[Closed] are you single?

single,lifestyle choice.

Single, reason: Double jointed

No, but if I wasn't with my wife, I'd definitely be single out of choice. Though I am pretty confident that my wife and I will be together until death. Being single is great though. Whether it suits you is whether you are emotionally needy, which I am not.

Yes. Single and not liking it that much.

Started as a bit of a laugh, but I got myself onto one of those dating websites.

Boy what a waste of time that was. I won't be renewing.
It appears to be full of 30 something women waiting for Brad Clooney or George Pitt to pluck them from the rough and whisk them away.
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So, yeah, single just now.

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Oh, yes, the why thing.

Neglect. I felt in the end that I wasn't really that important other than for providing.
So I called time.

[i]Whether it suits you is whether you are emotionally needy[/i]

Err. Thats BS mate.

For many years, my GF was my best mate and the person I wanted to spend my free time with, rather than ever being single for a few hours or days.

Thats friendship, not being [i]emotionally needy[/i] anymore than anything suffering the human condition.

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Erm, each to their own...

Though I am pretty confident that my wife and I will be together until death

That sounds pretty sinister

[i]Erm, each to their own...
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Agreed. The capacity to have a balanced sense of emotion would appear to wasted on some folk.
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[i]Being single is great though[/i]
GGS

Yep single, originaly not through my own choice, however, I'm now loving it, although having a regular, er how shall I put this, romantic liason certainly helps.

Single. And very very happy.

I have come to the conclusion that women are, generally, barking mad.

Married for 8 years and I'm only (only 😉 ) 33. She's awesome - and oddly she has never learnt to ride a bike but is happy for me to bugger off for ages on mine.
Perhaps not being the same helps! Although we do have quite a bit in common.

i am just waiting for lowey to turn to the darkside -see you tomorrow 😉

single after seventeen yrs with the wrong woman,enjoying the freedom but not wanting to stay single for too long so a mixed bag really.

[i]women are, generally, barking mad[/i]

Yeap, being a Man, I can't help but know what you mean.

I still likem though.
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[i]i am just waiting for lowey to turn to the darkside -see you tomorrow[/i]

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mmb.

I'm similar, but had 21yrs on the clock 😯

he is picking up a road bike from me tomorrow 😀

[i]he is picking up a road bike from me tomorrow[/i]

PHEW !.

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Single, I suppose between relationships is accurate. I do like being single but at 36 I'm starting to think about settling down if the right person comes along. If not I shall very happily die alone.

It appears to be full of 30 something women waiting for Brad Clooney or George Pitt to pluck them from the rough and whisk them away.

Hehehe, ever noticed how emotionally needy their "about me" essays are too? And then their longest relationship is always "less than a year"... Sorry, just me then? 😉

Single, not through my own doing, but not in a rush to be with anyone either. Not really ready for it to be honest right now!

[i]Hehehe, ever noticed how emotionally needy their "about me" essays are too? And then their longest relationship is always "less than a year"... Sorry, just me then?[/i]

Its true though. They really think Hugh Grant is just going to rock up to their front door and sort them out a great life of traveling, dinner parties, horses, etc.

Actually, it has worried me slightly just how many 30 something women there are out there, apparently seeking a man....And not just the err, [i]average[/i] looking ones either.

And theres another thing. They all describe themselves as attractive or very attractive. Which kind of makes me cringe abit.

I mean, its fine to have self confidence and think to yourself "yeah, I can look good" and [b]some[/b] of them do....

But to tell people, "I'm attractive" Fact.
Well, it just makes wince.

But to tell people, "I'm attractive" Fact.
Well, it just makes wince.

Hahaha. My first question when I read that is... "So why haven't you got a boyfriend already?" 😉

Besides, isn't attractive wholly subjective? I mean, my ex GF to me was a stunner, but many of my friends wouldn't have fancied her. One of my best mates' wife is ubiqitously fancied by everyone, I like her and think she's a great girl and they're good together, but physically she does nothing for me.

Seriously though, many of us are single through circumstance, but there are a lot of 30 somethings like you say, who have obviously just realised if they don't settle down soon they'll be infertile before they can have kids, but like you say still think George or Brad or Hugh is gonna sweep em away! I can say without comeback "I'm intelligent" (I have pieces of paper to prove it!)... But not attractive, cos that's all in the eye of the beholder!

