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Does anyone want to buy my dating profile?
It's pretty awesome... £100 or a case of decent Rioja.
I would rather pull my own balls of with a boa constrictor,
than date any of the nut jobs who I have had the chance to be with so far.
Single ❓ , I am sane 💡 enough said ❗
[i]I got messed up pretty bad a few years back[/i]
Sorry to read that, but that is kinda the way this stuff can go.
Better to cry than never laugh and all that.
LoL @ Kaesae.
You're not happy about something. I can tell you know 😉
Better to cry than never laugh and all that.
Indeed! And at least I can look back at that particular adventure and laugh at bits of it, like how on Earth did I get myself in that situation in the first place!
Does anyone want to buy my dating profile?
Come on then TSY, show us all!!
Rachel
EDIT - (so hope I don't get seduced by the TSY's smooth talking...)
TSY.
Won't your profile come with a bit of [i]baggage[/i]
After all, by your own admission, you seem to have been quite busy in the past with the ladies on said website ?....
Perhaps you should be paying someone to take your dating profile from you.
Kinda like toxic waste disposal or something.
🙂
I'm not showing my profile on here, they'll just copy it and then where will I be?
Kit... happy to give you a discount, maybe a half-decent case of Rioja.
I'm busy later so be quick or you'll just have to wait until tomorrow.
Solo I am a very easy going happy guy, my life is not easy but it is good. That said I have a wicked sense of humour and I love to laugh!
Having recently been with someone who I was friends with before hand, I have had to except that most people are not complete inside, this makes them restless and unhappy.
If I told you about all the shit that I went through for love, you would more likely than not get a right good laugh, however I have learnt that sometimes the only course of action is not to fight the current battle or conflict, but to withdraw and choose your fiture battles and conflicts more wisely!
One day I will hopefully find my love and meet my children, but it is not this day 😀
I'm not showing my profile on here, they'll just copy it and then where will I be?
sure you're not just scared we'll all start stalking you??
Rachel... I'm hardly going to give you my pictures or my address... just the words... unless someone's particularly ugly then my pics [i]might[/i] be an improvement...
And Kaesae, we're all a little 'nut job' so you might as well learn to live with it!
And I mean ALL, not just 1/2!!
Rachel
single? nope. not for the past 18 months or so. and it's great.
i was single for a couple of years prior to that, following an 11 year relationship with someone with a badly broken brain and with hindsight that should have ended years before it did.
my period of singledom started badly but soon brightened up and i actually quite liked it, but i'm liking the present situation more than anything else before it though... and i met her through one of the dating websites too. not that fitness singles one though; proper waste of time and money, that was!
I had a friend met someone really nice on that Fitness Singles. Not at all loopy. My friend is, though, so maybe that balanced it out...
Rachel
i went on one date with someone from fitness singles and although it/she was okay, there was no spark or anything. the rest though... delusional is the word that comes to mind.
having said that though, the site i met my gf through wasn't much better really! then again, i suppose a 40something, bald, slightly overweight, teetotal, vegan, MTB riding IT technician isn't that much of a catch to most women!
Kaesae.
No worries dude. Just struck me that your comment was amusing.
Although the earlier one was slightly darker, before you Edit ninja'd it.
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Rachel my dear, there is nut job and there is nut jobbie, in touch with reality nut job, out of touch with reality nut jobbie.
I am happy to meet someone half way, I have no problem with sacrafice or compromise, but I will not suffer selfish people with awful attitudes.
Are you single rachel ❓ 😀 😉
err - that's direct!! 😯
Enough gibber jabber female! just answer the question 8)
well, I did state it about 1/2 an hour ago in black & white just up there ^
*is v glad is not single*
emsz - I'm rapidly becoming quite jealous!!
Rachel
I was just playing Rachel, I know most people are mental. If I ever forget it, the clothes! makeup! and walks a lot of people have, will help to remind me 😉
There are a lot of people growing old alone, who don't want too and that's never a good thing.
