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A long tale of bin pettiness:...

I live in an end terrace house with a side gate out of my garden.
There is a road outside my side gate with a house opposite. My side of the road is used for parking by people further up the street and there are no spaces once everyone is at home in the evenings and early morning.
I put my recycling bins on the pavement on the far side of this road as the parked cars block the entire pavement on my side and can’t be seen by the bin men. I once out then between two parked cars but someone reversed over the glass bin so I’ve stopped doing that.
The lady who lives in the house over the road has now, after many years, taken offence at my bins on the pavement and has started throwing them into the gutter.
It’s only by chance that I spotted her doing it last week when she was taking her bins back in. I asked her why she was doing it and she said that I shouldn’t let my bins touch ‘her wall’ and that she’ll keep moving them.
I was very polite and said I would continue to place them there but I’d make sure they didn’t touch her wall.
This morning the bins have been moved 10m down the road and put in the gutter again.
She’s quite elderly and went out in freezing temperatures sometime between 8pm and 7am to do this.
I’ve just been made redundant and have time on my hands...what shall I do?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:39 am
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Tell her your Bins have Covid and she needs to stay 2m from them.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:41 am
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Poo in her letterbox?
make the bin idiotically heavy so he damages herself trying to move it?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:41 am
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Offer to do her bins for her in return for a truce?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:42 am
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I’ve just been made redundant and have time on my hands…what shall I do?

Offer to do some shopping for her and make sure the pavement outside her house is free of ice and snow. 🙂


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:48 am
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Guess there is an advantage to our side loading bin lorries after all. No arguing, bins always in a particular place on one side of the road for the mechanical arm of death to hook onto.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:49 am
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What welshfarmer says - take
Her bins out for her. Help her out in some other way too?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:52 am
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Roll your bins round the corner and put them in front of your house, life's too short.
(then glue her letterbox shut in the middle of the night).

edit - just for clarity, that last bit was a joke. Try the charm offensive as others have suggested.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:53 am
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I’ve just been made redundant and have time on my hands…what shall I do?

Glue on the handles would make it even more amusing.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:53 am
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Glue your bin to the pavement outside her house and throw hers down the road. 😉


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 8:57 am
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So there's no lawn?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:02 am
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Does she leave her shoes outside?
Or somewhere you can access them and personally water them


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:04 am
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Ignore all the Dudley do rights. Hide in the bin dressed as Oscar the Grouch. Jump out just as she goes to move the bin and yell “This is my house woman!” This might kill her with fright but at least then you won’t have to deal with her.

Before anybody starts wringing their hands I’m joking*

*or am I?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:04 am
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In the middle of the night get the whole roads worth of wheelie bins and line them up in front of her pavement
Fill each one with cement


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:05 am
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Before anybody starts wringing their hands I’m joking*

*or am I?

You monster, you're just toying with us now. 🙂


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:05 am
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If you are going for Oscar the grouch then you need to get a metal bin and fill that with cement outside her front door.
Oscar wouldn't live in a wheelie bin


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:09 am
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Old folk love a bin argument, you won't beat her. My wife's granny cannot have a conversation without the bins being mentioned, it's an obsession. As WF says, Explain the car situation (it'll give her something to replace the bins!) and offer to put her bins out for her.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:10 am
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Posted : 06/01/2021 9:12 am
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Oscar the Grouch? Far too confrontational. Spread good vibes by sleeping in her bin and singing the Top Cat theme to her when she comes out in the morning.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:15 am
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If it helps to bring a sense of balance, the old guy next to me used to always wait for the bins to be emptied then he'd scurry out and put everyone's bins away as he didn't like the street looking untidy and he figured it made houses look unoccupied...

Well he died over the summer (non Covid) and now we all have to out our own bins away.

When we get new neighbours do I tell them their destiny is to put my bin away?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:20 am
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Offer to do her bins for her in return for a truce?

