[Closed] A Love Story - Three reasons your partner was the one for you....

But have you learnt owt Elfin?

Yes I have, actually, it's bin a remarkably civil and enlightening day on STW. Loving this thread, the music ones, the ones about tuition fees/students/rioting etc.

Never a dull day on STW.

NickyB that is awesome!
Chapeau to you and your [s]Mrs[/s] other half.

Thank you for the tag tonight! I love you all. 😀

Well it's certainly kindness and compassion, isn't it?

Thing is, iv you've loved someone, then surely there must always be a place in your heart for them, regardless of how that relationship turned out?

No?

EDIT: Yeti; you now what I mean, anyway....

Elfin- Hug? 😀

Well, I'm a bit flatulent at the moment, but go on then.

Don't squeeze too hard....

3 things?

She's female
She has a pulse
She's human

*waves at ex girlfriend who has just let it slip that she reads STW*

Seems discussing 'love' is such a far out concept for one ex that she's deemed it necessary to check I'm alright tonight. Apparently this place is like a soap opera...

Well, I'm a bit flatulent at the moment, but go on then.

Don't squeeze too hard....

Apparently this place is like a soap opera...

There is about to be a massive gas explosion?

First met Mrs O in church nearly 18 years ago. The chap she was with didn't want her to meet me! Friends for a few years, then got an anonymous valentines card Feb95 and it just popped into my head "what if it's from Claire?". then decision needed - either do nothing, and risk missing a great chance, or risk losing a friend if its not from her. Card actually from girl in Manchester (sorry Pam). Dropped her a card back, she thought it was a from an ex also called Steve...

Much british farce later we started going out - got on well with her dad (keen cyclist too). Married 15 years now with a great son. She even lets me buy bike bits, and laughs when i try to sneak things in. Let me buy my new Fuel 8 (cheaper than a Boxster).

Downside doesn't like me wearing my pink camo stw top in public 🙂

It was overwhelmingly love. That over rules everything.

Life becomes exciting doesn't it?

Munros, multi-day biking trips, art, music... ideas for the future....

I would give anything to have her love back again. 🙁

Went out round the Wyre forest one night as I had heard there were midweek group rides and I was looking for people to ride with.
Saw a bunch of bikes across the valley, turned round and headed back down to meet them.
Noticed there was a grrrl amongst them (like yer do).
Thought she looked cute, but also looked a fair bit younger than me.
Met her again on another group ride.
She told me she was older than she looked and had seen me on "a website".
Everyone laughed about what this mystery website might be. I guessed it could only be Fitness Singles.
She told me her profile was hidden on there.
I thought "Well,that's it then. If I'd seen her profile, I'd have written. She saw mine and didn't write, therefore, she's not interested".
Time passed.
Someone told me another grrl in the group fancied me.
I didn't believe him, so I asked the cute grrrl if it was true, secretly thinking "I wish it was you who fancied me, not the other grrl."
She said "No", secretly thinking "But I do".
Time passed.
I bumped in to her on the Marin Rough Ride.
I noticed she was in the veteran class. She really is older than she looks.
She tried to PM me via BikeRadar about another forum ride.
There was some problem with the site and she wasn't sure if I was getting the PMs or if they were just bouncing back.
So she PMd me via Fitness Singles.
By this time, my membership had run out, so I couldn't read the PM.
I PMd her via BikeRadar to say I got all excited when I got the email that I had a PM on Fitness Singles, even though I couldn't read it, but when I saw who it was from, I didn't know whether to think "Oh, it's you 🙁 " or "Oh, it's you 😀 ".
There then followed a few more PMs and a phone call to try to make sense of it all "But I thought you meant..." "Well, why didn't you say that right at the start..."

That was just over a year ago now. Not long compared to someof the other stories on here, but every day I think "Wow, she hasn't dumped me yet" 😀

Kunstler - Member

It was overwhelmingly love. That over rules everything.

Life becomes exciting doesn't it?

Munros, multi-day biking trips, art, music... ideas for the future....

I would give anything to have her love back again.

Amen to that.

