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I'm CoE by default, not practicing and to be fair not a believer either, my wife is (was) a Catholic but now converted to CoE - done the whole confirmation thingy that adults do.

I think it's some of the Catholic coming out in her, but is it normal Catholic or CoE practice to keep the memory of passed relatives going?

Perhaps it's just me, but when her Grandparents passed, she had memory books made up for two of our boys, now one of them was only 2 when it happened the other was 4, so the younger essentially has no real memory of them, but gets upset about it and I think it's down to this "keeping the memory alive" so to speak.

There's a couple of boxes of jewelry that they get out and look at, and some items of clothing (coats etc) in our under the stairs cupboard also. I strikes me as a bit strange, but I don't want to say anything to the wife as she was very close to them both.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:04 am
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Not sure remembering your loved ones and telling your kids about them is anything to do with religion. We tell our kids about their granddad quite regularly, they see photos of him and memorabilia too.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:14 am
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but is it normal Catholic or CoE practice to keep the memory of passed relatives going?

It’s normal human practice isn’t it?


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:15 am
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I think this is entirely normal.

We all deal with these things in different ways, so whatever you do don't think of someone as 'strange' just because they have a different point of view to you. This is very damaging.

And this kind of thing in particular has been part of human behaviour for maybe hundreds of thousands of years, so don't worry about it.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:18 am
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Fair enough, guess it's just me then.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:20 am
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I don’t want to say anything to the wife

Is it cos she's a mental?


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:42 am
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Not sure remembering your loved ones and telling your kids about them is anything to do with religion.

TBH, I know little about Catholicism specifically but that was my first thought too.

People deal with grief in different ways, I don't think there's any one right or wrong way to do it.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 10:57 am
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Certain Catholic countries do take remembering their relatives a bit more seriously though, day of the dead etc in Mexico and the Philippines.

In general, non British Catholics are a LOT more family oriented than the British. Every single one I have talked to looked horrified when I mentioned that a lot of British patents charge their kids rent for example. You help out if your parents are up shit creak but they balk at a contractual style agreement.


 
Posted : 12/02/2019 11:00 am

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