[Closed] Relationship advice dealing with breakup

Sanding her table? 😯

Was it not possible in the last 10 years to move in with your soul mate and sand her table for her?

To varnish.

Sorry but I've felt tortured with worry about her wellbeing etc.
Now she couldn't give a to$$ about us.

Just out of the blue and stressful period at work.

We live in different cities due to work.

Just been quoted on a new carbon frame...

Genius made me lol and lol and lol 😉

"if you like it, then you shoulda put a ring on it"

she was busy sanding her table

Never heard if called that before.

TBH, if my "super close soul mate of ten years" disappeared and I thought she was dead, I'd have turned up on her doorstep after 24 hours, rather than bemoaning the lack of Internet chat a fortnight later. She's probably pissed off that you've been together for ten years and still live in different cities.

You've got two options.

1) Go see her. The only situation in which you end a ten year relationship by text message is when you're breaking up because you've hit puberty.

2) Fill your boots whilst you're single, chalk it off to experience and buy a new bike.

are you 12?

It's often difficult when the two live i different cities and the main form of communication is either by phone or text. I have had a couple of long distant relationships that have failed, but that's life. The distance allows each partner to develop their own hobbies and eventually grow apart. This might be a test of the strength of the relationship, if you love someone, set them free, etc... You need to be strong.

In short, to answer your question. Have you tried [url= http://www.ribblecycles.co.uk/pp/road-track-bike/Road-Bike-Frames/FRAR ]Ribble?[/url]

I did go to her house daily, contacted her family who said she was fine with them.

She won't talk about it and ignores any correspondence.

I did chat today and she acted if nothing was wrong and couldn't give a dam.
I went AWOL camping and she called the police and my parents after a day.

MTFU and moving on. Merida frame on offer

Can't help you on the relationship advice.
Have you tried [url= http://reboundcycle.com/ ]
Rebound Cycles[/url] ?

Carpenters are notoriously bad at relationships, they often have a chip on their shoulder meaning commitment is hard. Your effort was probably the glue which held you together, but you can't hammer away forever. I'd cut your losses, move on, start afresh and chisel out a new life.

*applause*

I did go to her house daily

Was she out?

I went AWOL camping and age called the police and my parents after a day.

Maybe she just doesn't understand what you are saying. I know I don't ...

Capt jon i like your plane way of speaking

Lol

(She was never home...)

Cutting my losses but 10 years jeebers!

Life experience I guess.

My heart is splintered...

thread of the week already!

Carpenters are notoriously bad at relationships

Yes - they get saw very easily.

Sometimes it's hard for two people's lives to dovetail.

It really goes against the grain....

Maybe she's gone off blokes completely and is looking for some tongue & groove action?

I feel like a plank

A common interest?
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You can ride and she can sand your tube.

Probably she does not feel that you woo(e)d her prooperly.

You can ride and she can sand your tube.

A girl with a talent like that is worth keeping hold of.

Although she must have a vice?

Priorities first...

Has she got any of your bikes round her place? If so - legal advice re access to them may be needed.

Re question in your OP. Buying the Shiney Thing always helps.

Have you both been faithful to each other over the last10 years? Mahogany can be hard after that long.

Maybe she's gone off blokes completely and is looking for some tongue & groove action?

Thanks for cheering me up folks! 🙂

At first I felt like the last nail had been hammered in the coffin but now realise
wood can be rubbed up and down till you feel like a new man...

No point trying to repair dead wood.

Going to Order a new Merida road frame £859
After work.

Hi,

I'm more than happy to copse off with your ex to help her get over the relationship.

Yours obliging,

Yeti.

(e-mail in profile)

but now realise
wood can be rubbed up and down [u]till you feel like a new man[/u]...

Hey, maybe she's just got board and started screwing around. You could mope around pining for her, or go and find a hot chick to nail.

Sorry Yeti but deleted her details now and moving on.

You're welcome to her!

Hope you oakay after the split, OP

I wood recommend a road bike to help, a boardman 😉

Ah well, never mind. Sounds like you should sycamore open relationship next time.

LOL@ jokes although they are a bit wooden...

Yep

Life's a Beech...

stop pineing and move on.

its plane to see you need a new bike

mdftfu

OP was just barking up the wrong tree, the sap. He's done the right thing in leafing her, now that he's got to the root of the problem he can branch out into pastures new. Find a nice girl without such oakward living arrangements.

mdftfu

YES! *high five*

mdftfu

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Thinking about this relationship, there really is no point weeping like a willow. I've really no idea what you're on about in some of those (wooden) posts either, but maybe her bark's worse than her bite and she's just trying to make you feel saw? I'll put ten-on that being the problem.

lol! @ mdftfu

A new bike will make you beam, but something that is knot often considered is, do you have the parqueting space for a new bike?

Sounds like she was a right beech!...or maybe knot? don't make such a big deal out of it, you'll be oak-ay.

If the love has varnished from your relationship, you can't just gloss over it.

Where's she from? Is she Polish?

Is she Polish?

As an aside, when I was learning Reverse Polish Notation at college, we took to referring to it as "Egdelp."

As you were.

Yew sound like yew need to turn over a new leaf. Pining after a girl can just make you sickermore. It's not healthy. There's bound to be someone acer out there.

Was she Dutch? Just worth checking your 'elm fir disease. I hear redwood's a common symptom.

Then again, I'm knot sure what I wood do in your situation. But it's always good to spruce up your bike. Just don't cypress your emotions. Sorry, I'm just a sap when it comes to these things. I can relate to being in a logterm relationship and the intimacy that comes with.

