[Closed] Am I being a bit of a self absorbed tool?

You are awesome. If they can't handle that just beat them to death with your massive cock and move on.

Yes. You are thinking about this way too much.

Blokes just don't say nice things to each other, I would be most concerned if any of my mates ever said (anything along the lines of) 'good effort'.

So, respectfully...stop being such a princess.

I didn't read any of that, but yes you are.

You've won if they call you a ****. That's how it works.

Is this a trap ?

you've bought a 650 haven't you

Yes

Blokes just don't say nice things to each other

^^That's about it ^^

Man up 😛

You're on the internet slagging your mates. Yes you are being a tool!

Half a beer and a shower later, I read my own post and slap my self.

Yes.

Frankly all three of you sound a bit insecure.

Another vote for "being a cock"

Frankly all three of you sound a bit insecure.

They are mountain bikers 😉

If you have to ask.......

Incidentally, do said mates come on here? Do they know your username? Isn't that going to be a bit awkward?

Is this a trap ?
you've bought a 650 haven't you

I may be bemoaning my mates ont' Web but I do have a soul.

Blokes just don't say nice things to each other

My question is how/why were you better than them tonight?

I make a point of riding with slower people... makes me feel like a riding god.

Oh... well done by the way.

You're thinking about this way too much. Surely the private, inwardly smug feeling you get when you're better than your mates is enough?

This is like one of those letters to MBR, you should write in.

Yes, by the way

dangeourbrain - Member

so been repeated mention of my being too lazy & unfit and not doing enough practice for the Glentress 7 at the end of the month.

And this is why I'm soloing 😆

😯

What have you done on Strava though?

Like

my first thought when I read the title was he's been out on the rodie.

Am I being a bit of a self absorbed tool?

Sir ,you have found the perfect media platform to ask,but you really should have posted in the chat section. 🙂

he complained he couldn't match my gearing and on the whole both spent the whole evening after I left themon the first climb complaining about tire pressures, shock pressures drive train comparisons and inefficiencies

Are there MTB rules? If there are, then one of them should be NEVER blame your equipment if you get your ass handed to you... YOU choose and maintain the equipment, if it is holding you back, YOU are at fault.

As is fair I'm usually ribbed a lot when I'm having an off day, plenty of "man the **** up" and similarly helpful suggestions.

Of late there has also been repeated mention of my being too lazy & unfit and not doing enough practice for the Glentress 7 at the end of the month.

So the rub is this, Mr blowing out of his back super two ten mile runs and two rides a week was rather short with me when I suggested he man up

If he canny take what he gives, he DOES need to MTFU. Or you need to get new mates.

Are there MTB rules?

3 I think

1) Don't be a dick
2) Stop Overthinking stuff
3) See 1 & 2

*1)Makes mental note never to go riding with dangeourbrain and his 'mates'.

*2) Carries on with life

What a bunch of little girls!

Nothing worse than being chatted merrily to while struggling up a hill. I bet you had that smug smile on your face that only you can do so smugly when they showed up at the bottom of the hill. I'm surprised they didn't challenge you to a dual.

OP do you have much of a life outside bicycles?

You have friends?

Contrary to the above, I think it would have been nice if someone had said something.

I would try and pay a compliment in that situation.

APF

Yes

In my group, having a bad day is matter of fact. If someone having a good day we might say 'you're fast today' or congratulate them on riding something well, or shout encouragement if they're hitting something really well. If someone is having a bad day they'll usually apologise for being a bit crap, which is usually met with 'It's all riding isn't it?'

We're not competing with each other - the challenge is the hill and the obstacles we tackle.

We've had people ride with us who are like you and your chums and tbh, both sides of what you describe detract from being out with your mates having a good time, so what gives?

How about enter a proper race and see how you get on? Your completely entitled to be smug git when your standing up there on the podium....otherwise you're out for a social ride with your mates, it's not really a competition is it?

Are you on drugs?

Blokes saying nice things to each other? Sweet baby jesus and the orphans! You'll be suggesting we start sending each other birthday cards next.

Oooooo - have you done something different with your hair today? It looks nice

You are awesome. If they can't handle that just beat them to death with your massive cock and move on.

Is there a giff for that !!!

I would say yes just because this thread exists.

My view is is if your mates are having an off day you turn the crank that little bit harder and ask them if they are ok - you can see the hate in their eyes - nothing better than that IMO.

Normally this is what they do to me - sends me crazy.

Surely this dynamic goes on all the time!

Fasthaggis, quite correct. Unfortunately I'm not capable of moving it after I posted and was too dumb to click the right option before I did.

