[Closed] Is it rude to offer advice?

Not rude but may not go down too well however well intentioned, depends on the individuals concerned.

Better than shouting 'elete rider coming through' and barging them off the trails!

People are always offering me advice on the trail, I have no problem taking it tbh.

Had some quality advice in the past from kids who were younger than my kids!

That's the beauty on the trail no matter what your age, skill level, we are all out there have it large 😉

For glaring mechanical errors it's ok.
But definitely not coaching tips.

With less experienced mates I do though I try and phrase it in a way that won't sound like criticism

I'll always give plenty of helpful advice of this sort. To girls.

But definitely not coaching tips.

Why ever not?
Do it in the right manner and try to be helpful by suggesting something of use rather than "You won't do a 10ft drop off like that!" and I've found it always goes down well. I happen to know new riders can find it encouraging. 🙂

I try to offer advice by making myself look humble For example at afan and there were a load of lads on hire bikes all with the saddles too low and climbing with properly bent knees it looked painful so as I was passing them I said:
"Wow you lot are seriously fit climbing with your saddles so low, you are making me feel inadequate"
They all stopped and put their saddles up.

i always give advice in as patronising a manner as poosible - ussually tell them they dont need such good bike and that footpaths are better and then let them know I am sfb and they have just met the boggies/
they often chase me when I picture their bums.

Suppose I would if they were making obvious errors

I've offered some advice in passing and I've never had an issue. It's all in the way you say it. Had some good conversations with people sometimes, give them encouragement in an equal dose and you can't go wrong.

Hard one. I went out with a newly formed road club and the 'leader' was getting everyone to push big gears. The group were strung out over about 200M. The leader whilst fit as #### was only five months into cycling. I bit my tongue that day, but said something the following week. That said no ones turned out since the weather turned.

I think unless you're going to ride with them for a stretch, I'd keep your mouth shut other than a "hello". You're at risk of looking a bit of a tosser otherwise (IMHO). 🙂

Think I pissed someone off yesterday, she moved aside to let me through but I had trailed her for a couple of hundered yards and in passing I thnaked her and then said it it would probably really help her if she kept her head up and her heels down ( I saw her almost have an over the bars on a rooty bit). She seemed miffed.

Oh well. I'll keep my mouth shut in future.

The problem with offering advice, is you assume they need it.

They may have their own 'method' of doing something, which works for them.

I'd personally be offended if someone offered me advice.

If someone who couldnt do manuals offered me advice, I'd tell him where to go.

I swear the next rider behind me at a race who says to me 'don't stop, don't stop that's it well done' will get a smack in the mouth and thrown into a hedge.

I don't require coaching thanks all the same.

Fair comment however the manuals are coming along well now, certainly no issues doing fairly big drops anymore... 😳

There are a lot of grumpy people out there.

No, don't offer. People don't want to be patronised, however kindly the intentions.

Fair comment however the manuals are coming along well now, certainly no issues doing fairly big drops anymore...

I was only joking!

What annoys me more than 'trail advice' is people offering advice on how to set your bike up!

If they say "I think my shock is rebounding a bit too quick, what do you think?" then that's an invitation to offer friendly advice.

If you just say to them "You're brake levers are pointing too high/low, they need to be altered" that will wind them up!

It's a knotty one I do like to help out when I can, fixed someones chain the other day as they patently didn't know how and always up for showing people around and stuff. Was also riding with a newbie mate of mine so was in coaching mode yesterday!

DF it's a sore point with me, the manuals, can do pretty decent step downs, jumps and hare along like a mad thing but when it comes to keeping that front wheel up without pedalling just can't get it sorted for more than a few yards certainly enough for the trails but just want to get it and hold it.

You right though none of my business will not bother again.

makes note to say "don't stop, don't stop that's it well done" next time I'm riding behind KT...

I give advice, all the time to people, however since I have an open and genuine personality they tend to take it as helpful.

There are just too many idiots taking the piss and having a go at people, trying to be right. I just try to be helpful and make things a bit easier for other people.

Still it would be a crappy place this planet of ours, without the crazy people, who still try and talk to strangers 😀

I swear the next rider behind me at a race who says to me 'don't stop, don't stop that's it well done' will get a smack in the mouth and thrown into a hedge.

Sorry about that. I just assumed that anyone who enters a race on a single speed needs all the advice they can get.

I advised a guy that his forks were the wrong way round (fox on a marin) he didn't like it.

and they were the wrong way round.