Oh, and FYI, "don't message me if you're only after one thing cos I'm not that kind of girl" means "I'm filth, and I haven't had it in a while, PLEASE get in touch even if you only want a bit of casual sex"... Seriously... Any girl worth while wouldn't even mention it, as the thought hadn't crossed her mind! 😉

Any girl worth while wouldn't even mention it, as the thought hadn't crossed her mind!

Mboy.. Girls get speculative msgs on those sites before they've even posted a pic of themselves. There are other sites that they can go on if they just want to get laid.

My extensive resarch into dating sites says they're all shite but you can have alot of fun through them. Meeting people in real life is a much better way of doing things though.

My extensive resarch into dating sites says they're all shite but you can have alot of fun through them. Meeting people in real life is a much better way of doing things though.

Hell yeah, I gave up years ago... Just sharing some pearls of wisdom...

Hmmm... well I think you're wrong on your last point. The attractive women on dating sites know full well that if they want to get ****** they'll go to a night club.

The attractive women on dating sites know full well that if they want to get ****** they'll go to a night club

The debate about the word "attractive" has already been started... 😉

So in essence, we agree...

[i]My extensive resarch into dating sites says they're all shite but you can have alot of fun through them. Meeting people in real life is a much better way of doing things though[/i]

After my brief experience I am coming round to agreeing with you there, accept for the fun bit. I don't play about with people (and I'm not accusing you of doing so) I'm just genuinely available and looking. Like what people are supposed to do, maybe ?.

Anyway, whats the OP's story ?. Single, going to be, will never be ?.

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At least I've got the online dating curiousity out of the way.

Solo... I was genuinely available... I just made myself as available as possible.

I looked on those sites the same as you would Autotrader. There full of used vehicles. You want to test ride a few cars, as close together as possible, for comparisson purposes before deciding that you'd rather ride your bike anyways.

[i]Oh, and FYI, "don't message me if you're only after one thing cos I'm not that kind of girl" means "I'm filth, and I haven't had it in a while, PLEASE get in touch even if you only want a bit of casual sex"... [/i]

Ummm...sorry to disappoint lads but that actually means don't bother getting in touch if you want that, go and find a slapper in a club!

TSY.

Mate, if thats how it works for you, that fine.

To a Man's mind (me...)it just seems so simple. Find a woman who likes you and who you like, live happily ever after.

But it can't happen if the other side don't get their act together.
And so far ime, the otherside just aint sorting themselves out, and as one of the posts above points out.

Women, unlike men, do have a schedule to bare in mind. Clock is ticking and all that.
You read people's pages where all they want to do at 35yrs of age is travel the world, some more !.
And, well, they're not sure [i]if[/i] they want to have children !.

Not sure !, you're 35 and you don't know. eh ?.

I don't know, its not the best day for me. I'm stuck at work, have been all day, with a full week ahead and deadlines.

Solo, do you want a hug?

Aleigh... that was my point too! How are you btw? 😉

Aleigh.

Put the flame thrower down.

I take those kind of messages on face value.

Ime, after being part of a long term thing, one knows that the physical side is only one part of what it takes to make a life with someone.

TSY.

Let me tell you buddy. If that did it for me, I'd be the luckiest guy in the world.
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Instead.
Tell me you've organised the team entry for SiTS and all I have to do is give you money.
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Yo TSY! I am good thanks, finally settling into the single way of life...which 'means' I will now meet the man of my dreams 😆 *mutters under breath - 'what a crock of crap'*

How are you? I haven't been on here much to read your jolly posts!

[i] Aleigh.

Put the flame thrower down.

I take those kind of messages on face value.[/i] glad to hear it haha!

Haha. I've cut back on this place a lot. Settled into single life and well... I've been a very busy boy of late 😀 Still thinking I need a dry ride at Brechfa sometime though...

I've actually been too busy to make Solo's dreams come true infact 🙁 sorry dude, sounds like I personally won't be making the team.

I looked on those sites the same as you would Autotrader. There full of used vehicles. You want to test ride a few cars, as close together as possible, for comparisson purposes before deciding that you'd rather ride your bike anyways.

Here speaks a TRUE Mountain Biker. Personally, I prefer meeting a potential partner of the opposite sex to be slightly more emotional, but maybe that's where I've been going wrong?

Don't tell me you went on Autotrader and fell in love with a little red number up north somewhere, she's perfect for you and you'll be together forever, if only she wasn't quite so far away, and a little too high maintenance to be ideal? 😉

Still thinking I need a dry ride at Brechfa sometime though...

Bloody long way from anywhere, but recently visited for the first time... WELL WORTH the trip!

