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For the last one I was at work an hour or so away - plenty of time as it turned out but you never know

First child? It generally takes quite a while. I wouldn't worry about being in too much of a hurry. Second child though...run to the other side of the room & get ready to catch!

Why don't you ask your missus instead of us lot? When would SHE like you to be there?

We are due (first) around now as well, I canceled a trip to Afan last weekend as potentially I could be 3 hours from home if I was needed, I'm sure she would have been fine waiting, but that's not the point.

With my missus contractions started about 2ish in the afternoon, first child arrived 7pm ish. Second child, she "knew" something was up at the start of the day, child born about 4pm.

my three took, from first twinge until arrival, 55 mins, 35 mins, and 3 hours. the second one nearly arrived in the car!

Mark - don't go, what if you can't get back in time? Car breaks down, you fall off & break your leg etc etc. Time to be with your missus I'm afraid 🙂

Good luck!

Why don't you ask your missus instead of us lot? When would SHE like you to be there?

Shes gone from the angriest person to her super-chilled normal self again. Shes fine.

t®ibal©hief- BLIMEY! First borns are normally 'late'?

agree with Woody2000

My wife was in labour for 24 hours with my first and 12 hours with the second. There's no set time for this stuff and being an hour away is a long way if the baby's head is crowning! Things can change VERY quickly.

Put your bikes away from week 38 onwards, plenty of time for that after the event.

ask her but length of time is unpredictable first took 60 hours from firts twinge to birth!I could have been anywhere.
Do you really want to be there? Does she really want you to be there?
Base your decision on that best to not do anything that could affect that IMHO
Good luck

Our two took 4 hours each from first twinge. First was quick due to placenta complications triggering labour. Don't be far away! Even 4 feet from the bed can be too far. 😆

My two were both less than 3 hours from first contractions to being handed the little beauties

Anyway... its academic. I'm going to wait until we're out at the furthest point away from the car, then I'm going to tie you to a railway line like a villain in an old silent movie. Then I'm going to phone Mrs Hora and tell her you're in the pub

Thereby ensuring that Lisa will hate you for ever!*

*NB: During the course of the birth she will despise you anyway 🙂

Don't go riding until after the birth. It's not worth it - you'll never hear the end of it. Remember, your job is to offer moral support, and at least pretend you care.

and whatever you do, stay at her head end and don't look down. Seriously!

Don't go riding until after the birth

like he's going to get a chance anytime AFTER the birth.

Hora - I can barely put into words how much I'm looking forward to watching you (not) cope with this whole situation. I'm going to be pointing at you while laughing like a drain! 🙂

My good lady went to bed as normal. About midnight she woke me up to say "I think my waters have broken", about 5 seconds later we were pissed wet through (nice). Cue a mad 5 minutes of getting dressed, grabbing bag and heading off to hospital. She'd had no pain, no contractions to speak of so it was a bit of a shock! Stay at home, it's the right thing 🙂

I made the mistake of peering over the 'business area' when my wife was having a c-section.

😯

I can say with some authority that I have seen parts of my wife that are better left unseen

and whatever you do, stay at her head end and don't look down. Seriously!

Oh beleive me. I really dont want to be in the room. In a nice but brutally honest way.

yoss - me too. In a daze following nursey round while they weighed Jnr etc, turned round to the lovely sight of the Mrs' innards. Grand 😕

I really dont want to be in the room. In a nice but brutally honest way.

if you aren't, you will regret it

In a daze following nursey round

yeah me too, I walked into a cupboard which amused the medical team no end 🙂

I pretty much put everything on hold for a few weeks, seemed better to do that than miss any of it, a copuple of weeks out of your life, isn't to much to give up

I watched, it was cool. You don't get to see babies coming out of women every day now do you? Unless you're a midwife, I suppose, in which case you do.

I wasn't convinced I was in actual labour with my first child until the midwife said "You are 10cms dilated, and you are going to have this baby right now!!" 😯 before hitting an alarm button on the wall (we were in a day case assessment unit at the time as I had been having a few twinges). I was then called Nails by my other half for some time after that! Agree its best to ask your partner about the ride though...

The midwife assured me (after a couple of calls to mrshora as well)....