Me too, Kaesae - you're okay really. 🙂
Bit confused at your comment about make-up, though - trying to tell us something?? 😉
Rachel
😯
Being single, pros: independence
Cons:
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@ Supertramp, damn and I was going to leave him tonight just so I could see whether I preferred the freedom.
I must admit that we drive some of our single friends mad occasionally, just because we are so close and I don't do anything without having checked with him first which they find weird, like I have to get his permission. But - it's not that at all, I just feel that I've made that commitment to him, i.e. to share my life with him so it's only right to check whether he's happy with me doing something. It helps that I know he would never say no but that's different 😀
I love being part of a couple, I don't really like being on my own and I don't like being away from him overnight even to be honest. In 11 years we've in total spent 10 nights apart and that is just the way I'd like to keep it 🙂
Avoid the Tesco dating site ----------- all I got was a bag for life 😆
Single at the moment, internet dating is starting to look attractive unfortunately, a career in engineering and lots of solo weekends in the highlands don't allow me to cross paths with many eligible lassies, or at least not for long enough!
I love being part of a couple, I don't really like being on my own and I don't like being away from him overnight even to be honest. In 11 years we've in total spent 10 nights apart and that is just the way I'd like to keep it
Each to their own, and fair play to you and all that, but you are aware that most people (including those in relationships) will find that kind've freaky! Even when I've been in very committed relationships, time apart to do my own thing was very welcome. People who do absolutely everything together as a couple, and you can't ever get the one without the other even for just a pint in the pub, are scary!!!
Rachel, so you're from Kings Lynn... Ever questioned why you're single? Only seems to mr you're capable of rational thought, can construct a sentence, and I'm assuming ride a bike. Seems like you're a bit "advanced" for Kings Lynn! 😉 Move to somewhere with hills and mountains!
then again, i suppose a 40something, bald, slightly overweight, teetotal, vegan, MTB riding IT technician isn't that much of a catch to most women!
You actually put that on a dating site? Going for the reverse psychology approach were you? I'm intrigued... Might go reregister with one now and sell myself as "needy, emotional, clingy slob needs an emotional crutch" perhaps, see if that works! Haha. Should raise a few laughs at least, and isn't that the point!
Oh we don't do everything together, we both have our own things but I have had comments from friends if I want to check with him before a night or whole day away just because he deserves a say, at the end of the day it's our money I'd be spending and when you work 9-5 all week to bog off for a weekend without spending any time together is a bit unfair so it's just out of respect really. I'm not making judgements on anyone's singledom or their relationships, just answering a question. Oh and his mates are welcome to him at the pub, but I am friends with most of their wives so we do tend to all end up together most of the time anyway.
mboy - In so many ways you're right - it is a bit of backwater but, somehow, I've come to love it. Actually, I'm very lucky in where I bought - it's a bit of a lovely enclave in a sea of desolation. 🙂
And anyway - its not that bad - the Lightning Seeds did a free gig here Sat night. (oh - okay it IS that bad..)
And The Feeling are next Sat...
Rachel
And anyway - its not that bad - the Lightning Seeds did a free gig here Sat night. (oh - okay it IS that bad..)
"Oh Lucky You" (sorry for the pun!)
Haha, you sell it so well! Had to spend 2 days in Kings Lynn 2 years ago, was doing some consultancy work for one of the many potato packing factories down the road... Honestly, I spent many hours trying to find anything to do, but I couldn't believe just how sparse and lifeless it was, the Premier Inn I was staying in was about the most happening place! Maybe everyone's busy copping off with direct family members? 😉
Yes, the delights are well hidden, I'll give you that. Imagine trying to find the love of your life here - I've not got an easy task!!!
Rachel
Right lads and lasses at STW's speed date week, you've had a couple of minutes to chat to your dates, now it's time to move to the next table and meet the next date.
hello sharki! this is all going to end in tears isn't it. I must be at the wrong table
Right lads and lasses at STW's speed date week, you've had a couple of minutes to chat to your dates, now it's time to move to the next table and meet the next date.