What happened then?

Was happily enjoying my single existence after the end of a 10yr relationship about 9 months earlier. Location was the exotic confines of a Q for a portaloo at 6.30am during a multisport race, a few too many beers the night before and a day of eating mainly gels meant the tortoise was making a hasty head appearance. She was in front of me in the Q so i tapped her on the shoulder and romantically said "Err, look, any chance i can whizz in front of you i've got a backpressure problem!". She laughed, her eyes sparkled and I thought "Oh Oh", which was partly as a result of said back pressure and also the weird flipping sensation in my stomach. Did my business and she was kind of hanging around waiting to see if i was "OK". Went for a coffee and a we ended up courting 900km apart which worked quite well. Got married almost 2 years ago and life is a constant round of fun, laughter and rock solid support which is brilliant. I got lucky. 😀

NZCol wins...seduction by barging past in a portaloo queue to have a dump (she presumably witnessed the aftermath.

MTGraham - that is lovely. Having met you both I think you so suit each other 🙂

Met mr bunnyhop in California.
It was a holiday romance (doomed).
He is younger than me (doomed).
I was living in Manchester at the time and he was in London (doomed).
Somehow love found a way and we've been together years.

He did have his own hair and teeth which helped.

Muddypuddle I take it the other half has already posted on this thread? 😆

I may well drink more wine later, get all amorous and start awarding prizes for all the lovely contributions to this thread (MP your'e winning on emoticons 8) )

For now I must do housework and DIY, otherwise when a certain lady comes round on Monday she'll realise I'm actually a slob.

1) She's far far cleverer than me (she's got a phd an everything whereas I mess about with bike for a living!)

2) Waaaay outta my league but doesn't seem to mind!

3) It's been 10 years and she still puts up with my stinky feet

Just one reason.

My OH came into my life when I was a mess. I was depressed, unhappy and had contemplated "throwing in the towel" as it were.

She cared for the human wreckage that I'd become and made me realise that I could enjoy love again.

I owe her my entire happiness and I will always love her for it.

Mental
Different
Good cook.

1)loves trespassing
2)flexible
3)good linguist

...were the first 3.

wrong account.....

aww, muddlepuddle that's lovely. Much more romantic than us, we met in a club at 1 a.m. He walked up to my mate and offered to buy her a drink, she said no sod off so he asked me instead 😯 I had no money left so he got a yes 🙄 well, you can't turn down free vodka when your 17 and in a club your not even old enough to be in can you! 🙂

right account....

is frankyspanky69 your alter ego then?

haha, he was the one who bought me vodka coke..... as much as I love him he has a complete inability to log out of any of his accounts... Muppet. Good fun on facebook sometimes though 🙂

I was [i]crazy[/i] about her.
Then I missed her like crazy.
And finally, I was just plain crazy. 😥

My missus is the most extraordinary human being I've ever met. I love her sense of humour, her intellect and her lovely smile. I couldn't imagine life with anyone else.

What more can I say?

RichPenny's love story continues...

this time tomorrow will be my wife. I am the happiest man on earth....

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😀

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tsk brakes! No room for that behaviour on this thread.

Although I have kind of fallen out of love with Rich as he hasn't posted on here since his wedding yesterday! 👿

I took a large amount of antidepressents and sleeping tablets while I was sat in my car. Two days later I opened my eyes to see if I was alive or dead. I felt like I should have been dead but was still alive. A cute blonde nurse with big blue eyes was sat staring at me not knowing what to do. It was the first ward of her nurse training and she'd been tasked with sitting with me and was to shout up when I was 'going off'.
I bumped into her again six months later in a pub. We chatted, I chanced my arm, she said she could lose her job and her career but I owed her a drink for nearly putting her off nursing before it even got properly going.
Apart from me doing my best to self distruct us both on more than one occasion, we've got 17 years marriage totalled up this coming March.
She's ace!

Fairly aware I am an ugly ****er brakes. Indeed, if you met my missus you'd have to assume that I was a genius or had a massive penis 😉

Brakes don't be a Willy. Congrats mr & mrs penny!!!

