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Over the weekend my Mums health drastically declined. Sadly on Monday morning she passed away in hospital with Dad by her side. She had been there for around 8 months so unfortunately hadn't been able to see her due to covid. I was fortunate to be granted a visit on Saturday and Sunday to see her, she wasn't responsive though but really hope she could hear me. It was definitely worth the 4 hour round trip each day to have those final moments.
Her MS (which she was diagnosed with over 20 years ago) had caused a major decline but numerous other complications meant she ended up in the hospital. Her passing wasn't expected though as she was doing really well despite everything. Ironically though it was ultimately the same conclusion as Lyanda, pneumonia. I'm now helping Dad sort the funeral arrangements and trying to support him as best I can through it all. Understandably he is shook to his core after being married for 53 years.
In the past 3 years it's literally been one thing after the other. Numerous traumatic events have happened without the losses I've endured. I've lost my wife, my grandmother, my son and now my Mum all in 3 years.
When will it all end? 😢
The only thing Mum mentioned to Dad previously was she wanted to be buried next to my Son. The reason? She didn't want him to be alone 😭
RIP Mum 💜
I can't begin to imagine the devastation of dealing with so much loss gnusmas.
Mums are unique to everyone, as is also the support they always give their children, and losing yours when you are already dealing with so much loss is truly appalling.
My honestly heartfelt condolences and sympathy.
So sorry. Sounds like a dignified passing which is all any of us can hope for. Again you've done right by your loved ones and she's at peace now Gnusmas.
I am so sorry Gnusmas.
Thoughts go out to you Gnusmas, you've had more to deal with than most.
Look after yourself.
Really sorry to hear that mate. Mine went 7 years ago and I still vividly remember my final day with Mum.
It was good you were able to have some last hours with her.
Oh no, oh Gnusmas I feel for you. Take care of yourself, I hope you get a break soon
Oh Gnusmas, I'm so sorry, words fail me, but if I was near you I would give you a big hug.
Condolence gnusmas, read the title and somehow knew it would be you.
As usual, you know where we all are if you need us.
In the past 3 years it’s literally been one thing after the other. Numerous traumatic events have happened without the losses I’ve endured. I’ve lost my wife, my grandmother, my son and now my Mum all in 3 years.
When will it all end? 😢
It will end at some point, it has to.
Shit, brother.... I feel for you.
She didn’t want him to be alone 😭
I'm sitting outside the takeaway holding back tears.
You are going through an incredibly tough few years. I can’t say how sorry I am that is the case.
I can’t say I know when it will end, but I can say I know that the people in this place will continue to support.
Blimey! So sorry to hear your bad news.
Stay strong brother. I know it must be so hard after all you've been through
So sorry to hear of this on top of everything else.
Vent, rant, rage at us as required
They are all in peace now gnusmas, their suffering is over.
🙏
Really sorry to hear this gnusmas. Best wishes
I read the title and my first thought was that life couldn’t be so cruel to throw this at you after everything else.
My thoughts are with you mate, take care and stay strong.
Sad news indeed. Condolences.
Really sorry to hear this after all you’ve been through. I’m glad you managed to make that last journey and say those final words.
Things will turn around for you. Stay strong buddy.
Really sorry to hear this, you must be at your wits' end after everything. But stay strong, the wheel will keep on turning and you'll be on top one day soon.
Sorry to hear that. 2 years since my mother went and you never really get over it. Just makes you a little closer to those who are left.
Ack, sorry gnusmas 🙁 Many hugs to all of you.
Shit gnusmas.
It will end at some point, it has to.
and although Ernie sums up my thoughts more eloquently than I can, please know that my thoughts are very much with you.
I can’t begin to imagine the devastation of dealing with so much loss gnusmas.
Mums are unique to everyone, as is also the support they always give their children, and losing yours when you are already dealing with so much loss is truly appalling.
My honestly heartfelt condolences and sympathy.
My condolences I don't know what more to say other than hoping that you find some comfort from somewhere at this difficult time. Very best wishes.
Thoughts with you and yours.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family - you really have been through the wringer these last few years. I sincerely hope that things turnaround for you - you really deserve a huge slice of luck! Take care of yourself and stay strong!
I opened the thread to give my condolences not knowing the poster.
I'm desperately, desperately sorry to see it's you gnusmas.
Hi Gnusmas,
Really sorry for your loss, loads of love from me and the family here.
Keep on doing your best, you and your kids are amazing.
You're on the list of folks I'd like to meet for a ride and peer from this here STW parish, hope we can make it happen.
That’s awful, keep talking about it and people will be around to help.
Most people do deal with death and loss throughout their lifetime. For most people it’s somewhat predictable with old age catching up with you. However when illness and depression strike it knocks the timing all out, and you seem to have borne the brunt of quite a lot of bad timing.
However this does mean there will be long periods of happiness one day. Probably doesn’t feel like it right now but it will happen.
Best wishes for you and your family.
Thanks everyone, really appreciate your thoughts and comments.
What makes it more difficult to deal with is the past month or so plans were being made to have her home as she was doing really well, so it wasn't expected at all.
Last arrangements are being made today and the funeral is tomorrow at 11:30. Like all my grandparents and my son in January, I am going to be a bearer for my mum too.
And it has been arranged that mum will be buried next to him in accordance to her wishes, so they will have each other for eternity ❤️
I have emailed before but seriously if there is anything I can help with please let me know. I don't have much but what is mine is yours, even if it is just a Zoom call or a painting. What ever works for you.
gnusmas - I am so very, very sorry.
Words fail me and I don't know what to say.
You have us here, your STW friends thinking of you. Big hugs. bunnyhop x
reluctantjumper
Condolence gnusmas, read the title and somehow knew it would be you.
FFS fella, thinking about you.
Alan I really don't know what I could say other than "sorry for your mum passing away" MS is just shit.
So sorry to hear that, on top of everything else. A small consolation is you managed to say your goodbyes; mine is Joey wasn’t alone, but I never got to say goodbye, which really hurts.
Take care of yourself, this place has the best people on it for helping, even if it’s just to say they care.
Good luck and all the best wishes in the world.
Al, you and the totes-amazeballs kids are due a visit ASAP, marshmallows and burgers are on the menu. The beautiful old cider appe tree that fell last year has somehow survived but needs serious pruning- small children with sharp objects are definitely required...