[Closed] Apologies, regret and trying to put things right.

Hi Ian,

Takes time to get things straight in your head, as well as in your physical life.

I don't remember "your" thread and I can't find it - did you have a different username then ?

Yeah, I must have, I looked in my history and it must have been my old one

How many years back op? Any idea of your user name back then.

Also want to say, very glad you and yours are in a better place.

This forum is very, very special on occasion. 👍

Rings a bell, wasn’t Scotroutes was it?
I know it was one of the longer serving members of the forum who was also appears to be a good chap.

Scotroutes

Yeah I believe it was, is he still on here? Thank you guys.

I still battle everyday but the boys give me focus and a need to survive. I can’t remember who it was who told me about CBT either but that made such a difference.

If there is anyone going through anxiety and depression please don’t let it define you. Reach out, seek help and talk.

Yes I take a pill everyday now, and I have coping tactics that still need breaking but without the advice I got and the help I’ve since received I can honestly say I wouldn’t be here making this apology.

I too think it was Scotroutes. Glad you’re in a better place OP

Yes, scotroutes is very much still on here. He is probably doing doing some insanely long ride today or such.😁

As for what you mention in your last post,I couldn't agree more.

Was it this thread?

No, here's the original thread

Good to hear you're now in a better place

Riderdown, glad to hear there is an explanation for it all (they are my forks and seat pin iirc).

It was Scotroutes that organised the whole thing but I think he’s out on CL thang atm.

I’ll drop I’m an email to let him know.

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Ah Metalheart then a massive thank you to you as well and a heartfelt apology from someone who wished he could have put things right earlier.

If we can maybe all chose a charity to put the money to that would be amazing. I’d really like to try and support someone else going through a hard time. By no means am I out the other side but I’m in a much better place for my boys and me

riderdown, if it helped you when you were in a dark place then that’s all the thanks that personally I need. I’ve no 26” bike to fit them to so no issue for me...

Scotroutes has sentimental attachment to the “onion” so he no doubt will be pleased with its return.

So glad your situation has improved.

I just hope he can forgive me for the amount of time it’s taken and the lack of contact. Hopefully now I can get it back to him and he can forgive me.

“Mistakes are forgivable if you have the courage to admit them” - Bruce Lee.

Scotroutes is a decent sort. Everybody loves a happy ending 🙂

Scotroutes is a decent sort. Everybody loves a happy ending 🙂

You saying he's more Thai bike than Ti bike?

I heard he's busy at watersports today.🌊

Good to see you, I don’t think scotroutes will be bothered at all and just glad you’re ok

First of all, Ian - glad to hear you are through (some of) your troubles. If my loaner was in any way a help in that, then any delay in getting it back to me is completely forgivable.

As metalheart says, the frame has much sentimental value for me so I'll be glad to have it back. I'll also be glad to return other bits to their original owners - something I'd felt a bit guilty about.

A charitable donation is a nice idea. I was out "riding" earlier today, trying to do the Cairngorms Loop 300. I abandoned on account of the river crossings getting a bit too dodgy

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but I'm aware that those in the Mountain Rescue Teams put themselves at risk on a regular basis for those of us "enjoying" the outdoors, so I'd like to nominate the Cairngorms Mountain Rescue Team, if that's OK with you.

https://cmrt.org.uk/

PM me (yes, there's a PM function now) and we can arrange delivery etc,

Thanks for stepping up to this, not easy after such a delay.

Colin

Hi Colin. I think the mountain rescue would be a fantastic place for me to donate.

The loaner helped more than you can ever imagine and knowing I’d let those down who had helped me through some on my toughest times made running away the cowards approach to the situation.

I can’t wait to get the bike back to you, I’ll never forget what it meant to me when it arrived and gave me the escape I needed.

I didn’t even know you could pm. I’ll look now an sort how we can get the bike back to you.

Wheres the 'like' button, is it somewhere on Dracs iPad because I caanot locate it on my laptop?

See, this is why I'd be bloody upset if this forum ever disappeared.👍

Riderdown,
Are you still near Stockport? If so, I might be able to get it back as far as Perth if it helps Scotroutes?

I don't need the cranks back.

Hi, I am stockport still mate.

I’m not sure where or how close that would get it but I really appreciate the offer.

Are you still near Stockport? If so, I might be able to get it back as far as Perth if it helps Scotroutes?

I’m in Perth and travel around a bit so could probably get it close to wherever scotroutes is.