Rich you're back in the circle of trust... Hope you had a great day! I've read your posts so... Congratulations you big Richard'd bar steward you!

oh come on, someone was going to do it 😀
congratulations

1)

She's mental, gorgeous and the only person who loved me even when I hated myself.

+1

2) Since we met there hasn't been a single fear about our future together: kids, growing old and wrinkly together.. nothing, no subject and no issue is too big for us to get through together and end up as better people for it.

3) I'd give everything I have and try and move the world just to see her smile, little things like watching her giggle away at You've Been Framed make me feel warm inside - I love her even when she's being a **** 😆

Right, soppy stuff out the way.... time to find another pole dancing vid 😉

 

Great thread OP. Outstanding. What I see in mrshora? She's my better half. 20yrs since we met at 18

She helped me out of a very dark period of my life 🙂

Having been born with a (albeit relatively minor) disability, she has had to work twice as hard to achieve all that she has done in life 😮

She stood by me when my first career and income got blown to pieces when I was made redundant 😀

(And the fact that she is 4'10" and was a 34DD when we met, was entirely coincidental...... 😳 )

Having always had a tendency for tall, slim blondes, she was the exact opposite, so it wasn't with any amorous intentions that we started talking in a pub. But, oh my word, she was just so interesting! We could talk for hours and hours and I would never be bored. I've since come to discover that this - how interesting I find someone - overshadows any other possible attraction in anybody for me.

Then her smile. She had a wondeful smile, one that would light up her whole face and make her eyes sparkle. Seeing that smile became addictive to me. All I wanted to do was see her smile, and so I would do anything and everything I could to make it show again and again.

And then her excitement and her joy of life. She would see the most amazing things in every simple thing, and stand there with a look of almost child-like amazement. I have never met anyone else with such a way of seeing things.

1) She was a tall, pale-and-interesting redhead and sadly Molly Ringwald was spoken-for.

2) She had the most wonderful smile/green eyes that could turn you to custard.

3) Inexplicably, she was convinced the fat munter asking her to marry him was the one for her too.

20 years on she is still Mrs Merman. Deep joy. 😀

Thurman redhead with green eyes? I'm jealous.

Indeed. 'Hubba' and if I might make so bold 'hubba'.

The barnet's gone a bit more browny/grey over the intervening 20 years, but hey 😉 *My* boat is still well and truly floated!

Rich - great pic there of a memorable day. Congratulations. 😀

Brilliant Rich - lovely photo too - contratulations!

She's gorgeous, I mean Stunning, stopping traffic, drop dead Oh My Word gorgeous.

She still puts up with me despite everything I do wrong.

She sticks around after many, many years.

And I love you all.

I put this in a thread a few weeks ago;

Okay...

Man with dark, angry hate-filled heart meets woman who makes him realise he doesn't feel angry when he's with her.

Dark and anger manifest into rare incurable tumour.

Tumour removed and replaced with an all-encompassing love that man doesn't understand and can't comprehend, but is very grateful for.

Man seems to be staying alive, even though odds are against him. Woman still beautiful, funny, loving and constant. All the darkness replaced with light.

True story.

But you know what? It doesn't tell you enough...

I had a fairly difficult childhood; the type a social worker would flinch at, I think. I developed a skill set that included the ability to compartmentalise emotion, detachment and make everything black and white. I managed to isolate myself from everyone around that cared, including two lovely (but not the 'one's') girls I had long term relationships with.

When I met Mrs Bullheart, I tried doing the same; being aggressive with my opinions, fighting even when I was in the wrong, etc; and one day she said the following;

[i]"I love you with all my heart, but I'm not prepared to compromise myself and what I believe in for the anger you feel..."[/i]

And she left. And I realised that everything I'd built up to protect myself from the pain I'd experienced as a child counted for nothing if I lost her. So I changed, and I fought to get her back. And it was no effort whatsoever; it just happened. Because the alternative was no alternative. And every single second I spend with her makes me proud of who I am and what we are. She gave me hope, and made me like myself. No-one has ever achieved such a feat before.

