[Closed] Broke My Six Year Old's Heart Tonight 🙁

Barsteward.

Hold on. Are you telling me there's no such thing as the Tooth Fairy 😯

So.... where are you on Father Christmas 😀

Sweajnr is only 2.5 so this is still all to come.

I was 3 when my stepdad pointed out that he paid for the presents and there was no father Christmas. She'll get over it. There is no magic in the world. It's a cruel and unfeeling place. Dog eat dog, every man for himself with no room for the weak of body or mind!

No pudding for your for the rest of week

The tooth hurts.

That was a fairy obvious pun.

There is no magic in the world.

There is. There is Daddy. Father. Whatever he's called, he's magic. This is just one thing, there will be so many more things where Daddy will be that superhuman, that magician, that wonder that makes a child smile, learn, laugh and love.

That's real magic.

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One of the better junior board games with a gimmick. Put the magic back.

Thumbs up CF 🙂

There is. There is Daddy. Father. Whatever he's called, he's magic. This is just one thing, there will be so many more things where Daddy will be that superhuman, that magician, that wonder that makes a child smile, learn, laugh and love.

That's real magic.

Sorry but your daughter is a bit dim. I'd still believe in tooth fairies and Santa today if they were delivering cash and presents £££££££

And thank you - the post reminded me to put £1 under the pillow of our 7 yr old - we forgot a couple of weeks ago when she lost her last one 🙁 oops!

@ bear necessities, I hearby crown you.....

You can't handle the tooth..errr
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Enamel get me coat....

Just tell her about the tooth fairies from pans labyrinth..

You complete fool!

You've just been had. Obviously your daughter already knew that there isn't a tooth fairy. So now she has the money for a tooth AND you now need to spoil her because you hurt her feelings.

She's playing on your heart strings........and you fell for it 😈

Now she is feeling content and you're feeling sorry for yourself on here.

Shame on you. No bike riding for two weeks as punishment!

So.... where are you on Father Christmas

Dodged a bullet there. I told her that I couldn't say that fairies [i]definitely[/i] weren't real. I could only say that I'd never met one. But then I'd never met an Eskimo, or a dinosaur, or a...

"Father Christmas?"

"....err... Yeah.. or a polar bear or.."

There is no magic in the world.

We read "Where The Giants Hide" - a book about a young girl upset when she realises magic, fairies, mermaids etc aren't real. That helped. Sounds like you should read it too 😉

There is. There is Daddy. Father.

You are a lovely bloke. Cheers for that.

I went with:
"Three years ago you didn't have a sister. Now you do. Where did she come from?"
"Mummy made her"
"Well that's pretty magical isn't it. Making a whole person."

Sorry but your daughter is a bit dim.

Nah just six. From what I can tell she is only the second kid in her year to have figured it out.

There is. There is Daddy. Father. Whatever he's called, he's magic. This is just one thing, there will be so many more things where Daddy will be that superhuman, that magician, that wonder that makes a child smile, learn, laugh and love.

That's real magic.

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Nah just six. From what I can tell she is only the second kid in her year to have figured it out.

Or the others are just too smart to let on?

In an attempt to introduce my lad to the greatness of Roald Dahl I read him the big **** off crocodile (something like that) he just pointed out that the crocodile should have been properly disciplined and made to account for his actions rather than being fired into the sun and killed. A brief silenced followed where I had to come up with some quite astonishing bullshit to cover the gap. Hey ho.

I had a similar experience a few years ago when my daughter asked the same question about Santa. She had only just started school. I hedged bets and asked what she thought. She laid out one of the most reasoned arguments I've ever heard. 'He wouldn't fit down the stove flue' ' you always lock the door' 'no way he can cover that distance in one night'. It went on. And on. A complete and utterly irrefutable display of logic in such quantity and with such thought. Then at the end she looks up and says - so dad is he real?

I decided in that moment that if I 'kept the magic alive' then she would probably never trust anything I ever said again. So beginning with an explanation that lots of people believe and would be upset to find out she got to know. It was still in her interest to play along though as she still did get presents!

Santa will be trickier because for pretty much her entire life we've had her waving at our SantaCams* whenever the red light comes on.

(Motion detectors for the burglar alarm)

I will encourage my 2 to believe until such time as they work it out. No need too crush their dreams just because I am bitter and twisted!

Really surprised ( tho thinking of this forum maybe not) that people would scotch such magical stuff at the earliest opportunity

I always said that I'd happily play along whilst the magic is alive, but if they ask me outright then I'll tell them.

So I did.

I think by the time they get to the stage of asking directly then they are ready for the truth, even if they don't like it. 🙁

I am 'Santa' every year for my niece and nephew. Sooner or later one of them will twig what's going on. Whilst I love the romance I'm uneasy about the deceit.

My brothers son asked him the dreaded question this week

"Where do babies come from?"