It would be amazing to get it back via the forum so I know it’s safe.

It’s up to Colin though, if he’d rather me box it up I can too.

Thank you everyone

Great, we can wait for Scot routes response, then go from there 🙂

I genuinely hope everything works out for everyone involved.

Best thread for a very long time.

Glad you’re coping, @riderdown. I sympathise with your struggle. Just never stop calling out for help if you need it.

Brilliant.

I cant recall the thread that originated, but this is just the thing that makes this forum. In times of need... there are some great people on here.

Wish you and yours all the very best Riderdown.

See, this is why I’d be bloody upset if this forum ever disappeared.👍

This 👍

Quirky place but amazing community when people are in need and pretty honest bunch.

I'm Bolton n spend alot of time up in Ae and Dumfries so can get it that far

A massive thank you to the people offering to help get the bike back to Colin.

I’d love to get this arranged and get it back to him as soon as possible.

If there is anyone who can help get it from here back to him that would be amazing.

I don’t mind delivering it t as far as needed if there are people heading up to near him in Aviemore.

Thank you again everyone

I've just read this and the original threads. I'm not crying, but my eyes are a little moist ... LOOK, I'M NOT CRYING, OK?

I'm glad I found this place. Well done to everyone involved. And riderdown: congratulations, and glad to read you're in a better place.

If you can get it to Perth, I’ll drive it up to Aviemore on my day off. 🙂

This has made my morning!

It's great to feel a weight off your shoulders.

Ian, any progress on this? I have this weird notion of setting the bike up singlespeed for pootling about in the winter. I think I still have some spiky 26" tyres in the garage.

Lets hope Ian is as genuine as he made us all think as 3 weeks have passed and I'd of expected to have seen this back with it's owner .it's all good and well posting and offering £25 for charity but if it was me I'd be wanting to sort this out and I'd of ensured the bike was back with it's owner .
Not good .I hope to be proved wrong

3 years has passed quick...

glad to see your in a better place now. The offer of s ride still stands, always will.

l’ll almost certainly be heading to Perth From New mills in November dates TBC but probably about the 8th  if that’s any help getting a bike back up north...

Has someone PMed him as he might not be checking the forum?

If it helps I can do the Stockport to Perth leg on Friday 18th Oct. I will check this thread again closer to the time to see if it's needed (will be working in Wilmslow, live in Clacks).

Has someone PMed him as he might not be checking the forum?

Yep. Done that too. Thought I'd post on the thread in case there was an issue with PMs. .

My offer still stands for the Perth to Aviemore leg, I get Sunday’s and Monday’s off, but with enough notice I can take a day off to fit around people’s schedules.

Don't be so quick to accuse someone.

If you're a calm rational sorted person, or even if you are just mostly that, you will never understand what it's like to struggle to get things done. Sometimes you just can't face doing the things you need to do, sometimes there is just way too much pressure in your life and you can't handle it even though you tell yourself you can.

And other times people's lives just blow up anyway and they don't log onto STW. Don't ration your compassion. Ask yourself 'what would Jesus do?'

molgrips ^^^ +1000

What molgrips said.

+1

Agree with MG. Absolutely not knocking anybody's generosity but in this sort of situation I'd only give something never lend.

I can see people's frustration here. I dont know anyone involved, and that is a moderatung influence for me.

People have been v v generous, and the return of the OP seemed to promise much. However i know from personal experience that although i have a veneer of order and control, my emotions and life can be pretty chaotic which would prevent me fulfilling peoples expectations.

Just thinking out loud, and i accept my expectations would be different if i had loaned something....

Ian

Yep I don't see how the op had anything to gain by posting this thread as I suspect the lenders of the parts had already long thought the worst.

I think his intentions were truthful but life happens. I'm still holding out hope it all gets resolved.

Nicely said molgrips

+1 Molgrips.
Mods could you remove bigbuds post? there is no report button on that post so I guess it has already been reported??

Somebody has been on the brink and been helped out a bit by a few generous forum bods, don't reverse that help bigbud. Being on the edge of life is not an easy place to ever recover from so don't assume anything.

OP if you're still reading, take it easy and don't get stressed or bogged down about the return, It will work out in the end no doubt.

I think everyone knows whats going on bigbud, it is important that we do not write people off just because they cannot meet our expectations.

I for one would like to thank Colin for his generosity. Such a thoughtful considerate thing to do.