I think I could stop the world turning if she asked it of me. I don't know how, but I'd find a way...

This is a lovely thread. Keep it up

Wow... Bullheart... that's one hell of a post. Thank you for sharing that, poetic and beautiful.

Edit - That post might just be the nail in my emotionally stunted coffin... Time to find someone other than myself to love...

And I just read it with Sly Stone's voice in my ears. I'm welling up. Bloody hell!

I had to pick two of the following options:

1. Fit
2. Sane
3. Single

(She did the decent thing and told her then BF about us....).

Met aged 17 (her) and 20 (me), got married three years later.

1) Fit
2) Nice rack (uh oh - skating on thin ice)
3) Funny
4) Bright

And as a wee bonus, loaded parents. 😉 😆

11 years of marriage and we still get on as well as any couple possibly could.

A little one (aged 2) and another one on the way just seem to enhance it all.

Pass the sick bucket...

1 - She's Fit
2 - She's my best friend
3 - from day one I missed her whenever I wasn't with her

When we met I wasn't long out of a long term relationship, so was happy being single. She collared me at a party and had a real go at me for trying to seduce a mutual friend away from her boyfriend. I had no idea what she was talking about. Misunderstanding resolved, we then chatted for ages. Being slightly drunk I pointed out that her backless dress must mean she wasn't wearing a bra - she said this was true. I then offered to do the job of the missing item of clothing - she accepted 🙂 and we've been together since :):):)

I still can't believe I said "I'll be your bra" and she can't believe she accepted. Its the most successful chat up line I've ever used!

She was mortified when this story was retold by my best man at our wedding.

My best mate was doing the travelling thing and got some mutual friends to drag me out for a beer. Just happened that this beer was at the 18th birthday party of the most beautiful girl I had ever laid eyes on. Wished all night I could speak to her, but didn't do anything (bit shy you see). Couple of days later she calls me and we meet for a drink...

She's beautiful
She's funny
She's very sexy

10 years later and she's no longer in my life; we split up just before valentines this year 😥

I miss her very deeply...

2 students on fresher's night walk into the JCR bar. One says to the other, "you have the brunette, I'm going for the blonde"

I married her (the blonde - it was me who said it) 5 years later. Been married for 9 years now.

she's ace.
she's as fit as a fit thing.
and she's ace.

Easy one for me!

Best pal / soul mate & the mother of my son!

You think you love you're missus until the experience of childbirth - at which point you really realise what love is!!!

weve had crazy times / magical times and amazing experiences together

happy days! (12 years worth)

I was single, she was desperate. 🙂

1) i rode up to her and did a massive skid
2) girls love skids
3) you do not talk about fight club

LOL at Phil!

Great thread. Really.
Fills the heart with hope - the hope that one day in the not too distant future I can make a positive contribution of my own (in terms of a post here!)

MrsGrips is one of my own kind. There are very few of my kind around, I think there's only two.

Sexy, funny, nice bum.
We were both in shared accomodation and i had fancied her from afar and apparently she had me. I had come out of a previous marriage and she had a boyfriend. Two nights before i was due to leave for a job 200 miles away she invited everyone around for a meal. I almost didn't go as had planned a ride, but due to all my cycling shorts being wet decided i would make the effort. Her best friend got everybody to "leave" and we ended up having a drunken snog. 12 years later still happily married with two gorgeous girls.
Some things are just meant to be.

Bullheart, that's the second time in two posts on this thread that you've written something incredibly moving!

great pic

lovely photo too

why, thank you!

I still can't believe I said "I'll be your bra" and she can't believe she accepted. Its the most successful chat up line I've ever used!

Absolute CLASS! Nice one for taking the risk!

The Southern Yeti - Member

Edit - That post might just be the nail in my emotionally stunted coffin... Time to find someone other than myself to love...

Nah, don't do it! Women are never as good as the combination of Xbox, pizza, pr0n and hand lotion that you have to give up to be with them... 🙂

Pass the sick bucket...

Its full up, and starting to slop over the sides - but here you go....

