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Our little guy is coming up to 4 years old. He started at pre-school back in September and the first 6 weeks went really well, he seemed to enjoy it etc. His key worker then left for another job (which may be coincidental) but since then he doesn't seem very settled, cries before hand etc. He seems to be OK when he is there but isn't as confident as when he is with us or in other places. We were hoping that a break over xmas might resolve things but it doesn't seem to have. In play parks he will go up to other children and play with them and tends to be confident and outgoing but at pre-school he seems to keep to himself and doesn't want to socialise to much.
We may have the opportunity to move him to another pre-school and wondered if other people have done similar without detrimental effect? Once he starts school he wont be able to move and he hasn't asked to move. He wont tell us why he gets sad but when we ask him if he has a good day at pre-school he says yes.
Any advice/suggestions welcome!
Not quite the same, but my two year old has been at three different nurseries in a year or so, I was impressed how quickly he adapted. I'm sure he will settle given a little time.
I'm not sure how more disruption will help....
I'm not sure how more disruption will help....
That's our concern and also what if he doesn't settle at the other pre-school.
Just give it some time where he is, also talk to his new key worker.
We moved our younger daughter when a pre-school opened at the school our older daughter attends. She settled in to the new place very quickly and seems to enjoy it far more.
I assume he's going to school this September? Do you have a school in mind, and does it have a pre-school? If so it would make settling in at the school much easier as he will be familiar with the site and know lots of the kids.
Neither of the schools he could potentially go to have a pre-school. The pre-school we could change him to was originally discounted because my wife used to run the café on the same site and therefore if he saw her during the day he would likely not want to go to pre-school. My wife has since moved jobs opening up the opportunity for the other pre-school.
Ours had a bad time at nursery. But we talked through it with the staff and figured out how to improve things and it worked.
We changed our 2.8 year old recently as we moved house. She was happy almost all the time at the old one so in your shoes I'd move. You will worry hugely but look at the consistency of comments already here - he will adapt in no time.
She liked the new one from day 1. I think a key reason was she was older than average in group she landed in (now moved up) so was more confident around younger peers.
How is his speech? My 4 year old did have issues with nursery but it turned out he had problems with his ears, so his speech hadn't developed as well as the others his age. So his behaviour was partly down to frustration at people not knowing what he wanted
His speech is fine with family or with his childminder but he doesn’t hardly speak at pre-school. We went there with him before Xmas to a fete thing and he wouldn’t leave my side which just isn’t like him.
As an example last night we went to ikea and had tea there. They have a little play area and he was quite happy being there chatting to other boys and girls while the Mrs and I ate tea. It seems to be the only place he is shy or quiet (whatever the reason is)
We've moved both ours between nurseries/pre-schools without drama.
Both would have been younger than yours at time of the move. We've also swapped them around between different pre and after school clubs at various points. Again without any noticable repercussions.