This. However as she is an old lady chances are she is going a bit dotty and it may or may not work.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:27 am
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When I spoke to her last week I’d caught her in the act for the first time. I was very polite and I’m not big or scary but she wouldn’t engage with me at all. No eye contact and she didn’t stop moving at any stage to face me.
It’s one of those weird things where I can’t work out why it’s suddenly become an issue as my bins have been going there for years and the people further up the street also put their bins against ‘her’ wall without any issue.
I’ll play nice and write her a letter I think.
Then it’ll be frozen sausage time I guess...

Edit: I will offer to do her bins but as she keeps them behind a gate with more locks than Fort Knox then I’m guessing my offer won’t go down well.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:30 am
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Nah, just give her a smile. She might be an appalling person, or she might just be worn down and scared by everything that's going on.

I don't know why I've woken up in such a generous mood, perhaps I've had an aneurysm in the night. 🙂


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:34 am
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"Hilarious"? bit of a stretch for that vid up there.

Bins touching the wall... don't people realise or care how moronic they're being when they say such stupid pathetic shit? Record her saying it and put it on Youtube to go viral. Might get The Sun paying you so they can post a "HILARIOUS!!!" video


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:40 am
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perhaps I’ve had an aneurysm in the night

You are Dr Dre AICMFP!


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:43 am
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Is this really a dispute? She won´t change her mind. I would just let her do it. Life is too short to worry.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:47 am
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another bin tale;

we have a shared alley
the neighbours are the single house full of odious pillocks who get on with nobody else nearby
we used to line our bins in the alley, originally on their side (as there is a gulley you cannot walk in; so "our side" was more useful as access)

after some time passed they insisted on moving their bins to our side (they got rats and apparently the gulley caused the rats). ok, whatever

later, they insisted on moving their bins, only their bins, back to their side. Except now they insisted on lining them up with our bins so that access was completely compromised. This was coincidental with a load of other stuff that happened and was certainly the kind of punative rubbish they pull on our other neighbours

I tried moving our bins, but somehow they ended up back in line with their bins again...

Our bins are now in our front garden. Life's too short.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 9:47 am
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Sorry but all these neighbourly bin stories are just rubbish!


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 10:11 am
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Bum her bin and shit on her dog.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 10:34 am
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Sorry to be boring but being elderly they could just be losing the plot a bit and if that's the case no amount of reasoning will get you anywhere..


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 11:09 am
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Shirley it's,

shit in her bin and bum her dog

I think there's some traction in the losing touch with marbles chat, given this is new behaviour.

However I also join the Dudley DoGooders camp.

I’ve just been made redundant and have time on my hands…what shall I do?

Make sure she's ok? Ask if you can get her anything from the shops, save her a trip.

Everyone responds to kindness. If it were me I'd chap her door and give her a box of chocs and tell her if she needs anything you know where you are.

👍


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 11:16 am
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Sorry to be boring but being elderly they could just be losing the plot a bit and if that’s the case no amount of reasoning will get you anywhere..

Agreed. I had a dispute with a neighbour as I occasionally parked on the road outside her house. She never parked there as she parked her car to the rear of her property but she insisted I moved my car in case any of her friends wanted to park there. I suggested I carried on (quite legally) parking outside her house but she could feel free to come around to my house and ask me to move if any of her friends came to visit. She did it shortly after and I moved my car. An hour later there was still a space outside her house so I moved my car back. It never happened again however she always stood in the window staring at me when I parked there so I just gave her cheery waves and smiles each time.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 11:17 am
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I was very polite and said I would continue to place them there but I’d make sure they didn’t touch her wall.

Did you offer an explanation as to why you put the bins there rather than just saying you would continue?


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 11:19 am
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Never underestimate the bloody mindedness of little old ladies. The one opposite us vandalises cars if you park in 'her' spot. She's 92, has a garage and really shouldn't be driving anyway.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 11:33 am
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Everyone responds to kindness.

Assuming they're of sound mind. Years ago, the old woman across the road lost her marbles and started hammering on my gran's door at all hours, accusing her of having the devil in her and all sorts of random malarkey. My gran's crime was that she'd been going round home-helping her for the last couple of years.


 
Posted : 06/01/2021 3:37 pm

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