[Closed] At what age do you stop caring?

About the same time as the nihilism kicked in. Whenever that was. Or maybe... Yes, nihilism started a gradual decline, and then definitely reaching 30 was a factor. But at 40, there's still remnants of worrying about what others think floating around like the ash of a dead bonfire. Dunno.

CaptainFlashheart - Member

About 37 I think it was.

41 - this year. Most of the people i work with never have. 🙁

I don't think I ever started. Never really understood caring about what strangers think. Friends, family and colleagues I can understand. Strangers, meh

You always care.

Just about different stuff as you realise what's actually important.

Unless you are a sociopath.

About 12, when I found out girls don't really care.

Personally never really given a damn about anything and think that folks who opine about such things should really find something else to do.

But it's very, very funny.
🙂

meh

I really couldn't give a toss what others think about what I wear, or read, or whatever, and if you don't like my haircut, you can suck my socks!
62, since you asked.

What PP (tee-hee, Pee Pee) said.

We all care to one extent or another, [i]especially[/i] what other people think.

Yes you do.

Think about it.... 🙂

Maybe the wrong title but as a 47yr old I do care, but I don't care what others think!

Yes you do 🙂

I stopped caring at university. Listened to uncool music , rode a BMX when no one else did (mid nineties) around town. Only person whose opinion I really care about towards me is my wife's, whose act of marrying me was an extraordinary act of charity I am always trying (and failing) to pay back.

I'm just a young nipper (30) compared to you lot 😉 but I've not hugely cared what strangers think of me for a long time.
Maybe it's because I've never had the physique to try and look fashionable that I've always resigned myself to wearing whatever I want that I think I don't look stupid in.

it's around the age when you get a pair of jeans with an elasticated waistband from George at Asda!

jekkyl - Member
it's around the age when you get a pair of jeans with an elasticated waistband from George at Asda!

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I don't think it's age related, it's just down to your character. I've never given a stuff what anyone else thinks (apart from my mum of course).

Can't remember but I really no longer care for other folks opinions of me,

As long as I don't offend anyone I pretty much dress and act how I feel like doing

I care too much.

It's a burden, but I make up for those that DGAS.

I've never cared a toss about what others thought or their opinions regarding myself, prob due to moving house and attending so many schools as a kid (5 primary schools and 4 high schools) along with staying exclusively in very rural isolated areas in Galloway/Argyll, I guess my upbringing helped in developing a suitable coping strategy/not giving a toss to deal with the inevitable "scene" mentality that comes with attempting to fit in with the crowd. I've always done my own thing and it's not put me up nor down as to whether I belonged in a group or clique.

Similar views to arguing online with others, crack on if your ego is so delicate that you feel the need to waste your time but don't expect me to get involved other than expressing my initial thoughts n' views.

I was about 5.

caring is one of the greatest things we can do as humans.
people who say they dont care are lifes ****ers.......imho.

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I kind of care what other people think, but have always gone against the grain just enough.
I try to make out that I dgas, but really I'm sticking to a certain line...

Nowadays I buy my jeans from next, but still wear certain other makes that keep me in my genre!!

I wouldn't buy a shirt from next though, the worst thing would be standing next to someone at the bar in the same shirt as someone who shops at next.....

perchypanther - Member
You always care.

Just about different stuff as you realise what's actually important.

Unless you are a sociopath.

This.
It'd be nice not to care in some ways as it sets us free.
But the majority of us are just not wired up that way.

caring is one of the greatest things we can do as humans.
people who say they dont care are lifes ****.......imho.

Care to read the OP?

Ton : The question was [i]Why do you care what people think about you?[/i]

Being able to empathise and show due care for others unconnected to yourself is a separate awareness not analogous to caring what others outside of your social circle think about yourself.

My rule #1 applies here for all interactions throughout life : Don't be a dick

I personally do not pay heed/care what others who I have no personal involvement consider of me.

I stopped caring before anyone else.

I was going to answer this but

Had a moment of epiphany in my early 30's when I realised if I stop worrying what other people think about me and trusted my moral compass I would be a far happier person. I've stuck to it since then and accepted the fact that some people will think I'm a dick, but equally that I don't need to get those I think are a dick to like me! Works 90% of the time and Now don't really give a fack what people think about me which I find very liberating

I stopped caring before anyone else.

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I've never been a "girly" type. Handbags, manicures, fancy shoes, hair straighteners, waxing, spa days etc, are really not for me- so I had to learn early on not to care about what other people think of my style!

i care about what people who are important to me think about me.
but not those i have no more than a passing connection with (i.e. the majority of people). that's been the case for probably most of my life, from my teens on really.

SWMBO makes sure this does not happen at my birthday and Christmas 🙂

My rule #1 applies here for all interactions throughout life : Don't be a dick

This ought to be the only law in existence. Everyone knows when they are being a dick even if they won't admit it and everyone else knows they are being a dick. So, up in court it would be "fair cop, I was being a dick" or "we find the defendant guilty of being a dick M'lud" and it would all be over in minutes.

Would be like living in some kind of dicktatorship.

For me peak giving a shit about what strangers thought of me was probably 17-32. It started to ease soon after and by 36-37 I really didn’t give a shit.

The first time I noticed it was when my Sister-in-law used to visit us. I really like her, she’s a nice person and loves ours kids to bits, but at the time she was seeing this waste of skin, never worked, know-it-all, I couldn’t call him a man, and he wasn’t sweet enough to be a boy. I tried to tolerate him, but I couldn’t even though my SIL is more than 10 years younger than me, he’s about my age – anyway this day she’d been in work all day, he’s been in bed – now they’re sat in my living room having an argument – because, it was “pay day” aka the day she got paid, not him – but he’s moaning like a baby because she wouldn’t buy him a Game Boy game, because his parents (who were fleecing her too) wanted a pile of money for rent and board off them – that was it, right there – he effectively died in my mind. I just ignored him, when they came around, I just left the room. I didn’t make excuses, I didn’t sugar coat it, I just looked at him and left.

Back when I gave a shit, I would have either tried to be his best mate and find myself saying stupid things to agree with him, or it would have gone the other way and I’d have punched him or something, but not caring was much better – I had reached a point in life when I didn’t have to do anything, it really way great.

He’s gone now, my ‘giving a shit’ since was limited to making sure I made an effort to get on with her new partner, we don’t have much in common, but he’s a decent bloke and I didn’t want SIL to think it was her I had issue with.

"not caring" isn't "giving up" but for me maturity brought self-confidence and the knowledge that it just doesn't matter.
Also, peer pressure I've discovered, a total thing of the past it seems.

This ought to be the only law in existence. Everyone knows when they are being a dick even if they won't admit it and everyone else knows they are being a dick. So, up in court it would be "fair cop, I was being a dick" or "we find the defendant guilty of being a dick M'lud" and it would all be over in minutes.

I agree, but I'd like an exemption for 'Hangry' I'm terrible for it at the moment, but I never know I'm being a dick until I've eaten something and it passes. I'm working on it though.

Like it not, other people's opinions matter.

With music, it was early 20's when I could finally come out to loving Sister Sledge, and flaunting my five star single and Madonna albums. The decade previously I was main lining Buzzcocks, CRASS & Discharge....

Clothes a decade later having discovered mountain hardware canyon 'pants'. Once you've embraced the beige everything else gets easier... 😆

Personally never really given a damn about anything and think that folks who opine about such things should really find something else to do.