[Closed] Are you 1 in 5 or 20% of the population who would say no

I would attend the wedding.

I have a few friends that are openly gay and really don't see the issue.

No issue here.

I have a friend who recently came out at the age of 37. He's now happier than I have ever seen him. Almost half of our common circle of friends have nothing to do with him now. Stupid people. Their loss.

youre going to loose freinds

The wedding's not going to last long if they're loose.
On topic if people love each other who gives a damn. Gay/hetro/transgender/whatever. Why should you refuse to go? Unless you're an arse and it's probably best you don't go and spoil their special day.

When Hora finally accepts what his heart tells him, and rejects the ridiculous sham he's been living, so we can fulfil our destiny and spend the rest of our lives together, I hope you'll all come

i don't get it. If I was to marry my girlfriend, I presume we would spend a little bit of time deciding who to invite, the most likely way we would do that is by inviting our friends. If so, doesn't it make sense that we're likely to invite people that are more likely to say yes?

Somehow 1 in 5 refusing on the basis of us being gay seems fairly unlikely.

Rachel

I'm waiting for Brant to propose to me

Sounds about fair; if you'd asked me what proportion of the population are irredeemably ****tish, I'd have gone for about 20%

If I was invited I would go, I just don't see the problem. What you do with your genetalia, gay or straight, is your concern and not mine, as long as you make each other happy is that not the important thing?

This is purely anecdotal, but in a faith school i was at recently (work related!), there were lots of posters up about how it's ok to be gay etc.

I queried it and it's apparently because the parents and the church are teaching the kids that gay=bad, so the school had noticed that those who were even thought to be gay were being subject to a worrying level of isolation and bullying, so the posters are part of a campaign to try and lessen the stigma that's brainwashed into the kids.

I would say "yes"

I would also respect the rights of others to have different opinions. Demonstrating tolerance rather than having a shouty rant at them may help them realise their hypocritical position

I think you are being too kind scaredypants,I would have gone for 30% .
It's the sneaky,secretly ****tish that you need to watch out for.

nope (as in, would go). don't think have actually been to a same sex ceremony, but as above have several gay couples in our circle and would have been delighted to go to any ceremony they held.

Don't see the problem, why would you go (or be invited even) to ceremony of folk you didn't (clearly) like or respect? Odd.

Huge yes.imagine how good the food would be.

I went to the Civil Partnership of mrs iolo's hairdesser in Marribor, Slovenia.
One of the best weekends ever. I must admit it was great. I had so much fun drinking and dancing all day. They had 2 pugs as bridesmaids.
The Sunday I smashed the DH course with the worst hangover ever.

I'd probably try to weasel out of going if I could just because its a wedding and I've never been to one that was any fun. I would probably actually be happier going to a gay wedding cos I reckon the disco would be better.

And the flowers....... 🙄

Why does this subject get so much air time, homosexuality and religion quite frankly who cares?

I don't mean that as disrespect to either group but it's a bit like asking whose interested in both Concrete Roof Tile designs and also Eastern European Chutney recipes, not exactly mainstream.

I would [i]so[/i] be at that wedding...it would have an AWESOME disco!

I happen to be listening to [i]The Pet Shop Boys - Sodom (Trentemoller Remix)[/i] as I type. AWESOME tune!

Did I say AWESOME? I think I did!

Is there a free bar ?

the numbers don't seem to add up:

[i]
The research also found that younger people were more likely to support same-sex marriage, with 80% of 18 to 34-year-olds backing it, compared with 44% of over-65s.[/i]

Unless the 35-65 y/o are greater than 80% and made up the majority of those surveyed. Or is my maths wrong?

I don't know any gay couples so I'd say no to an invite. I'm not keen on friend's weddings, so there's no way I'd go to a stranger's.

Depends how the questions were asked I suppose.

Why does this subject get so much air time, homosexuality and religion quite frankly who cares?

You're joking right?

I think it's very likely that those who would say "no" wouldn't get invited in the first place. What sort of person would think "I'm going to marry my beloved of the same sex. I know who I'll invite, that bigoted homophobe who thinks I'm going to burn for all eternity"?

I really really don't understand why some people get so het up about who other consenting adults choose to share their bed with.

I would attend the wedding without a nanosecond hesitation.

I am secretly hoping I get the chance to say yes real soon cranbrat would love to be a pageboy at his uncle's wedding. Mind you contrary to stereotype I know for a fact the disco will be rubbish.

What they didn't cover in that report is what percentage of people would turn down an invitation to a Hetero wedding!

But yeah, but sad that people feel that way. You'd think that even if you were against it on some ideological/religious principal you could still celebrate the individual happiness.

Hate the sin, love the sinner sort-of-thing.

Oh well. Their loss.

that bigoted homophobe who thinks I'm going to burn for all eternity"?

The font here has confused me before, and its done it again

I would attend the wedding.

I have a few friends that are openly gay and really don't see the issue.

Same here.

I'd only say no to a wedding invite if I didn't particularly care for the people getting married, straight or gay.

id would and have happily accpeted an invite, wholeheartedly agree on marraige been available for all

HOWEVER equally i'd insist on the person offciating doing so by choice and not because of the threat of been sued.

we all have rights but only with the willing consent of others

No. No way, its disgusting and a crime against the good Lord.