[i]Too busy to make Solo's dreams come true infact sorry dude, sounds like I personally won't be making the team.[/i]

TSY. Let me get this right. You are bailing from your own team, yes ?.

Just confirm this and I'll let the others know, if I have contacts for them, and if they haven't found this thread.

emotional, but maybe that's where I've been going wrong?

N00B!!

[i]Still thinking I need a dry ride at Brechfa sometime though...[/i]

Ahhh yes, I haven't taken my lucky weather along with you yet have I?!! I haven't been in over a year now, I have withdrawal symptoms 😆

TSY. Let me get this right. You are bailing from your own team, yes ?

Ohh FFS was an e-mail too hard to send I mean I replied like 10 days later 🙄

Junkyard.

What on earth are you going on about ?.

That question was for TSY ❓

I looked on those sites the same as you would Autotrader. There full of used vehicles. You want to test ride a few cars, as close together as possible, for comparisson purposes before deciding that you'd rather ride your bike anyways.

LOL

Interesting thread to read from a non-single girls perspective, if I were a bloke I'd be single out of choice. I annoy myself... Definitely avoid emotional ones mboy, women can store up a whole load of crazy!

Single not by choice ... hmmm ... wonder if my shoes are the problem ... 😐

They just understand shoes ...

Bubbly = fat!

I haven't been single for 6 years, everybody's pretty mental once you scratch the surface; you just need to find a variety of unhinged that works with yours.

Bubbly = fat!

Anyway single for about 10 years, 6 mths=long term. Tried a dating website, met one really mental case, one quite nice lass but nothing happened and a lovely woman I'm with a year later. She probably is mental, but see above, same kind of mental as me, so woohoo

everybody's pretty mental once you scratch the surface; you just need to find a variety of unhinged that works with yours.

Yep, this pretty much nails it. It's when people become convinced they're totally sane and everyone else has some kind of problem that they're a small step away from dismembering prostitutes and making stuff out of them.

Definitely avoid emotional ones mboy, women can store up a whole load of crazy!

LOL, so can men too BTW!

BTW, you actually chatted to my ex at Swinley last year some time too... Haha.

Single, mainly due to my lifestyle choice.

Being homeless and Jobless aren't massive factors in making a bloke on the cusp of 40 yrs old eligible..or at least so you might think...

It's bizarre really, wherever i wander, the more adventures i have, the more random my life gets, i seem to become someone of interest. With the love and admiration for all things living, my positive outlook, optimistic views. Having the time of day to talk with nice people and to offer help where i can, sharing life through my eyes, etc..

It appears my lack of material things means little to some women and they want to take me in, perhaps to mother me, care for me, maybe just to saturate themselves with my carefree and spiritual calm..

If i was to settle i'd not be alone for long, however i still fear i'd end up with a wrong un again. Torn and damaged i am, still hurting from the last evil spell from the ex. From her i lost my freedom which almost stole my life.

When it's time, that time will be right only then will i be single no more.

Sharki, Happy dating all you seekers of the unknown.

Ha yea I've come across a few emotionally unhinged blokes, but never one that explodes with crazy and are unmanageable like some females (including myself in some bad moods). I think we're wired differently..

Mboy, I chatted to your ex at Swinley?

I've come across a few emotionally unhinged blokes, but never one that explodes with crazy and are unmanageable

tbf, i share an office with someone who researches domestic violence and I wouldn't be in a huge hurry to agree with that, at least based on the things I hear.

sharki, blessed be man. I hope the spell gets banished and your paths are full of possibility.

HeathenWoods that is a very fair point, I'll come back to this in a few weeks once I've started working with male perpetrators of DV... Although, I think I view that kind of explosion different to a female explosion of crazy, perhaps cos females can twist or confuse everything so incredibly that it becomes complicated and scary.

Yes. I think mainly because I can be awkward to talk to and don't do commitment very well.

Hmm, I'd say reality - particularly emotional reality (if there is such a thing) - [i]is[/i] complicated and scary! I tend to find that men simplify it in a way that means they don't have to face up to its complexities until a point comes when fate forces their hand and then -snap- the shit hits the fan. Still, with six billion people in the world, all getting it on in a wild variety of ways, there's always going to be a lot of different perspectives about this 🙂

Hmm I like the way you put it Heathen, maybe that's why men and women do work together.. Men try and simplify any issues a female may be facing (I know Philconsequence does and it helps me a truck load!) and females can somehow guide a male into the complexities a little more so and thus the world is harmonious....

Was last year sometime MrsC, I was chatting to Phil, you got chatting to her briefly.