(Upgrade your bike and move on, she's not treating you with respect)

She's just rang me to say she has used a hammer to my
Spesh carbon road bike and burned all my clothes.

Accused me of not spending enough time with her and I love the bike more than her?!

Wtf?!

To be fair, I accused you of that and I've never met you. So she's probably right.

Still, on the upside, you'll be needing a new bike.

Spesh carbon road bike

she's done you a favour mate...go get a mans bike

 

I haven't laughed this much in ages! Thank you STW! Although I am sorry for the OP, I woodn't want to be in his clogs right now

Better off, I reckon. It's plane you're knot meant to be together. Branch out.

The bike insurance wants pictures of my crashed bike... 🙁

I shall be visiting this weekend and spending more time babysitting the
Murderer of my bike :/

Does the insurance cover "death by aggrieved chippie" then?

Frankenstein - Member

She's just rang me to say she has used a hammer to my
Spesh carbon road bike and burned all my clothes.

Accused me of not spending enough time with her and I love the bike more than her?!

Wtf?!

I would have preferred her breaking plates.

An old girlfriend of mine once kicked in the side of my car (Mini 1275GT) saying that I loved that more than I loved her.

She was right though.

The response to which is, of course, "well, I do now, you loony."

Once an old GF was watching polish my new Cove and said do I have competition?

I said no competition at all (looking at my bike).

We broke up 2 weeks later.

Cheque please.

Ah wait a minute. Rusty cogs turn slowly...think I've seen this before! 8)

Maybe your mates wood chip in for a new one?

My wife gave me the "me or the bike" ultimatum......I don't miss her.

Whats her name, Teressa?

Dear me, these carpenter puns are awful! I thought that we'd stopped, but it now looks like we've only just begun.

Charlie I knew you wouldn't be able to resisit this thread. You're Amazon at this word play lark.

Only yesterday you were in a relationship, but you're single now. Looks like solitaire's the only game in town. I guess you've said goodbye to love, but remember that if you're feeling bad, rainy days and Mondays always get you down.

Oooh! Well done nickf, I mean I'm good at my carpenters puns, but I'll never get close to you!

I reckon this is a wind up. The OP posts just aren't believable.

I reckon this is a wind up. The OP posts just aren't believable.

Dont worry! Things can still be a laugh, even if they arent real.

Oooh! Well done nickf, I mean I'm good at my carpenters puns, but I'll never get close to you!

I was really trying to get Calling Occupants Of Interplanetary Craft in there, but I just couldn't make it fit....

You need to take half an inch off the bottom.

davidtaylforth - Member

I reckon this is a wind up. The OP posts just aren't believable.

Dont worry! Things can still be a laugh, even if they arent real.

Mmmmm...well in that case I've got a foot of 2 by 1 that she could probably use!

dooosuk - Member

I reckon this is a wind up. The OP posts just aren't believable.

Nope, it's all true, the mad bint wanted more attention and she certainly got it after smashing my bike.

She attacked the most thing I love but don't get me wrong I'm not all heartless, she's just spoiled and used to my 110% attention and one week I get super busy- bang.

Even accused me of sleeping with someone except my teddy. I thought our relationship was oak solid but this shows how it can be shaken up.

The jokes on here really helped me unwind and relax, look at the funny side, see how annoyed I was and sort it out.

Thanks guys. No it isn't over but I'll try to fix things with some wood glue.

And you can keep your help in your pants you desperate people 😆

(She is more important than the bike but only just)

I don't feel hungry after listening to those songs either. 🙂

Accused me of not spending enough time with her and I love the bike more than her?!

She attacked the most thing I love

Sounds like she was right.

Did you start dating at 6 and now you're both 16yrs old?

If not I'd run and avoid patching up...anyone who would smash up a bike with a hammer without trying to talk things through first (after 2 weeks on non contact of her doing) needs help.

Have you seen your bike yet? Is she winding you up? Seems like you've already rang the insurance company without seeing it (which is very quick and bizarre behaviour by you ...if you ask me).

In seriousness,

It sounds like you both need to reassess the situation, and you both need to talk to each other. Taking the hump is one thing, avoiding you for a fortnight (and you not finding her) is another. You said it was out of the blue, then later you said you "got busy" - was she ignoring you because you were ignoring her? It doesn't completely add up.

Generally the thing to do in the first instance when you're not happy with a relationship is to talk to your partner. Setting fire to clothing and taking a hammer(*) to possessions is the act of someone who's just caught their partner hanging out of the back of their sister. I'd be questioning why it's got to that stage, and if it's genuinely out of the blue then it's time to move on.

(* and chisel)

I wasn't ignoring her, I still called her etc but not 4 times a day and then she vanished.

She was ignoring me to get more attention or sulking I don't know but if she won't talk about things then I will ask/drag her to counselling etc.

I've never cheated on her and I always call to listen to her day when I get 5 mins or driving (handsfree) etc.

I do get the vibes' she is happier and talking but I feel something else triggered it and I have no idea what caused it yet but it was aimed at me or my bike.

It's not hunky dory for a long while but I am willing to make it work now she is talking.

it's only a ****ing bike

...and then she vanished.

Like an old oak table.
😉

Cougar - Member
OP was just barking up the wrong tree, the sap. He's done the right thing in leafing her, now that he's got to the root of the problem he can branch out into pastures new. Find a nice girl without such oakward living arrangements.
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Lol - that is the work of a wordsmith