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....and then millie goes and posts 😯

Sorry... You never know what could happen though! Mr Millie was nearly in big trouble as he had tried to convince me to stay at home longer and take a paracetamol 😆

You'd be better to stay near and enjoy some other activity that you won't get to do properly for a while - SLEEP.

I was out riding when my wife went into labour - she was due for induction the next day and had suggested I go out. I was only 30mins away though (and dammit, I'd just done all the climbing when the call came and didn't get the benefit of the singletrack!) 🙂

I wouldn't go too far from home more for the fact that your missus may well not be too happy being home alone for too long once it kicks off even if it actually takes ages for anything to happen.

We'd jsut gone to bed when my wife's waters broke. The biggest problem for her ws the lack of sleep, since she basically missed a whole night.

I also kept our whole family updated on facebook as the events progressed 🙂

Even early labour can be very painful (or maybe I am just not as hard as Millie), I imagine she will want you there to hold her hand!

Very best of luck to you both

I've acted super relaxed/cool for her throughout. However Ive been seriously worried, stressed and worried for her underneath the surface. She is now the calm one. Can I have air in the delivery suite?

Joke of course- I know I have to be strong and calm for her in there 😉

spoke to someone at the weekend who dropped within 3 mins of the first twinge...admittedly this was the 2nd child, but they then backed it upp by saying 1st arrived within 20minutes of first contraction.

compared to 54hrs for my kid...

I think a lot of people worry too much (understandably), I'm riding local and will carry on doing so I'll never be more than 1 hour from home if needs be, the 55 mins mentioned above for the first one I think is quite rare.

8 days till due date and the wife is still at work as well, good for her.

I was told to go and do the Gap Road route the day before ours arrived and he was already 10 days late by then. I could have been 3 or 4 hours away at worst, but she said to go, so I did. Her first contraction was as I crested the Gap! 😀 He was born about 18 hours later though after we left for the hospital at about 3pm the next day.

Be there at the moment, don't miss it. Its amazing when the head starts to appear and then out they pop! First took about 8hrs from call to hospital, second was fast 2hrs from making the call to the hospital! Also its hard sometimes to distinguish real contractions from what you think are Brackston Hicks.....

and whatever you do, stay at her head end and don't look down. Seriously!

Like watching your favourite pub go up in flames, so I heard (probably on here).

I'll be within an hour. Otherwise I'll have to take the missus to work (and everywhere with me).

I think she will be more than happy with the trade off of not having me there if she really did give birth within the hour. Our friend had a 36hr painful labour last year and mrshora is dreading that!

mrshora isnt worried about being alone- she actually thinks it'll be a marathon 😯

Hora - in the delivery suite you want to get hold of the gas and air mix. Its laughing gas FFS - you might as well get a few laughs out of it all

My first child arrived 15 minutes after getting to hospital.

All labours are so different that it is hardly worth the risk.

Of course you should go into the labour room with her. She's made you life hell for the last 5 months or so and you'll not get another opportunity to laugh like crazy on the inside while presenting a worried and thoughful exterior.

"Yes, I was there at the birth of my child, it was a terribly distressing experience watching my status within the family drop to the same level as a pair of wellies."

spoke to someone at the weekend who dropped within 3 mins of the first twinge...

Trying really hard here to avoid fanny jokes...

I'm riding tomorrow. She can sodding cross her legs!

You silly sod. What if something happens to you?

Your missus and your baby need you more than you need a pushbike ride. 🙄

Just back from an ante-natal class/meet the health visitor thing, shortest she has know is a few minutes, longest was a week (yes she was asked, a week of proper labour 'cos they wanted/insisted on a natural birth, apparently physically and mentally still in bits unsurprisingly) so take your chances.
6 weeks and 3 days until my other half is due, planning on staying basically within an hour tops (time to get to her side and ready to go) but who knows when and what will happen?

This is all too soon.

I still haven't got my head around Hora being some poor wretches 'Dad'.

'arry, that can happen anytime. I managed to make it to work this morning without being sideswipped by a bus etc. 🙄

wwaswas- I haven't. I am still in shock. The good thing is mrshora is supremely fit so the little fella has a fighting chance that he wont be a podgy-sloth like his old man 8)

On reflection I was a bit harsh in the above post but I won't edit it.

Do whatever you want.

