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My wife and I have come to replace our mattress. The old one is 10 years old, it was fairly cheap (~£300 bitd) and it's pocket sprung with a memory foam topper. I sleep like a baby on it whereas my wife finds it a bit uncofortable.
The new mattress criteria is:
- a bit firmer (for my wife, no s****ing)
- not memory foam, it gets a bit too hot in the summer
We're now on to our second mattress, the first replacement was too firm, I tried sleeping on it for 2 nights and tossed and turned both nights and woke up with sore hips/shoulders (I'm a side sleeper). I've had my first night on this next mattress (which was a medium firm) and again it felt like I was tossing and turning loads and just couldn't get comfy on my side. Getting a bit fed up! I always thought I was a non-fussy sleeper, I can fall asleep anywhere if needs be. Any suggestions? both mattresses have been an improvement in my wife's eyes.
Any reccomendations from the stw hive mind?
- Try adjusting my pillows?
- Try a memory foam mattress topper on one side?
- Get a split mattress?
I don't want a new patio before anyone suggests it...
We've had the exact same issue and gone through I think 4 mattresses in 4 years including the cheap "memory" foam ones (Emma IIRC) and 2 different topped ones. Both of the topped ones (1 with foam and one with wool) suffered from the same issue where the tops collapse over time and the result is a bed with 2 dips in it.
My wife insisted she wanted a hard one (s****!) and I wanted soft (ooh err). We've ended up on a Tempur mattress from the outlet shop in Swindon saving a fair wedge, so far, so good and we've had it since September/October I think.
Buy a single mattress to each of your specifications, put them on a superkingsize bed frame.
we got a mattress which is different firmness on each side
Are the shops open near you? Go lie on some.
Get a mattress you like, Mrs does the same, put them in separate rooms.
Marital bliss and a good nights sleep for all.
Get a mattress you like, Mrs does the same, put them in separate rooms.
Marital bliss and a good nights sleep for all.
+1 for this.
Buy a single mattress to each of your specifications, put them on a superkingsize bed frame.
This. Bloody marvellous.
the first replacement was too firm, I tried sleeping on it for 2 nights and tossed and turned both nights and woke up with sore hips/shoulders
Are you a bit over weight? Only asking as had a similar conversation with someone about the same thing and they were over weight and had noticed they never used to have this problem when they were younger (and thinn.er)
Are the shops open near you? Go lie on some.
Ummm, we're currently in lock-down?! Unless your local tescos has a beds section?
Buy a single mattress to each of your specifications, put them on a superkingsize bed frame.
Hmm that is a possibility, it is a superking we're after...
Get a mattress you like, Mrs does the same, put them in separate rooms.
Marital bliss and a good nights sleep for all.
I have been sleeping on the old bed in the spare room, Mrs Mat was concerned how seemingly happy I was with this arrangement...
I think with anything new (car/bed/bike/wife) you need to allow at least 2-3 weeks for your body to get used to the new position. We lashed out what I thought was a ridiculous sum on a new memory foam topped mattress and for the first 3-4 nights I was convinced I'd made an expensive mistake. I was roasting hot and couldn't get comfy but after a while things settled down and I can now fall asleep at the drop of a hat
If you've usually no problem sleeping I suspect you'll get used to it
Ummm, we’re currently in lock-down?! Unless your local tescos has a beds section?
Wait until you aren't?
You spend literally a third of your life on a mattress which you keep for ten years. It's not something I'd want to buy by guesswork.
Get a mattress you like, Mrs does the same, put them in separate rooms.
Marital bliss and a good nights sleep for all.
Also avoids issues due to snoring, fidgeting, differing schedules, heating/fresh-air requirements...
... and you get to have sex with someone you love every night.
We tend to buy mattresses in winter sales after a summer of weekends away stopping in hotels.
Me and the mrs will take a peek at what model the hotel mattress was and buy the one we both liked it. It’s a better way of testing compared to 10mins on a show room bed.
Just so you know - Emma mattresses are pretty soft.
Split mattress is the way forwards.
Works for us.
Hang on and try some out, even for 10 mins.
While you're waiting a bit of 12 or 18mm ply under your wife's side of the bed you give her a nice firm one (ooer).
While you’re waiting a bit of 12 or 18mm ply under your wife’s side of the bed you give her a nice firm one
Stick it on top for an even firmer experience.....
You spend literally a third of your life on a mattress which you keep for ten years. It’s not something I’d want to buy by guesswork.
The matresses we've tried have felt ok initially but its when I wake up at 4am and can't get comfy that's the problem, I can't tell that in 10 mins
Connect2 - that's the kind of 'do nothing and it'll all turn out ok' anecdotal answer I wanted! I'll persevere for now and everyone will have to deal with my crabiness for a few days!
we got a mattress which is different firmness on each side
+1 for this, quite straightforward, the two just zip together. We put a thin mattress topper on to cover the zip.
Get a mattress you like, Mrs does the same, put them in separate rooms.
Marital bliss and a good nights sleep for all.Also avoids issues due to snoring, fidgeting, differing schedules, heating/fresh-air requirements…
Sleep divorce. It's a (marvellous) thing:
What your mattress sits on will make a surprising difference. If you have a divan base then difficult to change and a split mattress would be best but if it’s on slats then you can vary the firmness to quite a degree by changing the slats and/or spacing. I’ve done this very successfully. All the bits are easily available on eBay.
Get a split mattress?
How does the mattress know which quarter of the bed you'll be left once comfort has been achieved?
We got one of those Simba mattresses a few months ago. V nice. 200 night trial, so they collect it and give you a full refund if you don’t like it. Not cheap but we got 25% off and I think offers are fairly common.
It’s titanium conical coil pocket springs on top of memory foam. Clever design!