Also you lot are wonderful for organising the return of the bike.

bunny hop x

I'm not getting the scorn being poured on Big-bud, I don't think he's said anything to controversial. I get the OP has his struggles and I think the generosity of stw'ers is something wonderful. So is it actually too much to expect the OP to pop the bike back in the post back to Colin? It would probably then end up with someone else who could do with that support. It seems reasonable to assume the OP sorted himself another bike from his posts, so just send it back?

I think I can offer a solution to the logistics here, I’m going to be in Cheshire around the 10th, 11th 12th 13th 14th and 15th of November I don’t mind driving to Stockport to collect the bike.

I’ll then be back in Perth around the 18th or 19th and have until the 25th off of work, meaning I can deliver it to Aviemore anytime between the 19th to the 25th.

There are some tremendous people on this forum (including Colin who sent me some tyres for my lads bike for nowt!). I hope the OP can find a way to use these kind offers to get the bike returned.

Has there been any update on this yet? It only seems fair that scotroutes gets his frame back.

The update is, I've spoken to the OP and I will be collecting the bike and delivering it to Colin within the dates outlined in my post above.

All being well Colin will have his bike back mid/end November.

Great result mate.👍

Well done Pik n Mix.

And well done scotroutes - you did a kind thing. I hope the difficulty in getting your bike back hasn't soured it for you.

Nice work Pik n Mix!

I'll be in the Bolton area on Tuesday/Wednesday next week and then up in Aviemore in the next couple of weeks. I'm happy to collect and deliver if it helps anyone.
Edit - Pik N Mix, I'm also in Perth and have a place in Aviemore which I'll be visiting in the next couple of weeks. If you want me to save you the joy of the A9, PM me.

I’ll be in the Bolton area on Tuesday/Wednesday next week and then up in Aviemore in the next couple of weeks. I’m happy to collect and deliver if it helps anyone.

Thanks for the offer. Pik n Mix will be picking it up and taking to Perth and I'll pop down there to get it, so it looks like we're already covered.

Thanks for the offer. Pik n Mix will be picking it up and taking to Perth and I’ll pop down there to get it, so it looks like we’re already covered.

The offer is there to bring it up to Aviemore if you don't need to venture south.
Geoff

Hi all,

I wasn’t ignoring or not posting I was just trying to sort things out and make sure the bike got to Colin safely.

I’ve actually been speaking to a number of people and 2 collections fell through but I can’t thank people enough. I’ve shared my number with the people who need me as I don’t get on here very often.

Thanks for those who didn’t write me off and to those who did you had every right.

I hope soon it will be my turn to help others like they have me.

I need to thank you OP, I now have a legitimate excuse to not stay at my Mums for the whole week,

Chin up fella, and I’ll see you in November.

Don't know how but I've missed this until now.
Glad your in a much better place now OP and well done to those that have helped.
Hand claps and thumbs up all round!

I’m so glad this story has a happy ending

It already has a happy ending - look at the linked threads. The OP has a bairn and is managing his life. Anything about me getting a bike back is, comparatively, trivial.

Note to self, don't borry anything from big bud.

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like button here too.

Well done to all concerned - heartwarming stuff *like*

@granny_ring
Again maybe I'm just the scapegoat here but I only deal in facts
Talking which mid Nov is it back yet

Drove down to Cheshire today and it’s getting picked up on Saturday. 🙂

BIg BUd - time to invoke Hattersleys rule " when in a hole stop digging"

All ready here for collection tomorrow, massive thank you to those helping from the start of my journey to where I am today.

On my part mistakes have been made and time has passed far quicker than I imagined. Priorities became blurred and I hope to be on my path to better place for me and my family.

Pik N Mix, thank you so much and for keeping others updated whilst I’ve been away.

Scotroutes, from the bottom of my heart and my families for what it meant, thank you. For everything.

@riderdown, don't worry, just keep doing the right thing. This forum is huge and, like anywhere else on the Internet, will have people who look for ways to drag others down. Ignore what those people say, you'll lose nothing.

As you've found, and I've been really heartened to learn about through this thread, there's MUCH more goodwill and good intent here than most people ever realise. And some of us have been through darker places than we ever normally talk about, so this is a good place we can help each other out when that happens.

I'm so glad you're pointing in a good direction now and I hope that continues.

The bike has now been collected by Pik N Mix.

Amazing getting to meet him today and he got to meet my little boys too and see my family. I’m humbled by the help and support I’ve received on this sit,

Nearly 3 years ago I opened up about what had been destroying me and if I hadn’t I don’t know where I would be.