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that bigoted homophobe who thinks I'm going to burn for all eternity"?

I honestly don't know what I'd do . I have worked in catering for many years and have worked and socialised with gay people which I have no problem with but on the other hand I don't agree with Gay marriage . I have no problem with them having a ceremony and pledging a lifetime commitment but I don't think it should be called marriage . I suppose that makes me one of the irredeemably ****tish .

My neighbours are a same sex couple, they came to our wedding, so I'd happily go to theirs.

Surely if you are the type to not attend then you are the type that the couple wouldn't be inviting anyway.

I'd pitch up no worries, its not the middle ages afterall

I have no problems with gay people getting married but do think if an 'organisation' like the church don't want to marry same sex couples in their buildings then they should have that right.

I can also see why they would be miffed about it - not that I am.

^^ this.

Good words, well chosen, I agree.

I think if the church won't marry gays then they can still marry others, but the state shouldn't recognize that.
And if a public employee will only perform their role for those they want to then they shouldn't be in the job. I wouldn't get away with it.

Anyone see Question Time last night? Apparently children is the reason why (non gay) people should get married, according to some stupid woman in the audience. 🙄

The church has married plenty of gay people over the years. They just didn't realise it.

What about same sex adoption then? I think that one may be slightly more controversial to the STW masses?

The font here has confused me before, and its done it again

Me and Mrs TJ have a very close couple of guys who at long last want to show their lifetime commitment to each other next year. Darren gave my wife away at our wedding and he always said he wanted her to return the favour. We cant wait, although its a year away. Will be a great day for a great happy couple. We don't see them as any different to hetro couples and neither do my kids, they are Darren and Roy and my son who is ten knows about how they live together and sees they are very happy. He sees nothing wrong and neither do we.

Sounds about fair; if you'd asked me what proportion of the population are irredeemably ****tish, I'd have gone for about 20%

I'd say that was a highly Conservative estimate 😆

Is a marriage, as the participant or guest, a nice day out? Yes
Do I like a nice day out? Yes
That's my answer. Right there.

Apparently children is the reason why (non gay) people should get married, according to some stupid woman in the audience.

Yeah heard the same argument on the radio today. Apparently Hetero marriage is "special" because it produces children. So we shouldn't allow same sex marriages.

Or presumably infertile people. Or people who already have children. Or old people. Or people who don't actually want kids.

🙄

I have nothing against gay/ lesbian people,
I am not religious

I would attend either a civil partnership or a same sex marriage with no issue

..but for those that are religious the bible does say that marriage is between a man and a woman, so surely the religion should have the right to chose whether or not to allow marriage.

At the end of the day a civil partnership provides all the rights in the eyes of the law, so why try and change religious doctrine

I would go for sure !
I used to go clubbing with the rowdy gay folks when I lived in Newcastle
They know how to throw a do. 🙂

At the end of the day a civil partnership provides all the rights in the eyes of the law, so why try and change religious doctrine

Except that isn't happening. They are quite free to continue their bigotry.

Religion doesn't have a monopoly on marriage. I got married to my wife in an entirely secular ceremony. Why shouldn't gay people be allowed the same right?

Would go no bother. Some people need to wake up to the 21st century. My brothers gay so potential for best man duties there as well if he asked. Which would be different, but wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Me and Mrs TJ

..but for those that are religious the bible does say that marriage is between a man and a woman, so surely the religion should have the right to chose whether or not to allow marriage.

Marriage, in the UK, is a legal institution not a religious one. Should be open to all.

No jokes Pete, maybe in your world there's a lot of Christian Homosexuals but I don't know many of either let alone people who are both.

Perhaps it's the athiests (39% of the UK are apparently)who are saying no to a marriage ceremony held in a religious building.

I hate weddings and I'll usually take any excuse to get out of one but pretending to be a shitehawk is a step too far. So I am the 80%. But I'll still complain about the price at the bar.

I'd go to a friend's wedding gay or not.

How about this though. If your parents were anti-gay and your child was gay, would you try to convince your parents to go to their grandchild's wedding?

would you try to convince your parents to go to their grandchild's wedding?

Ok, how about if it were a straight wedding and you knew your mother didn't approve of your child's partner for one reason or another?

would you try to convince your parents to go to their grandchild's wedding?

Yes.

Because I'd hope they could put aside their ideology for one day for the happiness of a family member.

After all, I go to christenings etc.

I wouldn't say no, I'd go and probably have a bit of a riot, if any of the gay parties I've been to over the years are anything to go by.

However, I'd feel a bit bitter, my Mrs and I couldn't marry in a church, she catholic, me divorcee, we accepted it and got on with life, as things worked out she lost her faith eventually.

We also lived through the period when marriage meant less and less an at the end of the day who gave a damn wether you were married or not. So kind of fail to see why 'they' necessarily need the endorsement, given i assume that the civil partnership deal gives the same rights as we got at the registry office.