My brother got half way through his first sentence when he was interrupted

"actually..... do you want to play Paper Scissors Stone instead?"

My 5 year old was watching a nature documentary recently and said "you mated mummy didnt you" "Yes son yes I did"

There is. There is Daddy. Father. Whatever he's called, he's magic. This is just one thing, there will be so many more things where Daddy will be that superhuman, that magician, that wonder that makes a child smile, learn, laugh and love.
That's real magic.

"you mated mummy didnt you" "Yes son yes I did"

Love it. "Yes son, we did it it like they do on the Discivery Channel" 😀

Hold on. Are you telling me there's no such thing as the Tooth Fairy

I'm more concerned that he has been rummaging around under my pillow! Thanks for the money though.

Our four-year-old is too young to be losing teeth yet, but I've got my excuses lined up for if I'm ever caught: the tooth fairy was [i]really[/i] busy tonight and asked me if I could help out... Should be ok with that 🙂

Well waddya know, apparently there is still a little magic left in the world.

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In France it's a mouse rather than a fairy that looks after tooth/currency transactions. We had to explain that there exists an international agreement between mice and fairies for our daughter because she was so worried that it wasn't true. Fortunately for us, she had her last tooth fall out before brexit, that would have made things awkward.

It's ok, she can still believe in the big guy in the sky. Infinitely less plausible and yet billions still believe in such nonsense.

Funnily enough, in true STW-style, I did divert our discusion on to religion.

I told her it was okay to believe in fairies if she wanted to.
By pointing out that she believes in God and I don't and that's okay.

She's learned an important lesson about life: adults can't be trusted.

I don't have kids, and I get the whole "bit of magic" thing, but I wonder which hurts more; that the tooth fairy doesn't exist, or that the two people she loves more than anything in the world and trusts implicitly have been systematically lying to them all their life.

Dunno what I'd do if it were me. Though I'm never going to be in a position to find out.

Lying to your kids is all part of parenting I'm afraid Cougar.

I did explain to her why. I said "When young children first start losing their teeth it can be a bit scary, so we make it fun instead by telling them about the tooth fairy."

She seemed to get that.

We've had to have 'the chat' with the eldest - it was getting silly, he's 11 in 3 weeks

"so Easter Bunny?" "No".
"Tooth Fairy" "Sorry, nope"
"In fairness I had my doubts, I saw you sneaking a quid into my bedroom one night - at least Father Christmas is real" "sit down son..."

The only one he believes in now is "Mrs Price" she runs the local kids prison and may be a witch, he believes wholeheartedly in her because a few years ago when he was being unbearable he got a very official letter in the post summoning him to prison - and I drove him to the gates of Cardiff Prison with his bags packed, he was lucky enough to get an 11th hour reprieve on appeal.

but I wonder which hurts more; that the tooth fairy doesn't exist, or that the two people she loves more than anything in the world and trusts implicitly have been systematically lying to them all their life.

What is your own experience? You were a kid once upon a time I assume?

Can't say it had any lasting effect on me.

My 5 year old was watching a nature documentary recently and said "you mated mummy didnt you" "Yes son yes I did"

A few years back we had a big crew night out at the end of a project. At the last minute the boss's childcare arrangements fell through so he had to take us all out for food and beer with his 4 year old daughter in tow. He's pretty shy and pretty serious and intense - she however was an absolute barrel of laughs and pretty much held court through the whole evening up to the point where she announced loudly

" I know what mummy and daddy do after I've gone to bed"
The room fell silent - we were all ears. The boss visibly crumpled genuinely fearing what was coming next.
"Theeeeeey watch cowboy movies!"

All attention turned to the boss. "Yeehaw!" we all said in unison. With a wink.

In France it's a mouse rather than a fairy that looks after tooth/currency transactions. We had to explain that there exists an international agreement between mice and fairies for our daughter because she was so worried that it wasn't true. [b]Fortunately for us, she had her last tooth fall out before brexit, that would have made things awkward[/b].

Toughen up Princess...

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Really though, your a bad, bad man.
Shame on you.
🙂

Our 5yo has a fairy door in her room. She announced that she didn't believe in fairies until they moved in but now she knows they're real...

This extends to writing to them; they reply. Sooner or later she will realise it's my handwriting.

Hah. I don't ever remember believing in such things, I guess my parents' explanations weren't comprehensive enough.

My kids certainly weren't upset. My eldest cottoned on pretty quickly about 3, she was a bit upset really but then we told her it was a fun game of makebelieve which seemed to go down well. My youngest doesn't care and seems perfectly able and willing to believe anything which seems fun.

My eldest started getting cute and left a note under her pillow alongside the tooth

"Dear Tooth Fairy, What do you do with all the teeth? Please write you answer on the other side of this note. Love Emily aged 7"

Not to be outdone, we replied.

"Dear Emily, I take the teeth and turn them into twinkling stars in the sky. Don't spend this money on sweeties. Love, the Tooth fairy "