[Closed] are you single?

Ah. The mighty elfin.

Welcome Troll.

QuakesNOT !***

You are good for a laugh though. I'm laughing now
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After your next ban, perhaps your next forum ID can be Mr Contrarian.

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[i]Single and I don't know why.
Could anyone tell me where I'm going wrong[/i]

Ask Elfin the Troll.

He is here to impose his morals and ethical codes on us all.
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Hello peeps - my ears have been burning - what's been going on??

Rachel

As for being single. Well, if you'd read the thread, you'll see I'm single at the moment as a consequence of a decision I made.

Can't be bothered trawling through all that; seems like you really want to put your point across and appear all intelligent and knowledgeable but there's just a central core of you imagining all women (or certainly the ones you encounter) chase rainbows and are then disappointed. Your posts are more about you voicing your perceptions of women than any real facts. And those perceptions seem to be stained with resentment and anger. The problem lies elsewhere, not within yourself, in your world.

And you seem to lack the ability to read between the lines, look at the hidden picture.

Ask Elfin the Troll.

He is here to impose his morals and ethical codes on us all.

Nope. It';s up to you if you want to be wrong, I can't stop you. Merely pointing out the truth. Which you can't handle, obviously.

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Probbly cos yer too busy blaming everyone else for your own failures.

And you seem to lack the ability to read between the lines, look at the hidden picture.

The irony of that post in the context of a thread discussing the truth behind online dating sites can't be accidental... surely?

guys - having a go at each other isn't exactly going to show you at your best, is it? This has been a really nice thread. Don't spoil it.

Rachel

You can be quiet you Yeti. Too furry.

Hello peeps - my ears have been burning - what's been going on??

Rachel

I think that may have been my fault 😳

Elfin - have you come on this thread just to have an argument?

I'm just here to be an idiot. Not particularly interested in confrontation but I'm sure you'll manage to be 'accidentally' offensive to one of us within the next few posts.

seems so yeti....

FWIW mrsconsequence and i know a huge amount of 30something women who are in exactly the position solo described. so his comments will hit the mark for a lot of people.... although my guess is not many of those wimminz will be reading STW forums!

philconsequence, how do you know so many 30something women?

Coz he's a bar-steward.

my job, mrsconsequences many social groups, and a whole friendship group of 30-34ish year olds in london who are all in the situation that solo describes.

most of them are putting away a bottle of wine a night and its all going to their bellies, constant diets and very public 'new starts'... not really happy with themselves or their situation 🙁 shame cos most of them are lovely people who deserve to be so much happier!

EDIT - and as yeti says... i'm a sexy chap who within 2 minutes of meeting a woman can have her discussing her whole life story... i really should just go back to telling people i'm a gardener or something!

Elfin - have you come on this thread just to have an argument?

Must be my 'Time Of The Month' or something....

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supertramp - ah - Just found your message!! 😳

Rachel (and will always try to remember to put this now!!)

Elfinsafety - LOL! Thanks 🙂

allthegear - don't worry about signing the posts, just add a photo 😉

You want a photo??

Geek here is a ginger cat, for most the day he lays and sleeps, the rest of the time he eats and shits. Is it because he's content in his world or has he excepted he's a ginger and given up hope on finding a mate..

Bean however is a phycotic nut job of a moggy. Always out hunting, sometimes comes back to feed and. Is she content or doing that relentless search for a mate or food. Geek knows his food is there, why hunt for something else when it may taste foul..

I'm sure that Bean has a fair bit of variety and i'm sure some he enjoys some more than others. However! Bean is unpredicatble, she'll bite and scratch when it appears she wants attention, so is she happy in her world. Geek just lays and purrs his way through life.

Nobody tells a cat it needs to have a mate, but it's instinct to find one, at least on occasion.

Humans however are brought up thinking it's an essential part of life to share it with another and this is the source of desperation leading to clouded visions of whom people are when we meet them, giving us the delusion that they are a suitor, no matter how unsuited they are, they stay together through countless arguments and suffer in the uncompatability of each others souls.

Through the yearning and inbuilt desire to not be alone, humans will put themselves through unhappiness as they strive to find a partner, to fit in.

Once people stop trying desperately to find the one, they find it much easier to open up the doors for the one the come along.

Waffle over, if anyone can make sense of that please translate in a positive way as i haven't a clue what i've just gone on about.

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You want a photo??

but nothing too exciting, you will get yourself in trouble 😆

makes perfect sense sharki... no need to translate 🙂

okay...

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will that do? It's bikes I have in the living room (still being decorated after laying my own wooden floor...)

Rachel

that is so provocative!

you have your own pole 😉

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oh poo - never thought of that!! 😳

try again? 😀

And here was I trying to show I wasn't a girly girl and all you notice is the bloomin' pole!!

Rachel

To drag this kicking and screaming back on topic, I'm single, not through choice initially but I'm beginning to enjoy it now.