I see it as gay hubris, just wanting to rub the noses of the right or church goers in it, in much the same way as the lefties rubbed the right wings noses in the immigration and multicultural pc bullshit. Truth is, these days, other than the primitives, radical islamists etc, nobody gives a toss what your sexuality is, and personally i think it's pathetic that we constantly find we have to define ourselves by it.

That Question Time last night, in Brighton ffs having that debate, why? Are they deliberately trying to inflame opinion against it? Cameron? It was just political opportunism, was it necessary? I don't really think so, most of the gay folk I know just roll their eyes, and get on with life.

It's just bollox, who really even cares?

However, I'd feel a bit bitter, my Mrs and I couldn't marry in a church, she catholic, me divorcee, we accepted it and got on with life, as things worked out she lost her faith eventually.

Rather than bitter couldn't you be proud that society has moved on from such prejudice and is now much more accepting of all?

I would say that of the (100+) gay folk I've met, more than half have been church going Christians. You need to remember that it's almost impossible to be a choir boy and grow up Hetro.. 😈

Nope not a chance in hell I'd go to a gay wedding

footflaps - Member
However, I'd feel a bit bitter, my Mrs and I couldn't marry in a church, she catholic, me divorcee, we accepted it and got on with life, as things worked out she lost her faith eventually.
Rather than bitter couldn't you be proud that society has moved on from such prejudice and is now much more accepting of all?

Has it? It might have done for the gays, but has anything changed for straight folk? Could I marry my mrs in a catholic church with her in the white dress all young girls yearn for, if we presented ourselves today as we were thirty years ago? I doubt it.

Derek: you realise gay people can't marry in a Catholic Church either?

You act as if they are being granted more than you - rather than just asking for the same.

GrahamS - Member
Derek: you realise gay people can't marry in a Catholic Church either?

You act as if they are being granted more than you - rather than just asking for the same.

It's the trouble with pendulums, they swing from wrong to wrong.

It's the whole attention seeking thing, 'oh we're gay we're a special case' when in point of fact they're not

Surely the entire point is that they [b]don't[/b] want to be treated as a special case.

They don't want a special case "civil partnership" alternative to marriage. They just want the same marriage as anyone else.

Seems as if civilisation is safe on here, just a few disenters still in the closet then.

In fact let me qualify that, "It's not the gay way" that should read it's not the "Scene Gay way" there are hundreds of silent Gay majority as well, that just don't want the fuss, that get on with their lives lead normal existences just like the everybody else, but they're not Politicians looking for votes or publicity, in lots of ways this issue quietly in the leafy suburbs has been very detrimental to the harmony that had settled across the orientation divide, if the word divide even is the correct choice, it's not.

I think your own prejudices are showing Derek. The very non-scene quiet leafy suburb gay people I know are quite happy about it.

No one should ever have to be happy or just stay quiet about inequality, whether as a bystander or the affected.

This resistance to gay rights stuff is like "rights for coloured folks" all over again, it's absurd and has no place in society.

Peterfile, I agree, hopefully it won't be that long before the youngsters of today look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. Personally I would like to see the back of gay marriage and just have marriage.

I had my CP in 2006 with MrAdamW. Since there was no 'template' for gay marriage and it had to be done in a registry office we invited 13 people to the office then took them all out for dinner afterwards at a reet posh restaurant.

Apart from Me and MrAdamW only one other was gay (though one other was trans). The straight guests said it was the best wedding they had been to. It was full of fun, laughter and then a lot of playstation playing when they crashed at my house.

We're most probably going to convert to a marriage later on. Neither of us are religious. In fact I'm sure it is very similar to straight marriages. I just end up saying "Yes dear" a lot and doing what I'm told! 😀

As with the religious aspect I will admit I am somewhat confounded by the number of nonbelievers getting married in church. But the church doesn't seem to worry about that.

Having been to a same sex civil partnership ceremony, I'd say it was no different to all the civil marriages I've been to.

A lovely day with great friends and much beer.

Do whatever they like cos that's their choice. Nothing to do with me.

I was both the witness at a civil partnership and the official photographer. Longtime friends in my social group. It was a really lovely day. I feel very sad for people in the past who have truly loved and been condemned for it.

Ironically, the person who I have known to be the most hostile to gay and lesbian weddings (refusing to go, hostile at being invited) was a gay man. He was full of resentment he did not have a life partner, so was incredibly hostile to anyone who did. Rather sad and immature.

I think its important to remember that not all straight weddings are welcomed by family and friends. Sometimes the new partner is hated by the opposing family. My sister and I both had difficult times with dating and weddings as my family were hostile and nasty to anyone we dated. If I had married anyone my parents would never have come to my wedding. Both I and my sister are straight.

I think anyone who finds love and acceptance is lucky and I dont care what sex any of them are. Happy for them to adopt kids too. Any happy home is better than a straight miserable one.

heh! Why would someone change their mind because it's a same sex marriage? Bizarre. Anyone who would do this is a pathetic excise for a human being. Two people who love each other, getting married. What does it matter what gender they are? Madness.

I'd go.

Weve got gay friends, I treat them no different to any others. I hate prejudiced people, I quite gladly treat them differently.