But I was happy talking to a woman, I don't want to have to move to the next table, or the next, middle aged men with a career in IT don't cut it for me these days!
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Rules are rules guys.
You get to say who you liked at the end of the week and if they like you also, perhaps then you can arrange a real lengthy date and do sum ridin' of sorts, maybe share an afternoon pimms by the park.
Or even sit and chat till the early hours loosing track of time and not even recalling what you've been waffling on about.
Emma82.
Don't listen to the rest of them. You sound spot on to me.
I have similar thoughts about repescting your partner and giving them a say. Not necessarily a veto, just a say.
You just carry on as you are kid, don't let this place mess with your head.
😉
Thank you solo, tis a bit boringly predictable on the attitudes around here of late though. I'm bored of it now to be fair, chatting on forums is nice but I don't particularly offer comments and expect to be told I'm a freak or scary? This'll do me, tada.
🙁
the Lightning Seeds did a free gig here Sat night
Hey, Status Quo are playing a free gig in Morzine town square this summer, so you've got off lucky with Ian Broudie and his merry* bunch of troubadors.
* OK, bit of a stretch. Ian B is one of the grumpiest people I've ever met.
yes emma, for what it's worth if my gf was really against me going somewhere or doing something, i don't think i'd do it either.
if it works for you, then that doesn't make you "freaky" or whatever. too many people on here seem to think it's ok to try to impose their own personal moral/ethical code on everyone else.
[i]too many people on here seem to think it's ok to try to impose their own personal moral/ethical code on everyone else[/i]
Isn't that the essence of the STW forum, correctly or wrongly ?.
Hence this place being flame-off central, at times.
I too believe that it is a total waist of time to try to [i]change[/i] someone. Therefore, I seek a compatible match, not someone I might be able to bend to my will.
I guess you have to have travelled a certain distance down the road before you come to a conclusion such as that.
Emma82 is doing well imo because she is putting in what she hopes to get out.
She claims to consider and consult her partner, and I'm sure she receives the same considerations in return.
Reading some of the posts on here, you couldn't be blamed for mistaking some folk as the type of people who impose their will on their partner in some kind of intimate one-up-manship.
A sort of " I can't respect you, cos that wouldn't be cool, but you have to respect and worship me ".
Now. Thats [b]real[/b] crazy.
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Emma82... mrsconsequence always asks if i'm alright with her visiting friends, family, going on holiday without me etc... she knows she doesnt have to ask... she knows i will always grin at her, tell her i love her and of course she can do what she wants.. she knows she never needs to ask...
but like you she likes to check and make sure im happy even though she knows she doesnt need to 🙂
Isn't that the essence of the STW forum...
Not at all Solo. You're just revealing your complete lack of understanding about STW. This place is about me. Pure and simple. I'm the forum's sole purpose for existing.
HTH
[i]Not at all Solo. You're just revealing your complete lack of understanding about STW. This place is about me. Pure and simple. I'm the forum's sole purpose for existing[/i]
😆 😆
Morning TSY.
gentlemen... if you're worrying that getting in a relationship will mean you cant stare at boobs then you're after the wrong wimminz.... mrsconsequence has the most impressive boob-radar i've known. she'll spot them, point them out and comment on them often long before any man in the room has noticed them.
Phil.
My Ex didn't mind. Although, I'm not a very diligent boob spotter anyway.
Her reasoning was that it was the day I stopped looking that she would begin to worry.
😉
Sharki / TJ - STW 'speed dating' and you're already swapping tables - some of us are still hovering around the doorway checking out what's going on before deciding whether to venture inside! On reflection, there's no way I'm going in! The thought of speed dating / blind dates / t'internet sites etc really doesn't appeal 😯
Fully respect that everyone is different, but I know that I couldn't be in a relationship where we spent all our time together. I travel loads for work and socially, often away for several days or a week or more. Sometimes that's great, and I've been lucky enough to travel to some amazing places (off to conferences in Amsterdam and Switzerland later this year), sometimes it's hard as I'm stuck in a city on my own - but have decided to enlist the help of STW to meet up with folks in different places in the future 🙂
Don't really want a relationship at the moment - I'm happy having the freedom to do what I want, go off travelling and having adventures, and taking the time to find out a bit more about who I am and what I want from life. It's great to meet up with new people, but I'd hate the idea of that being some kind of pre-arranged 'blind date' and would rather just get to know folks through doing things I enjoy. Don't really want to spend the rest of my life living like a nun, but having my autonomy and independence is more important to me right now.