The reason I'm single is something to do with reverse psychology, in a dating situation when I get asked what I do/like, I tend to say 'I'm a process engineer, it's dull but it pays the bills, I like riding bikes, being outside, taking stuff apart and making it work betterer, reading books, watching movies, playing squash, visiting new places and generally having a good time, in all I'm fairly dull how about you?'

At this point the lady in question seems to think that I'm a gloriously interesting person, and a relationship follows, up until the point where they realise that I wasn't lying...

Rachel, your posts show there is much more to you than a 'girly girl' that's why it took me so long to realise you were a woman!

better?

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up until the point where they realise that I wasn't lying...

better than being accused of lying!! (believe me - that hurts)

Rachel

Rachel - you just had to get your knees in the shot didn't you? you flirt! lol

better than being accused of lying!! (believe me - that hurts)

Yes, I know how that feels, you are upfront an honest with someone but they are so cynical ans suspicious they find fault where there are none. It's like two people walking though the countryside, one sees the flowers and the trees and says 'life is beautiful' the other keeps turning over rocks and then complains that 'It's full of creepy crawlies' some people have half empty souls to match their half empty glasses!

That was a bit too deep for me wasn't it - lets go back to asking for photos 😉

Actually, Supertramp, I think they're my dad's knees...

It's like two people walking though the countryside, one sees the flowers and the trees and says 'life is beautiful' the other keeps turning over rocks and then complains that 'It's full of creepy crawlies'

I'd be complaining there's too many cahs and not enough cashpoints....

Actually, Supertramp, I think they're my dad's knees...

I'm so glad I didn't admit to anything else 😳

Yeah - he's 65!!! lol

Yes, I know how that feels, you are upfront an honest with someone but they are so cynical ans suspicious they find fault where there are none. It's like two people walking though the countryside, one sees the flowers and the trees and says 'life is beautiful' the other keeps turning over rocks and then complains that 'It's full of creepy crawlies' some people have half empty souls to match their half empty glasses!

I know that feeling, my ex would often ask 'Can I do/spend X on Y?'

To which I'd say, 'Yeah, we can afford it, sure thing'

To which she'd say 'You don't want me to, you're stopping me from doing things'

Ho hum...

nothing wrong with being 65, i remember when i was ... no i don't the dementia had set in by then, doh.

I feel like a voyeur on here but without seeing any exciting outcome to all the subliminal flirting.

subliminal? is it that obvious?

where did everyone go?

LOL @ the wind up pic 😀

I've never seen bikes pole dancing before - genius!

Well, I don't actually have many photos of me taken recently - I'd probably get accused of false advertising if I posted one of me in my twenties!!

Rachel

Nice nicolai 😆

I know. Her name is Ulrika.

Rachel

edit - (she says - suddenly checking that the images no longer have any location information in them...)

Well, I don't actually have many photos of me taken recently - I'd probably get accused of false advertising if I posted one of me in my twenties!!

Rachel

you're still in your twenties surely?

Single, definatly not out of choice. I go through stages of being happy with my situation and being nigh on depressed about it. very much a up and down thing.

Single. I caught so much flak last time around for the amount of time and money I spend on cycling, and looking after my dog, and going to work (?).

I kind of maybe possibly would like someone to do stuff with, but they would have to like bikes and dogs and the countryside and not be insecure or jealous/possessive and have their own thing going on too so they would not be clingy, oh, and not smoke, and not be on the dole, and be single. See? The shopping list starts out short, and rapidly grows! lol

In the meantime I am having a totally brilliant time being single.

Karinofnine - you are right about the shopping list! Though maybe we all just think about the details far too much, when we should be just be taking the plunge. Nothing ventured nothing gained and all that 😉

Supertramp - I've done the starry-eyed-love-conquers-all stuff - fingers crossed, hoping the incompatibilities will not matter, and ignoring the warning signs.

Crashed and burned.

I'm more discerning now, I know what I want and I'm in the happy position of not being desperate. Something will turn up, it always does, best just let what will be, be.

Karinofnine - good point, I think emma82 is an example too us all, maybe if you don't 'pair' at the right time in your life you never really will? or am I being cynical?

No matter how you view it, it has been a very interesting and lively thread - thanks for all your contributions.

Elfin - I loves ya anyway (5 mins at a time mind) 🙂
Sue- don't let this lot get to ya. Honesty is far to great a trait to be displayed on here!
Solo - You are a knob.

Been thinking about the 'shopping list' theory it has made me smile. I counted roughly 10 items in the example above. Now assume the prospective mate works on the same theory 'no cats, must like motorbikes, must like roast beef on Sundays, must . . . etc.

So 10 on one list and 10 on the other, what are the stats on that ever working? there are only six balls in the lottery, aren't there? 😆

you have to laugh, while sorting through your coin and frog collection alone 😥

maybe we are all doomed!