She likes me ... but not anymore. 🙄

Big, round, baps 😉

This is very possibly my most favourite thread ever.

Notable from the almost total lack of cynicism.

TSY:- she always maintained that i wasnt her type. took her a very very long time and quite a few failed relationships to work out that i was her type after all and the others werent. i did point this out to her before, but she is so stubborn.

fate, you either believe in it or you dont. experience has made me a believer.

This was a very nice post that reminded my how lucky i am.

She is the most generous and creative person i have met.
She makes me smile just be being around.
She feels no need to change me and will let me do my own thing.
She waited 4 years befor i got the curage to ask her out and then 6 years before i had the courage to ask her to marry me.

I know i am cheeting by giving 4 reasons.

Been with Miss Lunge 8 years after a drunk snog in a night club, she approached me as she "wanted the tall one". Within 6 month of meeting I had disappaeared round the world for a year and she had started her first year at uni. We stayed together and have been ever since. She is wonderful, silly and a little bit mental, I like her a lot.

She make me feel great about myself and let me just be me
She has an amazing smile
She gets on with my very strange group of friends

She is also absolute filth but I suspect I shouldn't mention that here...

He is my rock.
He makes everything bigger/better/more fun.
He made us a family.

Oh and he is really good looking and fit and rides a bike and intelligent and smart and cooks and doesn't care if I am not perfect. 🙂

she's geourgeous
she's funny
she's got nice hair (hair envy, i look like jean luc picard)

conscious, breathing, single

radler you old romantic.

She's gorgeous
she's my rock,alway's there so strong
22 years on I still love her to bit's

For a very long time, I was in a long term relationship with someone who on paper, seemed perfect, in reality, was a nightmare. Mentally exhausting, abusive and controlling. But irritatingly beautiful. With quite simply the strangest family dynamic with her well-to-do parents that I have [i]ever[/i] encountered. I needed out. But was terrified of the consequences sharing many mutual friends, living in a foreign country, one becomes loathed to lose them, them being under her thumb as much as me. She liked high fashion, spending (everyone elses) money, and being the single most important thing in the room, with 100% unadulterated attention focussed on her.
We couldn't have been more opposite.

In May, I went to the other side of the country as part of my research, to the mountains and Boreal of Northern Alberta. There, being the solitary Englishman amongst a collection of Canadian researchers, I was approached, by a cute, unfathomably modest, girl who made her intention to bed me on a particularly drunk evening, all too clear. 🙄

Que a Summer of biting insects, bear encounters, northern lights, the blackest yet brightest skies I have ever seen in my entire life, and all of it, shared, with this girl. I have never laughed so much, in my entire life, it hurt my insides we laughed so much. Both of us knew it was just a Summer fling, the distances too ridiculous to consider doing anything about it, the pair of us too realistic to consider it ever becoming something.

I returned to Ontario to finish my further degree, her to Vancouver to finish hers. Both of us returning to being typical university students, seeing others, but still, thoughts and feelings lingered. We talked and talked and talked some more, and actually got to know each other, somewhat having done everything else in reverse.

...In 5 weeks, I'm driving the width of the Canada to see her, to go winter surfing at Tofino at her invitation.

Coming with me, in my jacket pocket, is a ring, in a box. 😯
In my other pocket, [i]alot[/i] of nerves. 🙄

Sometimes. You just know.

Fortune favours the bold fella...

Well in.

Chapeau Mr Gibbons! Wishing you the best of British... 😀

She was an SpR in medicine when I was doing my first gas SHO job.

1) She exuded (and still does) a takes-no-shit attitude that I find really attractive
2) Despite this I got away with some right comedy stuff (unfeasibly hungover at her first birthday we were together; knocking myself out at work (long story) and having to be collected as I'd been forbidden from driving home and spent the night on a surgical ward)
3) She nicked my lunchtime Eccles cake repeatedly, which made me think she was interested

Andy

Good luck mrgibbons!!! Hope she says yes!

Yeti? Are you back my love?

*waves at Awesome emsz*

Aye, I'm back no more ****** swearing from me 😆