[i]Don't really want a relationship at the moment - [b]I'm happy having the freedom to do what I want, go off travelling and having adventures, and taking the [u]time to find out a bit more about who I am and what I want from life[/u][/b]. It's great to meet up with new people, but I'd hate the idea of that being some kind of pre-arranged 'blind date' and would rather just get to know folks through doing things I enjoy. Don't really want to spend the rest of my life living like a nun, but having my autonomy and independence is more important to me right now.
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I'll wager you are less than 30 yrs old.
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In BOLD: What does all that mean, exactly ?.
philconsequence - Membergentlemen... if you're worrying that getting in a relationship will mean you cant stare at boobs then you're after the wrong wimminz.... mrsconsequence has the most impressive boob-radar i've known. she'll spot them, point them out and comment on them often long before any man in the room has noticed them.
since being with my gf, i'm yet to spot more impressive boobs than hers. and that's not down to not checking any out!
Sue i'm not speed dating, i'm more of a bald male zummersetian Cilla Black. Would rather get couples together that way than go down that line of meeting ladies.
I'd rather meet someone whilst out and about doing the things i love whilst i'm being me, which usual means i'm scruffy, smelling of animal manure and probably mostly unkept.
sharki - you sound like me, pity you're not a woman 🙁
I can be if the need is there.
*tempts to post THAT pic!* 😀
I can be if the need is there.
it's a generous offer, thanks but no thanks 😉
This topic has been a revelation - for example:
From just reading posts I thought allthegear was a bloke! No a gorgeous woman - you certainly live and learn 🙂
From just reading posts I thought allthegear was a bloke! No a gorgeous woman - you certainly live and learn
She does sign off 90% of her posts with "Rachel", amazing how unattentive we males are on the whole eh! 😉
I can be if the need is there.
*tempts to post THAT pic!*
It's been a while, I think the current audience is ready for the pics once more! 😆
I'm not sure the current crop of forum dwellers are ready for such wierd/freakiness.
Also a banning would i'm sure be on the cards as it breaks most rules, and it goes well beyond the seeminly minor offences that get people very uppity on here of late.
mboy - i did notice the 'Rachel', but only once 😳 I will pay more attention from now on!
[i]This topic has been a revelation[/i]
More of a confirmation about certain things for me.
Like how young women live in a dream world where Mr Spontaneous, handsome, movie star is going to just pop up and sweep them off they feet.
Then they wake up one Sunday morning. They're now in their mid 30s and they realise, as they stare blurry eyed into the mirror.
That the dream didn't really turn out as they'd hope for.
That they didn't just happen to find Mr right, all unranged and unexpected while having [i]adventures[/i].
The more I think about it, the more I think Emma82 had it right.
She has her man, and that can be the greatest adventure of all, living and sharing your life with someone special to you.
I bet her photo album of her visiting all manner of places around the world with her BF is way better than one stuffed with pics of a single woman amongst people she met then, but doesn't keep in contact with now, at said different locations.
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Well said solo, (but I'm sure the same thing applies to all those dating site men) and well done (again) the the brilliant emma82
maybe the problem is there just aren't enough emma82's to go round 😀
Solo, you could apply a similar stereotype to blokes too i.e. they all want a Nuts model look-a-like, who isn't in any way demanding or needy, and lets her bloke do whatever he likes when he likes, and has a fit best mate who likes threesomes. And then gets to his 30-somethings and realises he's an ugly git who'll never attract a woman like that and needs to be more realistic and settle for a real woman. Or something...