Hmmm I dont remember any females apart from cinnamon girl.. My memory is horrendous. I was probably focusing on how scared I was bout riding with so many people and not being able to keep up! Ha

Was at the end, munching on the copious amounts of Haribo you guys had brought along with you... 😉

Single? Yes. Through choice? Not really. Happy that way? Not really. Resigned to it? Yes.

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@ Kaesea

I read that.

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CZ. Why resigned to it ?.

I like this thread! I've never been single really cos I was legally a child (@ just turned 17) when I met my OH so have no idea what it would be like. I have a few single friends but that's not through choice, they just don't seem to be able to find someone and with the one, she wants to be with someone but is now so independent she probably scares a few blokes off because they aren't allowed to encroach too much or she gets rid.

Ha ha, have you seen how many lasses have pictures of themselves skydiving on those dating websites? Apparently they also like staying in with a bottle of wine and a dvd, in between jumping out of light aircraft. 😀

[i]Ha ha, have you seen how many lasses have pictures of themselves skydiving on those dating websites? Apparently they also like staying in with a bottle of wine and a dvd, in between jumping out of light aircraft.[/i]

Yes !. I'm not sure what the message is. I've jumped out of a plane, and I like red wine.

However, I'm not sure how attractive as a potential partner that makes me ?.

[i]I like this thread! I've never been single really cos I was legally a child (@ just turned 17) when I met my OH so have no idea what it would be like[/i]

Hopefully you've sorted your feet out ?.
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you just need to find a variety of unhinged that works with yours.

One of the truest things ever written on this site!

Sane people are so flipping boring.

emma82, have you ever wondered what it would be like to live alone, or even regretted never having tried it?

Yes !. I'm not sure what the message is. I've jumped out of a plane, and I'll never have to do anything active again.

emma82, have you ever wondered what it would be like to live alone, or even regretted never having tried it?

or even with someone else?

umm, I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it, or wondered about being with someone else, especially through some of our rough patches but I genuinely think that we have something very special and have grown together as we have gotten older rather than apart as some people who get together young do. I don't for one second think that I would be better throwing it away just to see what happens. The way I see it if I wake up in the morning happy that hubby to be is next to me, albeit probably farting, then I'll put up with the farting and stick with him 🙂 I find it funny that some people get so freaked out by it but I wouldn't change anything, Im a very lucky girl.

p.s. not sure about the feet, I can't smell. Ill have to ask the other half later!

emma82, well done you!

no, don't dump him just to test my theory, casual friendship through a forum is not that important 😉

I often wonder though if people have a 'pairing mode' for a certain stage of their lives, and yours was obviously in sync with someone else. Does it get harder to be a 'significant other' in direct proportion to the amount of time spent alone?

Single? Nope- married with two kids. It means i eat a lot better than i used to but i dont get to ride anywhere near as often as id like!
(Maybe that'll change when the kids sod off to school!).

Emma82.

I'm sure your feet will be fine. It was just a contextural remark.
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Charlie.
What in all that is good, are you saying ?.

Acutally, ignore my Q.

I can't be 4rsed to know.
Just so long as you're happy dude 😉

Single.

Why? Well it's a long story but there's been a lot of change in my life and, to be honest, I really don't think I could have coped with being in a relationship through it all - would have been nice on occasion though...

Bit bored of it now.

Rachel

[i]Bit bored of it now.[/i]

Oh yeah ?. What you gonna do about it then.....
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If my experience of online dating is anything to go by.

I'd save you the trouble.

From my perspective theres "slim pickings" in Norfolk.

lolol - yeah, I can imagine!!

I'll make a proper effort soon enough - God help the residents of Norwich lol

Rachel

The thing is, I think I'm kinda starting to like being single, though. I never used to have any issues before so I'm not used to this!!

Hey !.

I live in Norwich.

Didn't I once forward to you an iDave file ?.

[i]The thing is, I think I'm kinda starting to like being single[/i]

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iDave file?? no - but maybe I need it! lol

I live in KL but know lots of people in Norwich so go out there a lot. Including Friday when I saw the fab Dove and Boweevil in Olive's...

HHmmm.

I did send out a fair few copies, and its not the sort of thing I'd commit to memory.

Any decent trails up there ?. Bit of a trek, the A47 isn't the greatest road ever.

Yup I'm single. Is it a lifestyle choice? Er... kinda. I meet plenty of ladies I'd like to date, but who are either not single themselves or aren't interested in a speccy ginger. But on the other hand, there's no way I want to be in a relationship; I got messed up pretty bad a few years back 🙁