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Currently having particular trouble with the above condition . Depression and anxiety have plagued my life since the mid 80's leading to all sorts of troubles over the years. I have travelled the world but never found much that gave me a buzz , and had no direction/aim or purpose except to escape from the normal life that seems to satisfy most. Over 35 years I gained my only pleasure from using and abusing alcohol which nearly killed me and ended almost 2 yrs ago after an emergency admission and detox . So here I am unable to have my little bit of pleasure anymore as to do so would be a disaster . I am not particularly depressed at the moment and take a lot of exercise but how does one motivate oneself when little gives any satisfaction ? I suspect I'm not alone in this and your experiences would be appreciated. cheers
Bill
People. Every single time. I mix with people. I'd hate to not work with new and younger folks. I go to the pub and can down soft drinks as long as I can talk shit with folk.
Every time I look inside myself I feel bleurgh. So I find joy in others.
Do something that doesn't include alcohol that gives you a massive buzz eg getting shot at, base jumping/wingsuit diving, free diving, deep sea diving, mountaineering, land mine clearing.... etc etc - turn it into a job?
Actually It's true ..I have isolated for many many years and convinced myself I have little in common with the majority of people who appear selfish and insensitive ..(or maybe that's me! )I did actually love my bikes and motorbikes once but even those have no appeal anymore . medication screwed my eyesight up so although I ride by leg power my 2 trail bikes and v strom lie unused in the garage together with numerous other projects awaiting motivation to complete.
I think that problems with concentration ( common in my type ) have also contributed to the feeling that little is worthwhile or at least not an uphill battle . I have had it suggested adult ADHD may be worthwhile looking into but at 54 yrs old my doctor doesn't seem to interested in continuing the search to normalise my life . I don't work having survived on this and that for many years and I can see only a miserable future with no money / place to live unless I somehow get my act together. I am fearful of the loud ,intrusive ,cold and abrasive world that much work entails and find it hard to function in that environment . I feel at peace with calm,kind and gentle people ..hard to find these days it seems .
I'll reply later if anyone posts ..off to get a prescription!
I am fearful of the loud ,intrusive ,cold and abrasive world that much work entails and find it hard to function in that environment . I feel at peace with calm,kind and gentle people ..hard to find these days it seems .
Welcome to misanthropy! You'll find a lot of us with it on here!
I'll leave you with this quote -
"Among other things, you'll find that you're not the first person who was ever confused and frightened and even sickened by human behavior. You're by no means alone on that score, you'll be excited and stimulated to know. Many, many men have been just as troubled morally and spiritually as you are right now. Happily, some of them kept records of their troubles. You'll learn from them — if you want to. Just as someday, if you have something to offer, someone will learn something from you. It's a beautiful reciprocal arrangement. And it isn't education. It's history. It's poetry." - The Catcher in the Rye
My advice is to try and work with like minded folk, or set up a food van and work by yourself. There are support groups for this stuff as well.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-45894506
Reminds me of this. We are so caught up trying to conform or be something we think we should be that we fail to find any enjoyment in what we are currently doing or what we have
Reminds me of this. We are so caught up trying to conform or be something we think we should be that we fail to find any enjoyment in what we are currently doing or what we have
Also need to learn how to set realistic goals.
Stick with it KaiserB. The world is a pretty fun place if you are in a place to receive it. If you re not then nothing will help. My mate died nearly 3 years ago. I really have problems coping with her not being there. So I just find other things to do. Tonight is a group of challenged people and their carers. I'm out of phase on the emails so I don't know if it is the worst Karekoke in the world or the losers in a Dads disco dance competition theme tonight, but it will be on the of the most life affirming events I help at and seeing other people slamming through problems I cant truley image makes me realise life is pretty cool.
As said above, if want you want is a real rush there are lots of extreme things that can give you that (serious toombstoning is fun - not) but it you just want to feel thing thens meet people or get a dog and get in the woods.
Reminds me of this. We are so caught up trying to conform or be something we think we should be that we fail to find any enjoyment in what we are currently doing or what we have
The blonde and the model just strike me has having princess syndrome....
""At 18 I wanted a house by 23, at 23 I wanted to have yearly earnings of nearly a million by 25. By 26 I want my mum to be able to retire." errrmegerrrrd she's so hard done to.
People like that give me flashbacks of this scene from Happy....
It was a relief in the early 90's when I discovered Buddhism and learnt it wasn't just me. we seem to live in a society where there is a conspiracy of silence about suffering which adds loneliness to the pain. The few hours offered by the NHS talking to a 19 yr old who had as much experience of life as a grave was laughable but then again I got nowhere with a highly respected consultant psychologist who has full days at £70 an hour. I've had a good education/supportive parents/reasonable career (long ago) owned a house ( long gone) have a beautiful kind wife ..the list goes on but it all means so little to me it's as if I'm searching for something but I'm not sure what it is.I suspect it's meaning and peace of mind but the world is unable to offer that and the behaviour of many humans makes it worse. I guess I'm disillusioned with human beings despite being one myself .As Albert Ellis a famous psychologist once said the reason we find it so hard to find happiness is that we aren't designed for that purpose.We are designed to survive and pass on our genes first and foremost .The cost at which this fact is enabled means considerable awful behaviour it seems.Anyhow ..apologies ..I'm warbling on ..I like to talk about these things but rarely have the opportunity.