I went on a ride the day before my lad was born. But I didn't stray more than 2 miles and spent most of the time sat on a wall thinking about what was about to happen.

It may be the last chance for while that you get some thinking time but whatever you do don't injure yourself because you are going to be very very busy.

Good luck.

I went on a ride the day before my lad was born. But I didn't stray more than 2 miles and spent most of the time sat on a wall thinking about what was about to happen.

+1. Thats my thinking. I need to do. I'm stressed out and I'm not being a help. I avoided riding some steps on Sat that the others did purely as I know its not the right time to be sat there with one arm in plaster.

My son's 14 and my daughter 8.

I still haven't really come to terms with the whole 'being a dad' thing yet - I still just feel like me (but with less hair and permanent sleep deprivation).

I managed to wait until my daughter was 3 months old before I fell off my bike and broke my hip, I'm sure my wife appreciated me waiting and also that I was in a hospital relatively close to home.

From first twinge and feeling of oh sh*t it's happening our first arrived within 4 hours and second within 5 hours.

I wouldn't have wanted to be anywhere else when it all kicked off, it's scary and exciting all in one and not something you'll experience too many times in the future.

It could all be an anti climax and not happen for a few more days of course but to echo other comments it's not really worth the risk is it?

Ha, the giving birth thing is mad.
With the first my misses was 10 days late so taken in to be induced... I was sent home at 22.00 & told it wouldn't be that night ... a couple of stellas & a kebab & a bit of tv, went to bed about 01.00 ... 02.00 I get a call saying come in but no rush, hahahaha, like I wouldnt rush, anyway I got to the hospital very quickly to be rushed upstairs & told to hurry as the baby was being born. I looked down as I passed ... it took ages to get over the trauma of that, I couldnt look her in the ahem "eye" for months after & he was born at 02.20.

The second was close to millies description, "no dear I am sure you are fine, only a couple of contractions so far but as we are quiet we will just check you over.....GET HER INTO THE DELIVERY ROOM NOW!" I think that was about 30 mins from arriving at the hospital to born & about 2 hours from first contraction...

My advice is dont go too far away.

you'll have loads of time to go riding when the baby arrives. I went away and raced DH the weekends after each of mine were born.

I'd just go for a local play in the woods type ride, and stick a change of clothes (for yourself) in the car incase you need to leave in a hurry.

I'll see what the missus' wants me to do. This is her time/moment on stage.

Is it possible that the date we were given could be slightly out? (11th March was given to us as an estimate at the 12th week scan).

Her bump is still sitting very high (right up in fact) and she doesnt feel anywhere near.

Well this is all very reassuring I must say... 😯

Currently working in Edinburgh while pregnant wifey is two-and-a-half hours away in Northumberland...

Hora - the date is a guess - within a week or more either way. Many countries they only give you an approximate date - end of march or whatever

Dude don't be a plank, if something happens to you and you miss the birth you will regret it.

The waiting is killing me. I can't concentrate at work. She'll have to come with me with her bags in the boot. Worsecase the nipper will be born in Hudds (like me) 🙂

Pcb I rode down 4 sets of stairs in Castlefield/Manchester with no helmet on the way back from lunch today. I would have seen it as childish before but I'm frustrated!

at the birth:

stay at the head end

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

DO NOT GO TO THE FEET END!!!!!!!!!

😯

enjoy your new family 😉

I've erm, been 'naughty'...I've had two rides since I last posted 🙄

Don't forget the nitrous cylinder at the birth. Makes it all much more entertaining

Never mind the 'stay at the head end' crap! You need to see your child being born , it's the most amazing thing you will ever see.

Of course you'll wonder if you'll ever touch the sides again but there's exercises for that.

I'd definately ask the missus what she thinks and be led by her thinking.

Mrs carlos went into labour 5 weeks early , her waters broke just as I walked through the door from work at lunchtime (actually the baby had kicked his hindwaters through) our son was born at 6.30pm the next day but she didn't go into labour when the waters went ,contractions didn't start until 14 hours before he was born.

Most of all enjoy being a dad , and be there for your wife!

She is (actually) more bothered about me building a wadrobe than being in the room 🙄

I would try to be in a different country.

all labours are different - two kids, wife has spent a TOTAL of 128 mins in labour.

enjoy your ride dude 🙂

Can I just say thank you guys.

🙂