. As it’s likely to be the only wedding of one of her grandchildren I’d really like her to go but since Dad does she worries about everything.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 8:41 pm
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Lovely, lovely words


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 8:53 pm
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Sorry for your loss. (I still feel utterly privileged to have been with my dad when he passed in 2006.)


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 9:02 pm
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Sorry to hear your news poopscoop.

All the best.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 9:15 pm
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Thinking of you and yours poopscoop.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 10:27 pm
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Very sorry to hear that, but you’ve been an inspirational son from what you’ve posted.

And I’m setting off at 4:30am to spend Christmas with my own Dad, so should probably stop looking at my phone.

Best wishes to you all.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 10:36 pm
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So sorry for your loss Poopscoop. Take good care.


 
Posted : 22/12/2024 11:59 pm
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Time for some 'you' time now. Take care Poop


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 9:16 am
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Take care of yourself poop, sorry for your loss.


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 9:21 am
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♥️


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 9:27 am
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Sorry for your loss. Condolences to your family,


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 9:40 am
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Sorry to hear this, hope you're ok.

Sounds like she had a good & long life and passed surrounded by family.

Think I'll visit my mum today.


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 10:00 am
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I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart felt condolances.


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 10:08 am
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Sorry for your loss Poops.


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 10:21 am
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Lovely words mate, all the best.

My mum is now in the very advanced stages of dementia so i'm not expecting her to be around much longer either.

X


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 10:25 am
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Sorry for your loss poopscoop.

you’ve done the best you can for her and she knew you were there at the end.

Echoing others, look after yourself and think of all the great memories.

Hugs bunnyhop xx


 
Posted : 23/12/2024 4:15 pm

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