ST and Kit.
Yeap, fair play there.
I've written that from the perspective of my position, and I'm not the guy who either lives in a dream where Julia Roberts is going to just turn up and tell me "this is it dude".
Or where women are there only to be used and messed around to inflate my self image.
But then again, I'm in my early 40s now and at least [b]I know[/b] that I'd like to find someone.
😉
And then gets to his 30-somethings and realises he should hit on 20-something females
FIFY
Nice try TSY.
But didn't you know ?. 20 somethings are only using you until Brad Clooney turns up.
Or, they are too busy for relationships as they are having unexpected, unarranged [i]adventures[/i].
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are having unexpected, unarranged adventures
You rang?
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Solo - if you're trying to have some kind of dig at me, please just come out and say it.
Sharki
- with you on that one 🙂I'd rather meet someone whilst out and about doing the things i love whilst i'm being me
Sue_W are you one of these paranoid 30-somethings I hear about from dating site horror stories??
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Sue_w, have I missed something?
Sue
Please read the thread. As TSY says. The Dating sites appear to be full of women who only want to travel and have adventures.
You won't know that, unless you are looking at the womens pages.....
They're all the same, its getting boring to read that about a woman.
Everyone travels, most refer to it as a holiday.
😉
But, if you want to exercise your paranoid gland, feel free.
However, before you do.
What the heck is in it for me to have a dig at a young woman I do not know ?.
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TSY. That picture was exactly what I was thinking.
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Ninja editor be ninja editing.
[i]Maybe it's her time of the month?
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Now, now. TSY.
Lets not pick on the lady. she may have barked at me, but I'm going to let it slide.
🙂
It's your word against mine Solo.
Everyone know's how well behaved [i]I[/i] am, and that there's not a chance in the world I'd say anything so derogatory.
TSY.
You've been out-Ninja'd.
Don't make it worse.
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But, if you want to exercise your paranoid gland, feel free.
Lets not pick on the lady. she may have barked at me, but I'm going to let it slide.
Crikey, ever wondered why you're single? 😕
Personally, I think Sue_W has got exactly the right idea, but then I'm definitely more that kind of person myself anyway. It takes all sorts, and for every person like emma82 (and I totally respect her choices, it just wouldn't be for me) who is happy with their lot, there are people who (like me) are openly a bit more selfish about their needs/wants/desires.
Asking your BF/GF/Husband/Wife if it's ok before you go off to do something is just courtesy, of course it should be done. The issue would arise if any restrictions ever came into play about the amount of time spent with friends, or riding bikes etc. IMO, or if I was made to feel guilty for doing things I enjoy (as long as not harming anyone else of course).
TBH Solo... there'd be no point in me existing if someone hadn't captured that comment. You've fallen into my trap... your spreading my message whilst I get to seem like I have a conscience. 😀
Crikey, ever wondered why you're single?
He probbly hazzunt. Probbly blames women for [i]their[/i] issues and [i]their[/i] problems, rather than having the balls to look at himself.
You do seem a bit bitter towards women, Solo, going by your derogatory, judgemental and condescending dismissal of women with crap like this:
Like how young women live in a dream world where Mr Spontaneous, handsome, movie star is going to just pop up and sweep them off they feet.Then they wake up one Sunday morning. They're now in their mid 30s and they realise, as they stare blurry eyed into the mirror.
That the dream didn't really turn out as they'd hope for.
Diddums. Always someone else's fault, is not it? Ah, you poor sausage....
So, why are you single again....?
I'm single because no one can put up with me for more than 5 minutes. Not even me! 😯
😥
m[b]boy[/b]
Sorry dude, I don't think Sue is interested.
Never mind 😉
As for being single. Well, if you'd read the thread, you'll see I'm single at the moment as a consequence of a decision I made.
Aren't you single too at the moment....
TSY.
Damn !. You got me......
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Single and I don't know why.
Could anyone tell me where I'm going wrong?