Plum

If they are paying you to give advice, give as much as you like in whatever manner you think appropriate.

If you are interacting with the person in some way, or if they ask advice, then it is ok to give gentle advice.

Doling out tips when passing / following random cyclists you don't know is just big headed and intrusive.

No, don't offer. People don't want to be patronised, however kindly the intentions.

No, some people just don't want to learn. It's only patronising if you stick your head in the sand and think "No. I'm fine. I don't need to get better." and end up in a huff.

I seem to remember you took my advice about the flat pedals CG...... 🙂

The biggest fault I see, especially in new or timid riders is that they sit down far too much.

Thrown into the hedge....BUSH PUSH!

Gonna disagree with you there Pete! People need to work out if they are not satisfied with their riding and then act accordingly, ie skills session or asking others.

It's extremely difficult to offer advice without sounding patronising ... and it can come across as that particularly when you're female and/or haven't been riding for years.

Everyone has to start somewhere and I think we can all do well to remember that. 🙂

Edit: may I also say that the one single thing I bitterly regret is not having a skills session when I first started. This, coupled with regular sessions, would have been hugely beneficial.

As regards flats, you were beaten to it by Juan! But yes, the fact that people were suggesting it, I did listen!

I can see both sides to this or I wouldn't have asked. I'm not constantly doing it but I saw someone almost come a cropper because they were too far forward and had their heels up and head down, to me this is a really basic and easily fixable thing. I don't think I laboured the point but surely a little well intentioned advice cn't hurt can it? Certainly it won't hurt as much as taking a header because the bike stops and you don't.

Maybe that's why I ride where/when no one else is. Gave me a bit of a shock to ride in the Peaks during the weekend. People everywhere telling me how to ride my bike. Mainly as I was being an arse and getting bored with them riding so slowly so trying to pass them at inappropriate places. They were giving me some really interesting advise. I did get my comeuppance through when I whizzed past them and promptly got a pinch puncture going down the Blackley Hey.

jools, think it might have been better if you had stopped further along and had a quick chat, starting, "whoa i thought you were going to go over the bars on that section", if they respond to your invite to conversation..... "i find that when i remember to keep my head up on those bits it helps"

coaching tips to total strangers as you pass them = ****

It's extremely difficult to offer advice without sounding patronising ... and it can come across as that particularly when you're female and/or haven't been riding for years.

So basically, you'll pay for advice, but not take it for free, yes? 😉

I'm now gonna blow my own trumpet now:
I'm good with beginners. I'll gently coach them through stuff they never thought they could ride, I've done it many times. Stuff that seems very simple to everyone else can faze people. And others just expect them to 'get on with it' it seems. And I genuinely get a buzz out of helping someone out (That includes more than just riding - Mechanics etc too) and seeing them get it right. Just a grin is enough. I've taught people how to ride motorbikes, I've tought 5 year olds to ride. I've taught people how to fix bikes (Lots of that actually) I've taught people to bunnyhop and more..... Just little stuff
I'm no great shakes at anything myself, but I'm good at passing on what I do know, but yes, sometimes you meet a brick wall and have to give up.....

As regards flats, you were beaten to it by Juan! But yes, the fact that people were suggesting it, I did listen!

Oh come ON! 😉 My next step was to come round in the dead of night and swap all your pedals over, I'd been nagging you so much. 😀 I used to worry about you riding clipless and not clipped in, honest! 🙂

My next task is to get you to leave some of the 18 tonnes of crap you carry on every ride at home! 😉 (Serious though!)

I only offer advice, on any subject, if I feel it will be heeded. And then always in an encouraging way.

Slight caveat: I warn people I'm leading around if I think there might be something ahead that they should think about, rather than blithely attempting to ride over. It's a safety thing.

If I was out on a trail and Steve Peat offered me advice I'd listen and say thank you.

If a random stranger offered me advice I'd ask him at what point did he hear me asking the question.

I think the vote here is to shut up and let people make their own mistakes.

I've offered advice before and tend to say something like.

Me the trail master
"How did / are you getting on with X trial / section of the trail?"

Noob I.T. manager
"Yeah fine"

Me the trail master
"I found that X bit difficult personally but found that if I do Y it helps"

Noob I.T. manager
"Yeah I know, I've been trying that"

Me the trail master
"Sick bro, see you in the car park."