Mbnut - Member
My question is how/why were you better than them tonight?

Tempting as it is to say because I'm awesome or some such, I had a good night plain and simple, some (more) nights I have bad ones where even a curb fills me with trepidation and every pedal stroke is an effort.

We're entered for a few actual races this year, I'll be pleased enough with not being fully humiliated so long as I finish.

My last race outing was cx race on a full sus, I managed a whole lap without being lapped by anyone and I made it across the line at the end, enough for me to feel like I'd tried hard and be happy with the result.

It is/was a friendly night ride and no more, smug face/feeling would rather defeat the whole point of that and there in is the point. I don't want to sit there grinning inwardly thinking "yeah I'm a riding god" (its not true by the way, I'm probably way below average at best). Rather for the same reason is good to ride with people who will rib/encourage when you're struggling its good when you're doing well to have those same people say well done, interesting line choice, slow down or whatever, so I can dissipate my smugness rapidly, same as talking about how rubbish I'm doing makes me feel better about that and helps me to get over being so rubbish quicker (some times, I have been known to wallow occasionally). Its very childish to desire recognition I know but hey that's the way I work.

I suspect you are thinking about this way too much - that's from someone who thinks about things way too much!

Move on - though the post is interesting in as much as you come at it from the opposite angle from nearly every rider I know - no we don't want accidents, if someone is ill they get taken home etc etc, apart from that it's work them over if you can.

he complained he couldn't match my gearing and on the whole both spent the whole evening after I left themon the first climb complaining about tire pressures, shock pressures drive train comparisons and inefficiencies and the fact that I had fresh legs and they have done various other exercising things this week (

sounds like he had some sand in his foofoo

your response to the whinging should have been to say "suck it up, buttercup" then repeatedly drop him for the rest of the ride and when you finish say "anybody else fancy another cheeky lap before heading home?"

(at least that's what my 'mates' do to me 😆 )

Too many non competitive sports days as a child I think.

Not that they were supposed to be mind, just that I was the fat kid who invariably came last in everything.

I've been getting a reputation for being good up hills and I've been blaming it on the 650b wheels.

Then I was out with the kids at the weekend and realised that when you're used to having to cycle pushing a three year old up every hill, then a hill when you don't have to push a three year old up it is so much easier.

And that's a training tip you can have for free.

Then I was out with the kids at the weekend and realised that when you're used to having to cycle pushing a three year old up every hill, then a hill when you don't have to push a three year old up it is so much easier.

tag a longs are good too you get an extra 40Kg of towage.

You have the friends you deserve. And they do too.

OP, Can you please post up a video of how to repair a puncture? Maybe have some EPO in the shot.
I'm sure the females of the shire all queue at your door hoping for your seed.

It is/was a friendly night ride and no more

Sounds really friendly. 😕

I often ride in a group and there is constant chatter of all kinds, but we always wait at the top for the last person and at the bottom for the last person.

Serious ribbing waits for the pub 🙂

There are only two permissable forms of commentry on your ridding buddies performance and they are as follows.

>ahem<

GUUUWWWWAAAAHHHRRRRN - when they are doing well

And

YAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH (accompnaied with pejorative hand gesture) - when not doing so well.

HTH

tag a longs are good too you get an extra 40Kg of towage.

Not to mention the 20kg of extra crap in the rucksack that you have to carry when cycling with kids "just in case"

[q]complained he couldn't match my gearing and on the whole both spent the whole evening after I left themon the first climb complaining about tire pressures, shock pressures drive train comparisons and inefficiencies and the fact that I had fresh legs and they have done various other exercising things this week (things they have done every week for over a year so should show some benefit from/resilience to by now?)[/q]

He does sound like a tool

was rather short with me when I suggested he man up

You hit the spot. Good job!

Am I being a bit of a self absorbed tool?

www.singletrackworld.com/forum

Only as much as everybody else on here. Which means yes.

I really dislike willy waving, turns good people into nobbers, ruins the confidence of lessers which in turn worsens their riding.

What are the best times riding, or even in life? With mates, relaxed, no egos, congratulating each other on each other on their achievements and hard work. The positivity brings out the best in everyone, everyone rides better and has more fun.

I really detest that society congratulates put downs and generally demeaning behaviour, far slower to reward hard work and good people.

darkcyan - Member

My view is is if your mates are having an off day you turn the crank that little bit harder and ask them if they are ok - you can see the hate in their eyes - nothing better than that IMO.

Normally this is what they do to me - sends me crazy.

DC... I love this comment! 😉