I then do a launch to tyre tap on a tree as a method of overtaking so that my authority is firmly stamped over the situation and disappear over the horizon.

I know I'm a sh1t rider, so I would tell you where you put your advice 🙂

You're a shit rider who dose not want to progress to become rad^sick? You wish to stay shit, such that you riding is mince^bumbble?

And if the advice comes from an overbiked and overweight biffer even worse. I'll take advice when needed. 99% of the time, it's not needed. 🙂

The Brick:

Hell ya 🙂

i am not a very experienced or good or fast rider (yet 😉 ) so it would just really embarass me if somebody rode past and offered advice as they went. even if it was with good intentions, i would probably just be put off riding there again 😐
jane

i would probably just be put off riding there again

Agree. It can be misconstrued. Part of the 'fun' of mountain biking is the lack of elite/bollocks that can go with road cycling.

Well I feel really bad now, thanks!

i always give advice in as patronising a manner as poosible - ussually tell them they dont need such good bike and that footpaths are better and then let them know I am sfb and they have just met the boggies

I always say we're the Groovy Tribe 🙂

Also I always tell people we meet on the trail that they're going the wrong way!

My first reaction would be embarassment. If I was still on a particualr section I'd ignore them til I'd stopped and then think on what they'd said and see if it rings true to me.

I have a tendancy to pick up bad habits while thinking I'm the model of style and technique. I'm also big enough to get over the initial embarassment and try to use the situation positively.

I don’t think I’ve ever really offered “advice” as such, I maybe mention a tricky bit of the trail and frame it as a discussion on “the best way” to do that Corner/root/drop section so they don’t feel like I’m taking the piss and let them pose their own ideas…

As a way of proving your “skillz” actions speak louder than words I find, be friendly and helpful and then nail the trail, don’t be superior or aloof…
This is all assuming you’re “On it” not that I always am…

As for taking advice I’ve had one bad experience with an “out of action riding God” who felt the need to tell a Hung over me where I was braking wrong during practice runs (He was absolutely correct in his assessment, but was not particularly diplomatic), otherwise I’ll take most advice on board, it’s often easy to see where someone else is going wrong when watching only a fool wouldn’t listen…

I always say we're the Groovy Tribe
Also I always tell people we meet on the trail that they're going the wrong way!

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I would never offer advice or comment to a complete stranger on the trail.

If I was riding with someone, and they mentioned that they were struggling with something, then I would always be keen to give them a few things to think about as they were riding.

I guess egos can be a little sensitive, and offering advice to someone without them wanting it (or in their mind, needing it) is probably wrong. If they initiate the conversation, that's different.

I have offered advice a couple of times when I've seen something dangerous or just obviously wrong - forks on backwards was one - plainly obvious to anyone that had the gift of sight. But, it's generally been met with a grunt. Some people just think they know better...

To be honest I've only been offered advice about riding a couple of times, once off SSStu, which was the best advice I could've had at the time, improved my technique no end. I'll always listen and say thanks, then if I think it's **** call them names behind their backs. 😀

"Sick bro, see you in the car park."

PMSL!

I would have wagered my kidneys that 90% of people on here would have reacted not just negatively but darn right badly to the idea that someone might offer them advice! Why am I not surprised?

I've done it quite a lot lately, but it's usually when I've hooked up with some one randomly and shared some trails with them, built some rapport and it's become obvious that there's a big gap between our abilities. I'd then ask if they wanted some pointers; I wouldn't offer them without permission.

There's a couple of guys out on Surrey Hills I'd positively love to some tips/coaching from because I'd donate my kidneys to charity to be able to ride as fast as they can.

There are few MTBers where the expertise gradient is such that I could offer advice...

When I am skiing with someone however I will sometimes ask if they mind if I say something about what they are doing - or would they rather I kept schtum? This allows them to be in control of the situation.

I take my hat off to anyone who successfully gives advice to women - I salute you 😀

i offer advice all the time 🙂

P_B - don't know about unbidden, but generally speaking women are far more open to the kind of advice being discussed here than men. How or why you get to the point of offering advice at all is a different matter.

As for OP, unless they were already participating in my group ride it would need to be a matter of imminent serious injury to be a good reason to speak up!

ask if they mind if I say something about what they are doing - or would they rather I kept schtum? This allows them to be in control of the situation.

Yes - but they can at least avoid my pearls of wisdom 8)

Another thing, never offer advice to anyone in front of someone else unless they ask for it or are dangerous.